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Am I wrong to think this??
If there are other adults in a room then you would think they would also be watching your child to not let them fall - esp if it's a grandparent??
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Re: Am I wrong to think this??
It depends.
Say we're at a party at someone else's house - someone is "assigned" to keep their eye on Andrew 24/7. I'm going to keep a close eye on him unless someone specifically says "why don't you go and visit, I'll watch Andrew for a while". Otherwise adults in conversation might not really be watching him very closely. He cannot be left alone with all the dangers of an un-babyproofed house, and I can't assume someone will be there to catch him fall, or catch him if he does anything dangerous.
Our house is babyproofed, so we let him roam. We don't follow him around making sure he does not fall, but, he also never falls and there isn't really anything dangerous for him.
And by "fall", we don't follow him around making sure he doesn't just fall, but we would be careful, for example, if there were stairs & no gate, or a brick fire place, or something like that.
But we can't keep him from just randomly falling!
Unless we've specifically asked a grandparent (or other adult) to watch Ella while we're out of the room or out of the house, it's not their responsibility to hover.
Then again, Ella falls all the time and it really doesn't bother me. Stairs are a different story, but if there are stairs around I always make sure to specifically designate someone to watch her if I have to be out of the room.
Seriously, kids fall. It's no big deal.
Was he supposed to catch Clark from falling?
Do you really follow Clark around to keep him from just falling?
He has to learn. Sorry but that isn't feasible. Remove any obvious safety hazards and do what you can, but, you can't keep him from falling down once in a while...
That's what I told myself at the time but the more I thought about it ..it kinda annoyed me and DH's reaction was a stare at me like what the H*LL just happened?!? I need to get over the fact that he is going to fall
This exactly. Honestly I look at it as them learning too. For instance, Jalen will climb everything! He was climbing on a storage plastic drawer and fell. He learned his lesson to not climb up there again. Now he is afraid he is going to fall.
This exactly. Honestly I look at it as them learning too. For instance, Jalen will climb everything! He was climbing on a storage plastic drawer and fell. He learned his lesson to not climb up there again. Now he is afraid he is going to fall.
I guess I didnt like that my dad was right there and didnt know what happened?!?! I get that he may fall but when Clark was holding onto the bottom of my dad's chair with his face on the floor crying and you dont know what happened made me a little annoyed. I was fine with it at the time because falls do happen but DH gave me this death stare like my dad was the devil for letting him fall!
I hate to say it, but grandpas just don't always have that instinct to be cognizant of then kiddos and their whereabouts.
Now my SIL, on the other hand, is like super protective and will hover like crazy. I told her last week to chill out or she'll give herself a panic attack if she ever has kids (this is not the same SIL that is having T-TTC, FTR).
Your dad did nothing wrong. It's hard to catch kids when they fall, they fall too fast.
If DH did that I would just look at him and say firmly, "Clark is fine" so he does not blame your dad and he can get used to the idea that falling is OK.
There are times that my kids cry and I have no idea what just happened.
That was my reaction but the more I thought about it today I thought maybe I was wrong in thinking that!!
Ditto - the only time I expect someone else to watch Olivia is if I specifically say, "I'm leaving the room, please keep an eye on O." It's not their responsibility to make sure your child doesn't fall.
And they will fall. A lot. I don't even jump, it happens so often.
It would be one thing if she or her H asked us to watch them, but they just expect us to. There have been MANY times that they just walk out of the room/house and J and I look at each other like "what the hell just happened".
Ditto this. DD has been trying to walk and falls fairly frequently. I can't be there to catch her 24/7. Yesterday my mom babysat (as she always does when I work) and apparently DD faceplanted on some hard carpeted floor. She's got some small scratches on her forehead from it. To add to it, a couple days ago she tried to crawl over a closed drying rack and hit her right chin so she has a bruise there too.
There's only so much you can do to catch them, even if you're standing right there
ETA: I don't specifically assume anyone is watching DD unless they take her from me (ie like my mom does) or they offer to watch her.
Eh, maybe I'm just more lax about it but I don't see it as that big of a deal. Kids fall... a lot. Zander will walk/run, trip over himself and face plant. He's also a climber and will literally climb everything from chairs to tables to moving something so he can climb on it so that he can get on top of a ledge or table. And because of that, he falls. Letting him fall (sometimes controlling the fall so that he doesn't get hurt from falling down the stairs or falling on his head off something very high) is really the only way I've been able to show him that climbing on everything is not a great idea.
As far as other people watching him, I wouldn't expect anyone other me or DH to be responsible for making sure he doesn't get hurt or fall unless I explicitly say "I'm leaving the room, can you watch him." Other people don't know him as well so they don't know what he's going to do. I usually know what he's going to do before he does it and I am aware at how fast he is capable of doing it. Unless we're somewhere that's not babyproofed (i.e., glass/breakable objects within reach, un-gated stairs, etc.), I don't hover over him. He has to be able to explore, that's how kids learn.