Clicky Poll: what is your status?

Mominator

Just curious to see what we have going on here
[Poll]

DarthNBJenni

I put casually dating. I have my casual army guy, though he lives 4 hours away, and we see each other maybe once/twice a month. At the same time, I'm trying to see what's around here.

BMenz

Special snowflake:

ex(SO) and I are still really close and are working on things (acting like, looking like we're together but there's just a small piece that he has to overcome before we're "official" again)

DarthNBJenni

BMenz:

Special snowflake:

ex(SO) and I are still really close and are working on things (acting like, looking like we're together but there's just a small piece that he has to overcome before we're "official" again)

Did he break up with the man-beater? 

blondnearby

I put special snowflake because I am in Hell...regarding my marriage, separation, and divorce.  

BMenz

DarthNBJenni:

BMenz:

Special snowflake:

ex(SO) and I are still really close and are working on things (acting like, looking like we're together but there's just a small piece that he has to overcome before we're "official" again)

Did he break up with the man-beater? 

oh god. ex(SO) is NOT DB....I failed to mention that....lol

yes he did. because she wouldn't stop smoking (well that's what he says the reason why they broke up)

eta: that whole "relationship" (or whatever you call it) makes me lol

katie_cj

I picked single and loving it...but I'm probably between that and single and alone.

I'm more than happy to be broken up with my exFI, thrilled that I didn't actually marry him.

But sometimes I'm sad that I don't have someone in my life.

 

sweetie0228

I chose remarried b/c i was a former single mom for about 10 years.  I just got married in july see ticker below.

SoulfulWhim5862

I chose special snowflake as there was no box for in the process of divorce. 

muckyduck208

I chose special snowflake. I'm also in the process of divorcing. I'm almost single and lovin it!!

haleyw458

Single and alone here.

X and I were together for so long that it just feels weird to be with anybody else. I love talking to other guys, but when it comes to actually hanging out with them I seem to push them away.

I realized last night that I'm still at the point where I'm scared to let anyone else in my life. I've also become extremely picky. I mean to the point where I think I probably need to lower my standards a little bit.

roshybride

I am a lurker, but I picked special snowflake. DH and I are starting counseling due to his anger problem and verbal abuse. I'm not sure yet whether or not I'll be a single mom, but I've started to formulate Plan B in case counseling doesn't go well, which is why I've been lurking around here a bit. (I hope that's ok)

fauxshelley

I picked single and loving it. About a year ago, I was single and alone, but now I am single and HAPPY.

lilhotcandie69

BD and I have 5 years of history. Were not together right now but were working on things. We have discussed this and we wanna make things work so were doing it slowly.

blondnearby

roshybride:

I am a lurker, but I picked special snowflake. DH and I are starting counseling due to his anger problem and verbal abuse. I'm not sure yet whether or not I'll be a single mom, but I've started to formulate Plan B in case counseling doesn't go well, which is why I've been lurking around here a bit. (I hope that's ok)

You are more than welcome here.  I am a lurker on BOTB and I am sorry to hear about your situation.  It is definitely a good thing you both are starting therapy.  Hopefully it will provide you both with clarity regarding your marriage and future together. 

keychain01

[email protected]:

I picked single and loving it...but I'm probably between that and single and alone.

I'm more than happy to be broken up with my exFI, thrilled that I didn't actually marry him.

But sometimes I'm sad that I don't have someone in my life.

 

DITTO every word!

dimake

I put single and loving it because there was no option for "swearing off men because XH was such a jackass".

Nennifre

I put special snowflake.

I'm new to the board. DH cheated and we've been trying to work it out. We agreed to separate but then I kicked the wall in anger and broke my foot. He said he won't leave until my foot is better because I can't drive. But he still doesn't want to be with me.

That's making a long story short. Sometime when I get enough courage, I'll post the whole story.

keychain01

Nennifre:

I put special snowflake.

I'm new to the board. DH cheated and we've been trying to work it out. We agreed to separate but then I kicked the wall in anger and broke my foot. He said he won't leave until my foot is better because I can't drive. But he still doesn't want to be with me.

That's making a long story short. Sometime when I get enough courage, I'll post the whole story.

Take your time.....

ShanJosh777

I picked still married, but apart. But technically I'm still married and living together... for a few more days. DS and I are moving out this weekend. And I filed for divorce last November, but then we reconciled for a while. Now we will be moving forward again with the divorce.

SUNKISSD3

keychain01:

[email protected]:

I picked single and loving it...but I'm probably between that and single and alone.

I'm more than happy to be broken up with my exFI, thrilled that I didn't actually marry him.

But sometimes I'm sad that I don't have someone in my life.

 

DITTO every word!

This for me as well... although i was not engaged before but was with EX for 9 yrs..

achase123

I picked single and lovin it but I would say that it depends on what day you ask me.  Sometimes I get in a funk and get lonely.  I don't necessarily WANT to be in a committed relationship (unless it was someone really terrific) but I also get lonely for companionship/physical intimacy/someone to share my day with, etc.  I have a lot of GF's so that keeps me busy but sometimes I'm sad to go to sleep alone at the end of the night.

That being said, I like not having to answer to anyone, or worry about ticking off if I want to flirt with someone else!

kmartinez80

I picked special snowflake because I'm technically still married, but in the middle of divorce proceedings.  I should have been divorced as of October, but STBXH has refused to produce his mental health records (despite being ordered to by the judge on 3 separate occasions) and the judge won't proceed or finalize anything until she sees them and has all the facts.  I understand the judges motives, but it doesn't make it any less frustrating to still be "married" to STBXH and having to continue to pay legal fees every month and still have everything in limbo.  Grrrrr.  Vent over.

peeps61308

I fall between single and loving it and single and alone, depending on the day. I love not having to answer to anyone, but I do miss having someone around...sometimes...lol

alibabbbs

haleyw458:

Single and alone here.

X and I were together for so long that it just feels weird to be with anybody else. I love talking to other guys, but when it comes to actually hanging out with them I seem to push them away.

I realized last night that I'm still at the point where I'm scared to let anyone else in my life. I've also become extremely picky. I mean to the point where I think I probably need to lower my standards a little bit.

Haley, I do not think you should lower your standards. I think they should stay really, really high. You and your son deserve nothing but the best. 

Our past effed up relationships should teach us about what we want that is BETTER in our next relationship. Otherwise we'll just keep being in crappy ones.