So most of you know I am planning a HBAC and that I love my MWs. Well, today I went in and the main MW had this very serious look and told me she needed to talk to me about something. My heart sank. I thought she was going to kick me out of the practice, I don't know what I was expecting, but it was almost that bad.
Basically, she transferred a mom and there was a bad outcome (entirely the lazy a$$ doctor's fault for taking over an hour to get to the hospital, and the nurses who turned a stable baby into a dead baby because they didn't hold off pushing when there was obvious distress with pushing and the mom had no urge). Anyway, she told me that until this whole thing settles down she can't risk taking "high risk" (aka VBAC) moms. She said that although VBAC means nothing to her, and she was a HBAC herself, that since she works under the radar (not legalized in my state) that she was advised against it. She also said this has shaken her a lot and if she didn't need the money she may just move onto something else which is just awful b/c she did NOTHING wrong. She told me the whole story, I'm just trying not to go into it.
Anyway, she said I had a few options. The newer MW agreed to be our primary and the main MW said she may or may not be able to be at our birth depending on what happens. If she can't, another backup will go with the MW. Option 2 is to switch to the only other local MW who does VBACs, but she is known for her rough personality and I have no interest in that. Option 3 is to switch to a hospital OB or MW group - not something I want to do. Option 4 is to go to TN and go to the Farm or this MW who has a couple birthing rooms in her home.
I want to go with option 1. I am optimistic that this will blow over, but who knows. I feel like I am living a chapter out of Born in the USA. This just plain sucks. There is one other VBAC at the practice right now, and she had an appt right after me.
This whole thing has stressed me out. I'm not worried about the MW problem, I'm worried about what will happen if I need to transfer. Will people be passive aggressive with me? Will they be rough just because of the situation?
My husband was unphased by the whole thing. I think maybe I just need to cry.