update to being stressed out

littleanomaly

It's ok if you don't read all of this. I just need to vent. 

Ryan spit up twice in front of the doctor. Not just a little, but the big spit ups that soak his prefold burp cloths. He's starting new medicine tomorrow morning. I really hope it helps- the generic is $75 for 30 days. 

I feel so bad for him. After losing most of his breakfast he had his shots. His little legs are covered in Scooby Doo bandaids and when we got back from filling his prescription he just wanted to be held and he gave me these horrible little whimpers and kept staring at me like he wants to know what he did to make me be so mean to him.  Poor baby. There's going to be a lot of cuddling this afternoon.

Traveling was really rough on him this week. Every Single Day we had to take him somewhere to visit someone. We started out with DHs family and then we had to pack up and go stay at my moms. The night before we went there he had finally gotten used to sleeping in his travel bassinet at the other grandparents. My supple tanked this week too. Saturday night we had to get emergency formula. Do you have any idea what the selection is like in Nowhere Illinois? Not much. My husband said he had about 5 things to choose from. Walmart had even less.  He had 3 or 4 meals of formula but by then I managed to build my stash back a bit. I'm back on the fenugreek too, so that should help. I'm really hoping that Christmas won't be as bad on either of us.

My cat needs to go to the vet. She needs her shots updated and she's walking funny. She had a bit of a limp occasionally the week before we left for Thanksgiving and when we got back last night we noticed it was worse. I don't think she has any traction on our wood floors when she jumps off of the furniture.  

I'm feeling bad about being a SAHM. We still have plenty of money to pay bills and even have a little fun here and there but with medical bills, Christmas, cat and baby-related expenses I just feel like a selfish jerk for wanting to stay home with my kid even though I know that my income would go straight to daycare. I don't even get much housework done. My husband has been doing a lot of the cooking and he's getting a lot better, but his menu needs a bit more variety. He's a good sport about the housework too. He knows it's a lot of work to keep Fuss Bucket happy and he's not doing or saying anything to make me feel bad about not working. It's just me. 

I think I'm going to take myself out for some Me Time tonight. Even just a few hours really helps my patience level and I really miss getting out of the house as often as I used to. 

So that was my Thanksgiving week. How was yours? 

danaann78

Oh, honey, the 1st few months are the hardest, it will get better.  I promise! 

I felt the SAHM guilt, too, still do sometimes.  And honestly, as bad as Quinn's reflux was, there were days that I wanted so badly to go back to work just so I wouldn't have to change my clothes 6 times a day.  We finally found a good medication combo around 6  months and everything got so much better.  I can't even remember most of the 1st 6 months of his life I was so stressed and sleep deprived!  Once you get his medication under control the vomiting will get better and you'll start to feel better.

((hugs))

Genevieved

It is ok that your DH is picking up a lot of the work right now it takes time to figure things out when being a new mom.  Having a fussy baby doesn't help.  DD was fussy and if she didn't need to nurse I found it helpful to let DH play with her or watch her while I did some of the house work. However that was when she was closer to 4months. 

Early on I pretty much only did the laundry.  DH cooked my mom cleaned and I fed the baby and napped when the baby did.  Sometimes I even napped when the baby was up. (my mom or DH was watching her)

After trying to take our baby everywhere we just let ppl come to use when we visited.  So pick one place to stay and if ppl want to see the baby they can come to you, it cuts down on the stress a lot.

  DH's parents only live a hour and 30mins away and we make them come to use as DD doesn't nap well anywhere else but her crib now.  When she was little we went down there more often but I wish we made them come here from the strat.  They will often made a fuss about us not coming to them but we hold our ground and if they want to see their granddaughter they will have to come here.

As for being a SAHM just keep reminding yourself that daycare is a lot of money and it is about 40hours a week your child would be away from you.  I have tried to find ways to save us money (however didn't put much effort into that until DD was older and easier to care for).  The one things I know I should do more often is get someone to watch DD for an hour or two during the day every two weeks  so I can get out but I feel bad paying someone to watch her when I'm not working.  

((Hugs)) it will get better and I hope your LO starts to feel better soon

smurfetteinred

littleanomaly:

I think I'm going to take myself out for some Me Time tonight. Even just a few hours really helps my patience level and I really miss getting out of the house as often as I used to. 

I think this is the best mommy stress medicine ever for the record. I hope you have fun. 

And (((((hugs)))))