Help me with my parenting skills/patience

babyluv617

D is getting his last molar. His is horrible when teething... doesn't sleep well, misbehaves & is all around a grump. He pitches a fit at every.little.thing! I hate leaving the house bc of the tantrums. Hes' mean to his little brother, like pushing & taking toys. Time outs aren't working. Redirecting isn't working. Spending more one on one time with him isn't working.

It doesn't help that I'm exhausted since C is up 8-10 times per night. I think he's getting more teeth too. DH helps some but I'm still the one getting up about 80% of the time. 

I'm kind of lost and just looking for encouragement, I guess.

sophabelle

that sucks!!!  i think you might really need to sit down w/dh and tell him you need more help and support.  i do most of wakings w/ds and i finally just had to tell dh that i need his help.  once i did, things have gotten a lot better.  now with #2 on the way i know i'm going to need his help more than ever!  hang in there!!

Dobie_Mama

No advice, just hugs. 

nsees

Well it sounds like you are doing everything right!  Maybe this is just something that you just have to get through in one piece.  I don't have any parenting advice but as far as for patience...I think you need to be aware of the fact that you're under extra stress with these issues so you need a break!  You also need to try to get some sleep too and ask your H to help out with that.  Maybe you can come up with some sort of schedule for night time so you can get a little extra rest.  For me it's much easier to have patience when I get sleep and when I get out of the house for a break by myself...even if it's just a trip to the grocery store, sans kiddos.

Many hugs!!

papagena

(hugs)  It sounds like you've tried everything I'd have suggested - I hope it passes soon! 

Lotte134

I think the pp's hit it - work with your DH to help you get some more sleep.  I also think trying to get out here and there, even if it's just to sit and read a magazine and drink a latte for 30 minutes, would help immensely.  Oh and I'm totally not above a dose of Tylenol on days when DS is a total bear because of teething.  It does seem to take the edge off.

babyluv617

Lotte134:

I think the pp's hit it - work with your DH to help you get some more sleep.  I also think trying to get out here and there, even if it's just to sit and read a magazine and drink a latte for 30 minutes, would help immensely.  Oh and I'm totally not above a dose of Tylenol on days when DS is a total bear because of teething.  It does seem to take the edge off.

I'm all about the Tylenol or Mortin if necessary but it doesn't seem to help completely. Ugh. 

The DH thing... whole other issue I'd rather not get into. Thanks, everyone. 

Lotte134

babyluv617:

I'm all about the Tylenol or Mortin if necessary but it doesn't seem to help completely. Ugh. 

One other thought.  If you have a mesh feeder try an ice cube in it for D.  DS generally just thinks ice cubes are fun so letting him play with one buys me time anyway and when he's teething the cold in his mouth is an added bonus.  I hope things get better soon!

smurfetteinred

No advice since I feel like I turn into crappy parent extraordinaire when the high stress hits but I'm going to throw you some (((((((hugs)))))))