Does your DH still go out/drink

MommaA117

Tonight DH's co-workers and boss surprised him with a limo after work to go out on the town with the group to make up for having to work on his b-day/Thanksgiving and to celebrate. They love him at work.

About once a week he also goes to the bar across the street from work for a few drinks and darts with some of the guys.

While I am a tad jealous because I sit at home bored on Saturday nights I really don't mind.

The other day our male Best Friend and I were having a conversation on FB and he basically said he "feels for my DH" because his wife is also pregant and from what he says she hasn't been such a pleasure to be around and doesn't allow him to go out or drink. I told him "Umm you feel for him?? I'm the one posted up on the couch...he still drinks!" haha...this was all in a joking way. They he replied "I'm not gonna lie, I asked in the beginning"....

I am guessing she shot that idea down.

So I am wondering does your husband still drink occasionally? I can't imagine putting mine on lock down like his obviously has.

klv

My DH is out tonight.  Its ok with me....he goes out by himself with friends about once a month.  Doesnt bother me, not like I really feel like going anyways. 

He still has a beer or 2 when we go out to dinner as well. 

gymnst1013

Yep, he does occasionally.  Not that often but even if it were more often, it really wouldn't bother me.  A friend of mine has her husband on such a tight leash.  I feel terrible for him.  She gets so ridiculously angry with him when he stays out late.  Honestly, MH could stay out until 3 or 4 or whenever in the morning and I couldn't care less.  I'm asleep anyway so why should I care?  But she really, really does for some reason.  She insists he be home by 1am and if he's even 5 minutes late, she absolutely loses her shiit.

skidunks

Mine still does. He usually goes to friend's houses for poker nights or something like that. He'll still have drinks at home on a Saturday night and with dinner if we go out. It bothered me more with DS than it does this time, I'm not sure why. I don't really care.

MommaA117

gymnst1013:

Yep, he does occasionally.  Not that often but even if it were more often, it really wouldn't bother me.  A friend of mine has her husband on such a tight leash.  I feel terrible for him.  She gets so ridiculously angry with him when he stays out late.  Honestly, MH could stay out until 3 or 4 or whenever in the morning and I couldn't care less.  I'm asleep anyway so why should I care?  But she really, really does for some reason.  She insists he be home by 1am and if he's even 5 minutes late, she absolutely loses her shiit.

heck only thing I insist is that he stop and get me food on the way home. haha

Becky262

Nope, DH is teetotaling with me.  And BIL is doing the same for SIL.

We absolutely love drinking together and I would be even more miserable if I were stuck being his DD for 9 months.  There's a million other things that I can't do with all of our friends and family - from skiing to hanging out in the hot tub - so I'm glad I'm not stuck being sober alone.

MommaA117

Becky262:

Nope, DH is teetotaling with me.  And BIL is doing the same for SIL.

We absolutely love drinking together and I would be even more miserable if I were stuck being his DD for 9 months.  There's a million other things that I can't do with all of our friends and family - from skiing to hanging out in the hot tub - so I'm glad I'm not stuck being sober alone.

we are the same way. We always went out with friends. My SIL and BIL own the bar down the street where all our friends hang out. That makes it worse on me. My only requirement is that he keep his breath away from me when he gets home. lol.

I'll admit it is pretty misearble some nights but I think I'd rather him have a few at the bar then drinking here with me at home having to watch him. I'd be jealous

Two of our friends that are pregnant and in their second tri both drink a glass here and there when we have dinners and such. He said "well at least you have second tri". Then I had to explain to him that I will not be doing what they are...such a party pooper I am.

jgengo0

Yup He does. DH invites me every time, but like I want to go to a bar without being able to have a drink, no thanks. Tonight he had all his friends over to our house to drink. I really appreciate that he tries to include me. Even if he didn't though I honestly would not care.  He needs the man time to keep his sanity I am sure lol.

Syncronicity09

MH has never been one for going out, but he does drink at home and I don't mind. In fact hes drinking tonight while my SIL is over and playing Wii bowling with our nephew. I don't really care, I have no desire to drink so its not like I watch him drink and think about how I want one. Plus, there are so many things he does for me now that I am pregnant I don't feel the need to add restrictions or rules.

Andreabks

DH goes out on ocction, and even has one or two light ones on the weekends.  I don't mind, and even encourrage him to go out with the guys at least once a month (if not more).  Guys need guy time.  I know he's responsible and won't do it the last 2-3 months just incase something happens at the end.  

Temp356619000002780

Actually in our home I love going to the bar and clubs. I love dancing and sometimes compete still, so MH has to put up with my crap. Now that I am PG I feel left out by my friends and MH loves having me home all the time! I also fear that with twins I will never compete again! 

Melissa2216

My husband doesn't go out without me.  We were friends before we were together, so we have all the same friends.  We went out with some friends for dinner tonight, and I drove so he could drink.  He had 3 martinis and everyone else drank also.  I will be the designated driver for a while, but I've already told him once I start to get big that will stop and he will have to drive.  I am not about to chauffeur him around my entire pregnancy. 

MommaA117

Melissa2216:

My husband doesn't go out without me.  We were friends before we were together, so we have all the same friends.  We went out with some friends for dinner tonight, and I drove so he could drink.  He had 3 martinis and everyone else drank also.  I will be the designated driver for a while, but I've already told him once I start to get big that will stop and he will have to drive.  I am not about to chauffeur him around my entire pregnancy. 

this is us too. All of our friends have been the same up until this point. Now that he works at this job he has some of his own. It's kinda wierd actually. lol

SFbride31

I think my husband is the partier of this group!  He still goes out once or twice a week.  On the weekends he routinely comes home at 4am.  Does it bother me?  Sometimes.  But as long as he does not get in the car with a drunk driver, I'm OK.  I know that he won't be doing this once the baby comes, so live it up now!

northtamarack

SFbride31:

  I know that he won't be doing this once the baby comes, so live it up now!

Exactly!  Prepregnancy, both DH and  I went out a lot, both with mutual friends and with our own friends.  Now I have a new job and am coaching so it gives me a good excuse not to go out.  I still encourage DH to go out.  I think that he was feeling bad because he set Netflix up for me.  :-)  It is perfect, I get some rest/alone time and he goes out. 

runnergrl6675

He does go out on occasion.  I don't mind at all.  In fact, I really like when he spends times with his friends and is able to let loose a bit.   He drinks at home, too.  Nothing alarming, a few beers after work or while watching his beloved football.  We were newlyweds when I got pregnant and were partying our asses off prior to September 25th.  What's wrong if he has a few beers here and there. 

march2008

I rarely ever drank before the pregnancy and DH rather did either. Since I found out about being pregnant, I think DH had maybe 2 drinks one night when we were at a friend's get together. He just isn't into it and neither am I.

Debbie0580

We go out together at least once during the weekend (or have friends over to the house).  I didn't drink before getting pregnant, so no one bats an eye by me not drinking.  During the week he plays volleyball and hockey (each once a week), and usually stays for one or two with the guys after.

Cjohn1211

I love when my hubby goes out with the guys. Gives me some quiet time to watch girlie movies haha. I actually request NOT to be called so if I fall asleep he does not wake me up. Haha.

LIa0909

MrsPrevost:

MH has never been one for going out, but he does drink at home and I don't mind. In fact hes drinking tonight while my SIL is over and playing Wii bowling with our nephew. I don't really care, I have no desire to drink so its not like I watch him drink and think about how I want one. Plus, there are so many things he does for me now that I am pregnant I don't feel the need to add restrictions or rules.

I'm pretty much in the same boat. He still drinks, I don't care or even really miss it and am definitely not jealous and he's really stepped up with me being pregnant and having a hard time with it so why put him on a leash. Seomtimes the smell of his breath after a couple bothers me but he's pretty good about realizing thats what the disgusted face is for and going to brush his teeth.

kellyloveszach

Yes and I don't mind to an extent.  He can go out as long as he finds a responsible way to get home.  If we go out to eat, he will get a few drinks, which is no big deal.  Just to be nice he won't order my favorite beer since I can't have any.   We were both big beer drinkers prior to pregnancy.  He also drinks at home on the weekends which is okay by me as long as he doesn't put any drunken moves on me.  

YouAreMyILoveYou

We each go out once a month with our friends (me with my soror sisters & him with his frat buddies from college). The girls and I go to a fancy dinner and the boys usually go to a hole in the wall bar for cheap beer. I don't mind that he drinks then, but I ask him to shower & brush his teeth reallllllly well before climbing into bed, lol.

We have a lot of social events coming up with the holidays and all, so I expect to be the DD for all of it, but it will end on January 1st.

Our situation is a little different -- we have 2 small children. When he is out with his friends or drinking at a family party, that leaves me solely responsible for the girls. I don't think it's entirely fair for me to always be the sober one in charge of all that, and he agrees.

When I was pregnant with our first I didn't care what he did or when. I would stay home and sleep or watch movies or whatever. Now if I'm home alone I have to entertain and feed 2 kids - not nearly as relaxing!

asl71476

Yes. I have no problem at all with him going out for a few. As long as he doesn't come home at 4am smelling like a brewery, we're fine! I figure once the baby comes, we'll have more restrictions on both of us as far as "going out" time anyway. He might as well enjoy it now! 

MrsAtch

DH and I haven't gone out regularly in a long time. Generally if we go out it's with each other, and with some of our closest friends. He doesn't tend to go out without me. He has had maybe 3 drinks since my BFP and I have even encouraged him to get a drink when we go out to dinner but he's just not that into it. He's never been a big drinker anyway (except when he was overseas) so it's not a huge change for us.

Sunidaze

Of course he still does...i don't expect us both to be on lockdown just because I'm pregnant.  Sometimes we're together...like yesterday afternoon, we all got together at his co-workers house for the Ohio State-Michigan game and then later last night, he went out with another coworker to watch more football (I was invited along, but too tired, and we just found out yesterday this co-worker is very recently separated, so I thought they'd need guy time). 

But yes, DH does go out on occasion, without me and I without him when I feel up to it.  And on Sundays, we're rarely together...He and all his obnoxious Steelers fans get together to watch their game, while I get together with my fellow Bears fans to watch ours.  Preferably in two separate places (when I say obnoxious, definitely not an exaggeration).  We've always done our separate thing as well as going out together.  No big deal.

zoomanager

My husband is not big on going out to drink but does have a few beers or wine at home.  At first I was bummed and felt he shouldn't be able to if I can't, now I realize that the more he drinks now, the less he will drink later.  OH, I will be cashing in on those beers!  Only one person can have drinks once the kiddo is here, and guess who gets first dibs!  ME!  So drink up dear husband because you will REALLY miss it when you get to soothe a crying baby/ toddler while I have a glass of wine.    Not that it will be exactly like that, but that is the running joke we have in our house.  He opens a beer, looks at me with this face of "I feel so bad for you."  And I say "Drink Up!  The more you drink now, the more for me later!!!"

M&M227

Yes, but we haven't really gone out to the bar in a while (even before I was pregnant).  A few friends usually hang out at our house on the weekends.  Which is nice, DH has someone to have a beer with and when I get tired I can just go upstairs to bed.  If it's just me and DH hanging out at home during the weekend, he'll have a drink or two.  I've been so exhausted I feel bad because I just want to sleep.

If DH did want to go out with friends I would either go too and not drink (and drive my own car so I could leave when I wanted) or stay home.  I just hate when DH makes spur of the moment decisions and doesn't even ask me, but I've always hated that.

sunflowr0803

My husband isn't much of a drinker (except at weddings or whatever), but if he wanted to go hang out with friends, I'd be all for it! Doesn't bother me one bit.

KelXoXo

DH and I were super social, going out every weekend, and one or two nights a week.  I'm not interested anymore, since I'm so tired, so he's going out on his own.  

He decided on his own that he'll quit drinking completely end of 2nd Tri in case he need to go to the hospital, so I don't mind him having fun now.  He's always responsible and never drives after one beer, so I'm glad he's with his friends, and I like the quiet at home, especially since I'm usually sleeping  

MrsSC9

march2008:

I rarely ever drank before the pregnancy and DH rather did either. Since I found out about being pregnant, I think DH had maybe 2 drinks one night when we were at a friend's get together. He just isn't into it and neither am I.

This exactly!

sideout510

My hubby went out last night. I don't mind because I'm usually sleeping! He does feel bad in the fact that I can't join in, so he usually comes in around 11 or so, what a good guy!

But no, I won't put him on lockdown..I just remind him that when baby comes he won't be able to do it as much!

nowayamyrae

Hubby went out last night with a good friend of his, who just had a baby 2 months ago. They were discussing fatherhood and breastfeeding, drinking beers and eating "filthy fries".

I LOVE that he's still doing stuff like that, especially when I just want to veg on the sofa. And he brought me home pizza rolls, so double win.

Rachel5782

My DH and I have been drinking buddies our whole relationship so I was worried I'd be missing it a lot once I got pregnant.  I also thought I'd get really jealous when he was able to drink and I wasn't.  However, I guess my priorities have just changed.  My DH goes out with his friends maybe once a month and I don't mind as long as he's not driving home drunk.  When we go out I usually end up DD, but I really don't mind.. up until this point he has been my DD.  When we have friends over, I have no issues with him drinking. He knows once the baby is here, we are nothing going to be drinking much anyway.

tarmar81

Becky262:

Nope, DH is teetotaling with me.  And BIL is doing the same for SIL.

We absolutely love drinking together and I would be even more miserable if I were stuck being his DD for 9 months.  There's a million other things that I can't do with all of our friends and family - from skiing to hanging out in the hot tub - so I'm glad I'm not stuck being sober alone.

I agree with this.  However, H isn't completely teetotaling. The rule is that he can drink anything I find disgusting, which is a) Scotch and b) most beer. Also, he can only drink said items at home, or at a bar if he/we're watching football.  Wine is off-limits because I love wine with a seriously shameful passion and I'd go nuts if I got to see him enjoy it for 9 months.  He doesn't drink wine at home or anywhere near me, and he doesn't drink when we go out to dinner.  (And might I add that it's amazing how much SMALLER our dinner bills are now that we aren't ordering several glasses of wine at dinner?!)

We do think it'll be fun when I'm visibly pregnant to go to our favorite martini bar and I'll have the bartender keep bringing me cranberry and Sprite in a martini glass.  Just to see how long it takes for someone to walk up to me and chastise me for "drinking."  I'll be the DD for him in that event, but he knows he can't abuse my sobriety either.

Do I have him on a tight leash?  No.  He can go out when he pleases, and he's a responsible drinker.  But if I have to give up a few things I love, then I think it's only fair that he does too.

kygirlintx321

I used to be the big drinker and DH never did drink.  We moved to TX several months ago and know NO ONE!!  He works from home full time and I don't work so we really have no way to meet people.  We just started getting to know peeps at church, but we are not the going out to bar type of people anymore.  He would rather just stay at home with me.  Once we begin to know people I would love for him to get out of the house just to interact with others:)

SpceCadet

I didn't drink much pre-pregnancy, so giving it up wasn't much of a struggle.  We live 30 min from most of our friends, so we tend to get together during the day instead of at night.  DH will drink at home, but not usually when we go out to dinner.  I don't mind for the most part, but it does bother me when he smokes, which is maybe once a week.  He knows not to crawl into bed without taking a shower and brushing his teeth at least three times.

MelanieAdam0707

I guess I wouldnt think to ask DH to change his drinking habits...he's not a super big drinker anyway but if he does go out (very rare) I ask that he does not drive...I am happy to drive and he is happy to limit if he is far away. 

Why punish both of us I would love a wine or good beer but clearly that's not gonna happen  

Turtle143

MrsSC9:

march2008:

I rarely ever drank before the pregnancy and DH rather did either. Since I found out about being pregnant, I think DH had maybe 2 drinks one night when we were at a friend's get together. He just isn't into it and neither am I.

This exactly!

This exactly. The second time I met DH in college at one of our student organization meetings at someone's house, he was lying face down in the hallway in front of the bathroom door trying to make his way into the bathroom, but he was just "taking a break" when I walked over him and cut him off. LOL I was thinking then "gosh, this is exactly the type of guy I would avoid. An alcoholic." Later on, our friends were making fun of him because he apparently got that way from just 2 bottle of Zimas. 

Anyway, ya DH still goes out but doesn't really drink. He and I have never been into it but we occassionally have a wine cooler at a gathering every now and then.

MrsPBNJ0220

DH and I were never much for going out and partying.  I think we did it so much when we were younger we are out of that now.  We have also known eachother since we were 13, so as a PP said we have most of the same friends, so when we have ever went out we go out together.  That's how we like it, we have both said we think it would be unfair to assume the other would want to stay home, but that's us.  As for the drinking, it was DH's decision to not drink since I have not been able to either.  He says he thinks it would be unfair that since I'm pregnant I have to go without, and he doesn't.  Totally him though, and I suppose it's pretty easy for him to make that bold of a decision considering he doens't drink hardly ever.