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It's that time of year; my tough week begins
Tuesday will be Jack's 6th birthday and the day we lost Samuel. The week leading up to it is always so hard for me. It is all the "this time that year" that play over again in my head. Tomorrow is thanksgiving, which means this time 6 years ago was about the time I felt Samuel move for the last time...I just didn't know it at the time.
Tomorrow we are going to the cemetary to visit him. We moved away and don't live as close to the cemetary but my parents do. So we will be going on the way to their house. We also want to make it so that even though we know Jack's birthday is the day we lost samuel and that it should be his birthday too, Jack's has happiness on his birthday. So we remember Samuel on a separate day. We haven't been to the cemetary in a long time, so it will be harder than usual.
The kids painted rocks to leave for Samuel. This tiem of year sucks for me. Tomorrow, I am thankful that I have Jack and his birthday to distract me from my saddness. Another year of bittersweet.
Thanks for listening. You guys have, for 6 years now and even though I don't "know" you it means the world to me.
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Re: It's that time of year; my tough week begins
Lots of hugs-- I can only imagine how hard it is & will always be. My friend had the same tragedy occur 3 days ago (only girls) and I thought immediately of you. My thoughts are with you both during this time. ::hugs:::
I had a whole bunch typed out, then deleted it. There are no words.
(((Hugs))) to you and your family.
((hugs)) I can't even imagine.
My aunt lost one of her twins in December -- 22 years ago. She still gets melancholy around the holidays. She feels so blessed to have her living daughter and the sons she had later, but the holidays always make her think about Alex and what she would be like. I think it's particularly hard when the loss is in the middle of a tradition-filled time of of year since it's like replaying it each year with all the reminders.
You'll be in my thoughts.
what an emotional struggle that has to be.
have you had counselling to help you sort those emotions?
I am so sorry.
*HUGS*
That would be terribly hard, no matter how many years pass. Be good to yourself this week.
Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
This is one of the nestie stories that has stuck with me through all these years. My heart goes out to you. May you find peace and know we're all thinking about you.
Big hugs to you and all of your babies.
xo
~Lisa
Mum to Owen and Lucas
David "BD" 2/8/07 Spencer 9/12/11HUGE HUGS to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.
Loss is tragic, but I know it is even harder when it coincides with a special occasion. My brother died on Dec. 27, 2007 and Christmas Day 2007 was the last day I ever saw him. I hate that the holiday comes with such sadness surrounding it but like you we try to focus on the kids and making sure to keep it as happy as possible. HUGS.
Ryan 5/2010, Kyle 1/2007, Eric 3/2005
You take my ovaries, I take your yarns.
Hugs to you. I'm not on the nest very much anymore, but I remember your story like it was yesterday.
I know what you mean about 'this time of year'. For me, it's Feb. 6 through Valentine's day. I still can't look at valentine's stuff without crying. I lost my first baby on Feb. 6 7 years ago, and it's still hard.
I love that your kids painted rocks for Samuel. That is so sweet.
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I have a lump in my throat. I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church