Why can't we say "pr*go"? (OT - board terminology)

gammage20

Hi guys, I am new here, but have been lurking for a few months, and I've seen warnings several times about not using the word "pr*go" on this board. I'm now officially afraid to type the word out. Why is it so taboo? I'm not upset about people not wanting to use it (I frankly find the word too cutesy, but I'm not a fan of the term "baby dust" either, and no one seems to have a problem using that one) (I'm not telling anyone to stop using any of these words - I just don't choose to use them myself.) Oh, jeez, I hope I'm not inadvertently saying something offensive, but I really don't get it. I read on a website that being pg is sometimes referred as "the rabbit dying" - I mean, I'm just sayin' - there's worse terms people could be using... Is it a superstitious thing? Like saying Macbeth in a theater before a performance?

jb2rn

It just sounds bad. I don't know. I don't like "aunt flow" really, either. I just say period.

EvenAngelsFall

I don't know about any "rules".... but on this board & in RL, it is SUCH a pet peeve of mine when people say 'Prego'!!!! IMO, I think its tacky. Prego is a spaghetti sauce, not a preparation for a new life.

ETA: Still, I would never call anyone out or make fun of anyone for their word choice. I just give it a private eye roll. To each their own! 

 

laurenlovesjared

Yeah I noticed that too...though I think it is funny that people would rather hear knocked up than that. I could care less personally. Everyone has their own style, culture, lingo, whatever. I just avoid it because I want to avoid being told 100 times over not to use the word lol.

LadyBugLove7

laurenlovesjared:

Yeah I noticed that too...though I think it is funny that people would rather hear knocked up than that. I could care less personally. Everyone has their own style, culture, lingo, whatever. I just avoid it because I want to avoid being told 100 times over not to use the word lol.

 

gammage20

Yeah, that was what surprised me - people telling others not to use the term.  There are a lot of terms on this board that I think are a little ridiculous that people use all the time - ("down there" anyone?  It's a VAGINA). 

I feel like the word "prego" is kind of cutesy, but I dunno, babies are cute, right?  And pregnant ladies are cute, right?  So why not allow a cute word? I'm not trying to stir up trouble or be rude - everyone's entitled to their own opinion, but if there isn't some kind of reason not to use it, I feel like it would be okay for people to use the word without getting flamed.

Sorry for the rant - I have either really bad PMS or I'm experiencing prego hormones.  

viloiakaclb

I think bumpies on this board take what they talk about here very seriously. "drive by"s that post "I'M LATE AND HAD SEX, AM I PREGO?" are not only annoying because of their ignorance and frustrating because of their lack of information, but they're insulting to what we are trying to do. 

 If you've noticed a lot of the topics are analytical and very medical. We have no problem talking about cervical mucus or sex but something about the term "prego" implies a demeaning connotation to the condition that most of us are trying to achieve. 

That's why I wont say it anyways...  

EskimoBride

I loathe the words Prego and Preggers.  Especially when people think they sound cute saying it.  I think thats why people say it...because they associate pregnancy with "cuteness" and prego/preggers sounds "cute" to them.

EskimoBride

But strangely enough I dont care if I hear it on these boards.  It only bothers me in real life.

SkyBee

I think this post was entirely un-necessary. IMO.

cantalopes24

Baby dust is generally frowned upon on the board and I hate the termAF.

gammage20

I was just curious.  I saw a comment in a recent post telling someone they shouldn't use the word, and there was nothing about it in the board glossary or the rules.  I'm sorry to have wasted your time.

gammage20

gammage20:

I was just curious.  I saw a comment in a recent post telling someone they shouldn't use the word, and there was nothing about it in the board glossary or the rules.  I'm sorry to have wasted your time.

 

That was sarcastic by the way.  You didn't have to read it if you thought it was unnecessary.  The subject was perfectly informative.

SkyBee

gammage20:

gammage20:

I was just curious.  I saw a comment in a recent post telling someone they shouldn't use the word, and there was nothing about it in the board glossary or the rules.  I'm sorry to have wasted your time.

 

That was sarcastic by the way.  You didn't have to read it if you thought it was unnecessary.  The subject was perfectly informative.

Thank you for the clarification.

gammage20

I laugh at vag too.  I don't think we always have to be perfectly reverent about every step of making babies.  I find it to be a relief to be a little off-color now and then.  I am not trying to be disrespectful to people who are having trouble, and I do hope it doesn't come across that way.

gammage20

I don't know, actually.  I was getting the impression that people find it offensive because it's very casual.  I was trying to cover all my offensiveness bases, like maybe the term prego seems really casual and maybe people who are having trouble are very sensitive to taking this casually. I know I'm probably offending some people, but the last person I would want to offend with this term would be someone who is officially having trouble TTC.  I want to be sensitive to that; I just don't want to be sensitive to arbitrary telling people off. 

In all honesty, there was a post a few posts down where someone was pouring her heart out about a rough day, and she used the term, and someone warned her about using the term.  The warner obviously had good intentions because the rest of the post was caring and thoughtful, and the warning seemed so extreme in that context that I got the impression it was a really bad thing to say, like cussing.

I'm also confused because it's the only term I've seen people telling others not to use, but I'm hearing a lot of responses like "to each their own". 

amdraza

gammage20:

Hi guys, I am new here, but have been lurking for a few months, and I've seen warnings several times about not using the word "pr*go" on this board. I'm now officially afraid to type the word out. Why is it so taboo? I'm not upset about people not wanting to use it (I frankly find the word too cutesy, but I'm not a fan of the term "baby dust" either, and no one seems to have a problem using that one) (I'm not telling anyone to stop using any of these words - I just don't choose to use them myself.) Oh, jeez, I hope I'm not inadvertently saying something offensive, but I really don't get it. I read on a website that being pg is sometimes referred as "the rabbit dying" - I mean, I'm just sayin' - there's worse terms people could be using... Is it a superstitious thing? Like saying Macbeth in a theater before a performance?

LOL... that is definetly worse than prego. I think the problem is that Prego sounds very juvenile (plus it's a pasta sause).

I personally don't say it, but I also don't feel the need to flame some one else for saying it.

I use the term KU'd and some people have a problem with that too. You can never win!

EskimoBride

Amdraza...Im saying this in every non lesbian way possible...youre stunning!

nebrtwin

gammage20:

I don't know, actually.  I was getting the impression that people find it offensive because it's very casual.  I was trying to cover all my offensiveness bases, like maybe the term prego seems really casual and maybe people who are having trouble are very sensitive to taking this casually. I know I'm probably offending some people, but the last person I would want to offend with this term would be someone who is officially having trouble TTC.  I want to be sensitive to that; I just don't want to be sensitive to arbitrary telling people off. 

In all honesty, there was a post a few posts down where someone was pouring her heart out about a rough day, and she used the term, and someone warned her about using the term.  The warner obviously had good intentions because the rest of the post was caring and thoughtful, and the warning seemed so extreme in that context that I got the impression it was a really bad thing to say, like cussing.

I'm also confused because it's the only term I've seen people telling others not to use, but I'm hearing a lot of responses like "to each their own". 

That was me that you are referring to. In no way was my warning "extreme", it just simply stated that as a heads up, "prego" is not usually a good word to use on the board. My intentions of the warning were to simply let the newbie know so that flaming could be avoided. No one likes to be flamed so it was my attempt at helping out someone new (like myself).

amdraza

EskimoBride:

Amdraza...Im saying this in every non lesbian way possible...youre stunning!

Wow... thanks. You just made my day!

gammage20

nebrtwin:

gammage20:

I don't know, actually.  I was getting the impression that people find it offensive because it's very casual.  I was trying to cover all my offensiveness bases, like maybe the term prego seems really casual and maybe people who are having trouble are very sensitive to taking this casually. I know I'm probably offending some people, but the last person I would want to offend with this term would be someone who is officially having trouble TTC.  I want to be sensitive to that; I just don't want to be sensitive to arbitrary telling people off. 

In all honesty, there was a post a few posts down where someone was pouring her heart out about a rough day, and she used the term, and someone warned her about using the term.  The warner obviously had good intentions because the rest of the post was caring and thoughtful, and the warning seemed so extreme in that context that I got the impression it was a really bad thing to say, like cussing.

I'm also confused because it's the only term I've seen people telling others not to use, but I'm hearing a lot of responses like "to each their own". 

That was me that you are referring to. In no way was my warning "extreme", it just simply stated that as a heads up, "prego" is not usually a good word to use on the board. My intentions of the warning were to simply let the newbie know so that flaming could be avoided. No one likes to be flamed so it was my attempt at helping out someone new (like myself).

See here I go unintentionally offending.  I apologize - I didn't mean YOU were being extreme - I really meant it when I said your post was thoughtful and caring.  I just meant that it feels like there is an extreme attitude about this one word and I really did get the impression that using the word was BAD, like swearing.  I thought there was a specific reason behind it because it's the only word I've ever seen this kind of response to on these boards - people use phrases like knocked up  or big deed without anyone batting an eyelash.  It's good that you warned the young woman about not getting flamed.  To be frank, I'm STILL confused about why the word gets such a strong response - I really don't love the word at all - I agree that it sounds really cutesy and I'm really not a cutesy person. 

But for the people who have issues with the drive-by posts - it's not like the word prego has anything to do with the fact that the posters are uneducated.  And for the people who think it just sounds dumb, don't use it.  After hearing all these responses, I kind of think I might start using it because what people call it is really their own decision - if you don't like it, don't use it. 

But nebrtwin, I really didn't mean to sound like I thought you personally were out of line, and I apologize if I didn't communicate that very well.

 

gammage20

I mean, sure I see the difference, but is anyone on this board really confused about what people are trying to say when they use the word prego?

KimML17:

Vs.

Pregnant: 

see the difference? 

loveypants

Ok so here is the thing.  The way of this board is that we don't care for "prego", "preggers"  or other similar words.    You can choose to use them if you want, just be prepared for people making comments to you about it. 

You are a big girl, if you want to say it, say it.  Just know that it annoys the shiit out of a lot of us. 

nebrtwin

Thank you for the apology.

gammage20

It was entirely warranted

nebrtwin:

Thank you for the apology.

pinkflipflops44

I mean this in the most non-offensive way possible..

OMG GUYS! I've seen the error of our ways.  Let's let everyone say preggo and preggers and let's NOT EVER tell anyone they are wrong and wish lots of happiness and puppies on everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

cantalopes24

gammage20:

nebrtwin:

gammage20:

I don't know, actually.  I was getting the impression that people find it offensive because it's very casual.  I was trying to cover all my offensiveness bases, like maybe the term prego seems really casual and maybe people who are having trouble are very sensitive to taking this casually. I know I'm probably offending some people, but the last person I would want to offend with this term would be someone who is officially having trouble TTC.  I want to be sensitive to that; I just don't want to be sensitive to arbitrary telling people off. 

In all honesty, there was a post a few posts down where someone was pouring her heart out about a rough day, and she used the term, and someone warned her about using the term.  The warner obviously had good intentions because the rest of the post was caring and thoughtful, and the warning seemed so extreme in that context that I got the impression it was a really bad thing to say, like cussing.

I'm also confused because it's the only term I've seen people telling others not to use, but I'm hearing a lot of responses like "to each their own". 

That was me that you are referring to. In no way was my warning "extreme", it just simply stated that as a heads up, "prego" is not usually a good word to use on the board. My intentions of the warning were to simply let the newbie know so that flaming could be avoided. No one likes to be flamed so it was my attempt at helping out someone new (like myself).

See here I go unintentionally offending.  I apologize - I didn't mean YOU were being extreme - I really meant it when I said your post was thoughtful and caring.  I just meant that it feels like there is an extreme attitude about this one word and I really did get the impression that using the word was BAD, like swearing.  I thought there was a specific reason behind it because it's the only word I've ever seen this kind of response to on these boards - people use phrases like knocked up  or big deed without anyone batting an eyelash.  It's good that you warned the young woman about not getting flamed.  To be frank, I'm STILL confused about why the word gets such a strong response - I really don't love the word at all - I agree that it sounds really cutesy and I'm really not a cutesy person. 

But for the people who have issues with the drive-by posts - it's not like the word prego has anything to do with the fact that the posters are uneducated.  And for the people who think it just sounds dumb, don't use it.  After hearing all these responses, I kind of think I might start using it because what people call it is really their own decision - if you don't like it, don't use it. 

But nebrtwin, I really didn't mean to sound like I thought you personally were out of line, and I apologize if I didn't communicate that very well.

 

I'm on my phone or I'd do it. Can I get a shovel PIP?

gammage20

loveypants:

Ok so here is the thing.  The way of this board is that we don't care for "prego", "preggers"  or other similar words.    You can choose to use them if you want, just be prepared for people making comments to you about it. 

You are a big girl, if you want to say it, say it.  Just know that it annoys the shiit out of a lot of us. 

I will absolutely use the words if I feel like it.  People can say all they want about it, but my feeling is that if there are enough people on the board using the word to have developed a pattern of people trying to stop it, maybe "we" on this board aren't entirely unanimous on that issue.

Some people don't like the word "sh*t," you know.

I know, I'm getting defensive, and am probably going to hear about it, but honestly, people.  It's a word.  It's not actually a reflection on the person who's saying they wish they're "prego".  

gammage20

Oh for pete's sake, this is ridiculous.  If you don't like the posts, don't read them.  I was really asking a legitimate question.

gammage20

Maybe there's a reason so many people are using this response.

pinkflipflops44

gammage20:

Oh for pete's sake, this is ridiculous.  If you don't like the posts, don't read them.  I was really asking a legitimate question.

Oh for pete's sake you are ridiculous. Just stop.  And I will let you in on a little secret, it's a public message board.  So everyone will respond, whether they like what you say or not.  You can't get them to stop.  Just like if you want to use immature words to describe pregnancy go for it.  But people will comment, hence the public message board idea.

cantalopes24

gammage20:

Oh for pete's sake, this is ridiculous.  If you don't like the posts, don't read them.  I was really asking a legitimate question.

Am I safe in assuming you know what a hypocrite is and why this post makes you one?

gammage20

I'm not going to feed these beasts, but if anyone else has intelligent thoughts on the word "prego", I would really love to hear them.  I, for one, have decided to start using it regularly.  Thanks for your input.

gammage20

Does anyone feel the same way about the term "knocked up" as they do about the term "prego"?  If so, I would love to hear why.

jdsprincess116

KimML17:

Vs.

Pregnant: 

see the difference? 

LMAO!

gammage20

I also wonder why "preggers" is worse than some of the other terms. 

gammage20

I was trying to re-start the actual conversation. 

starkbaby22

gammage20:

I was trying to re-start the actual conversation. 

 

I think you got your answers, and now have a taste for the board if you ask stupid questions.  Let.It.Be.

StephK

gammage20:

Does anyone feel the same way about the term "knocked up" as they do about the term "prego"?  If so, I would love to hear why.

Are you on a mission to discuss all of the annoying wordss on the board?  If you use them, in a misguided effort to improve the board, please don't whine that people are giving you a hard time about it.  You just went through an entire page and a half of reasons why it is annoying.

Good luck with that!

gammage20

What other terms to people use for pregnant?

gammage20

Thanks for all the warm wishes.  I wasn't whining about people giving me a hard time about anything.  I wanted to know why people didn't like a particular term.  It was the only term I had seen people actively discouraging others from using on the board.  If you aren't interested in the conversation (which WAS a conversation before all the flaming started, your fascinating graphics notwithstanding), I don't understand why you care whether the conversation stops or continues.  The ONLY people whining are you guys.

StephK:

gammage20:

Does anyone feel the same way about the term "knocked up" as they do about the term "prego"?  If so, I would love to hear why.

Are you on a mission to discuss all of the annoying wordss on the board?  If you use them, in a misguided effort to improve the board, please don't whine that people are giving you a hard time about it.  You just went through an entire page and a half of reasons why it is annoying.

Good luck with that!