WWYD? DS just wanted to write a letter to Nana in heaven

AWD

so we did. So this is kindof odd but DH just asked if we should write him one back from Nana? IDK? DS said tonight just out of the blue "Mommy I miss Nana can we write her a letter and tell her I love and miss her". It was soo sweet. So WWYD write him one back or just leave it be?

goodheartedmommy

Leave it be. Do you believe in any kind of afterlife? I've explained that those that have passed can hear them, but we can't physically hear those who have died...but they send signs that they're watching over us. This is a tough one--but worse than a child finding out Santa isn't real, that could be really tough on a kid when they find out you were making up letters from Grandma, you know?

EdithBouvierBeale

I would not write him a response- it might give him a weird idea of death?

I thinkit's a great idea to write TO her...maybe even enjoy one of her favorite foods and read it out loud.

the mexicans do Dio de Las Muertas, day of the dead- it's a whole celebration of their loved ones who have died- it's wonderful and so neat. if you look into it you might even want to celebrate it. it's a really nice way to celebrate someone's life, and remember them in death.

 

Marchmamma

When DD#1 misses her Nana, I let her talk to the sky.  She just talks away and sometimes she will say that Nana said xyz back to me and sometimes she just says what she has to say and ends it there.

Emiliana7

My cousin took my grandmother's passing quite hard (her g-ma too). She was 6 years old at the time and went to a little therapy to handle/deal with it. One of the suggestions from the therapist was for my cousin to write letters to our grandma. It was also suggested about 'signs' too from heaven since G-ma couldn't answer back. Well the sign we came up with was when the sun would shine through the clouds where you can 'see' the rays (KWIM?). To this day (almost 7 years later) my cousin will mention that G-ma must be looking down at us whenever we see these rays.

We knew this was really helping her cope when I got married and just before the wedding party was to walk down the aisle (my cousin being a flower girl) She announces "Look, G-ma came!" because through the church windows the sun was beaming those special rays...when it had been overcast the whole day up to that point.

gracendantho26

I would not write him back. But I don't know what you've told your kids or what your beliefs are about death. We belive that grandpa (we just lost him in August) went to heaven to be with God so writing back would not jive with that.