Clicky poll - Who will be in the delivery room with you?

SarahAndBen09

I'm not sure if I've covered enough combinations, but let's give this poll a try!

Feel free to reply and explain your answer.

[Poll]

MrsEmilyS

I voted partner and parents but it will just be my mom and DH.

DaisyJanie

Not for me, but another possibility is "Partner won't be there".

Pockety

I voted "just my partner" but I wouldn't necessarily be opposed to my parents being there.  

I think it's equally likely that my parents will annoy me that day as it is that my DH will annoy me that day!  I'll have to see what happens when the time comes. 

MrsPBNJ0220

I said partner, parents and siblings.  But really it's my DH, my mother, and my sister.  I initially told my sister I didn't mind, but then after deciding to do a natural birth, I don't seem to be getting the support that I need during that time and I wanted to tell her it was a no go and just tell her my Dr. said only 2 were aloud but I don't want to lie and I'd prefer just to not deal with it being a problem.

flows912

I'm still undecided if I want my mom there or not. Since it's my first it would be nice to have someone there with experience. I haven't talked about it with MH yet.

Turtle143

Just DH, for now.My mom is a nervous wreck and while I love MIL, I'm not sure I want her there either. I feel like this is still private. PRIVATE. Funny huh? I'll have my legs all spread out with doctors and nurses looking at my privates but I'd still would like to have privacy from my family.

absoluteremix

Only the husband for me!!! I never even thought about having anyone else in there. Perhaps if I was a teenager I'd want my mom there with me. But at 26 years old, I think this should be between my husband and I....and all the nurses and doctor! LOL

 

Becky262

I had the entire family (DH, my mom, my dad, FIL, MIL, BIL, and SIL) with me for the majority of my labor (48 freaking hours).  Yeah, it got real annoying real freaking quick (especially when FIL decided to eat some of the only food I was allowed to have - after the kitchen was closed!!)

I ended up with a c/s, both my mom and DH were allowed in the OR which was nice.  DH took DS to the nursery and my mom stayed with me while they finished up.

This time it'll only be DH and a doula with my during labor (this OR only allows one person so just DH) 

gymnst1013

No one but myself, MH and medical professionals.  I do NOT want a bunch of people gawking at me while I'm grunting and groaning.

LittleEgypt

Last time it was just DH and I (and our midwife), and this time we will have DS and a support person for him at the house (undecided on who, yet). Since we are having a home birth, we have to accomodate DS's schedule and comfort level. If my labor was the same as last time - 11pm-8am - DS would sleep right through most of it! If things are too intense for him, he will go to IL's house nearby.

jgengo0

If i do not need a c-section......My Husband, mom and sister

DuckDuckGoose123

Just DH for me.  I don't really want to have to deal with family at that point.  I'm sure my parents will be hovering anxiously outside, but this will be a moment for MH and me.

pinay976

gymnst1013:

No one but myself, MH and medical professionals.  I do NOT want a bunch of people gawking at me while I'm grunting and groaning.

Absolutely this!!

march2008

I chose the option for just my partner, but I'm also considering hiring a Doula to possibly be present too. I don't have a mother in my life and I could probably use the advice of a Doula.

Becky262

march2008:

I chose the option for just my partner, but I'm also considering hiring a Doula to possibly be present too. I don't have a mother in my life and I could probably use the advice of a Doula.

Hire a doula!  

Even if you do have a great mother or aunt or sister or BFF - once your labor gets nasty, there is no way for that person not to be personally involved and lose all objectivity. 

A doula's job is to support you and help your support person/team support you.  They are well trained and know exactly what to do when the going gets tough.

KallieandJustin

With my DS I had my BFF and my DH.  My BFF was completley in the background, however she was there to only take photos.  At the time, I wasn't sure how I felt about her getting graphic photos, however I absolutely LOVE the pictures she got of my DH seeing our son for the first time, us crying, him cutting the cord ect.  My DH was a blubbering mess and was in no condition to take those pictures.  I would like to have her in the room again, and this time she is pregnant and due just 3 weeks after me, so we will see. 

PhotoCat82

My MIL is a doula, so she will be there.  My youngest SIL is super supportive of my birth decisions, so more than likely she will be there b/c I want all of the positive energy I can get.  Oh yeah, obviously MH will be there too.  : )

casirdms

absoluteremix:

Only the husband for me!!! I never even thought about having anyone else in there. Perhaps if I was a teenager I'd want my mom there with me. But at 26 years old, I think this should be between my husband and I....and all the nurses and doctor! LOL

 

This bothered me. But maybe just cause I am overly sensitive.
And had a child when I was a teenager, and had only my mother in there with me as there was no SO in the picture.

 

But with this pregnancy, DH and my mother will be in there. I love my DH but he's not very good with the whole nurturing thing, and I know mom will be there to give me a cold washcloth, etc

luckyluvr

I'll have my DH, my OB, an assistant, an anethesiologist, a few nurses, a few other medical professionals...this will be c-section #3!

MeganJBear

I had my mom in the room with me and DH when I gave birth at 34 :-)  I was so glad she was there!

pmpkn219

I voted just partner. There's the option of my mom (no one else), pending how I feel and how she is acting that day.

YouAreMyILoveYou

I'm not sure who will be there. We will need one set of grandparents to watch our girls. I'm not opposed to having both grandmoms there.

My mom, H & MIL were all present for my entire labor and delivery with my first. H is an only child so MIL was very greatful that she was able to see the birth of her 1st grandchild.

Every year on DDs birthday MIL thanks me for letting her watch. I know that it really means a lot to her and I'm glad I was able to give her that experience that so many MILs don't get to have with their son's. 

And honestly, my labors are so fast and easy (thanks epidural!) that I enjoyed having people around to talk to. There was never any prolonged grunting/pushing/pooping phase for me. It was very quick!

I might think differently if I had a 24+ hr labor, though. I'm sure by then I would be so over the whole thing that I wouldn't want anyone around. 

11kacey

During initial labor I will not mind if my family comes and says hi, but when it gets to the grunting part? umm no one. There is a good chance my husband will get the boot too. I have a friend that lives out of state and perhaps if she lived here I would love her to be in the room, but that is not possible.  Other than that, we are just going to play it by ear. Maybe I will change my mind when the big day gets here?

tarmar81

I don't want any visitors at all while I'm in labor, except for my mom and maybe my dad.  My mom will be in there with H and I for most of my labor (and running home to get stuff for me, if need be) and then when it's time to pushe, only H is going to be in there.  I want it to be a personal moment between just the two of us. 

We are not telling H's parents to come to the hospital until after the kid is out, because MIL was really obnoxious when my SIL was in labor and I don't want to deal with her AT ALL until the baby's born.