how do you explain to DH..?

triplea1819

How do you explain to DH, that feeling down, and crappy, is not going to go away over night?  It is not going to be better or worse 10 mins from now, or a day from now.  It is what it is at this point..  I cry, i feel like sh!t, i feel like a bad mother.  I find it hard to even go to my child when she cries.  today is not better or worse than yesterday.  tomorrow is the same.. 

He asks me 10 times a day, do you feel better?  NO, i feel exactly the same as I did an hour ago when you asked me.  and you asking me if I feel better, makes me feel more like sh!t because I do not feel any better yet..  

urgh..

jennychrm

Good Luck feeling better!  Maybe talk to your doc if it doesn't get better...

jmb527

Do you get any time to yourself, or have a friend you can talk to, etc to help feel better? Also, maybe consider talking to your doc or a therapist to help. It is going to be a process and I bet your DH just doesn't know what else to say so he probably just asks if you are better because that is all he can think of...I could imagine my DH saying the same thing. I hope things get better for you soon. 

lmkelker1

Sorry you feel this way!!! I know it doesn't go away, but you need to make sure to let your doc know what's going on. *HUGS*  Your husband is just trying to gauge your mood, but he doesn't know how to do it in a way that doesn't piss you off. Talk to him about it- rationally- if you can.

QueenBee320

It sounds like you might have PPD, you should talk to your doctor right away.  I don't want to scare you or make you more upset but it could get worse. Please get help, you will be glad you did and it will probably help DH to understand why it isn't going away overnight.

krys09

I know how you feel, I am actually going to my doctor tomorrow to talk to him about this same thing, and my DH doesn't get it either. I hope you start feeling better, give your dr a call. :hugs: