I thought you ladies would be the best group to ask. My aunt has decided to throw me a baby shower and asked me for a preliminary guest list and so far I only have family and 3-4 friends. My husband says that I could/should invite some women that I used to be close with but I haven't talked to most of them in a year or more and I would feel it rude/tacky of me to invite them. What do you think? If you hadn't talked to someone in a year or more but used to be close would you think it's rude/weird/tacky to receive a baby shower invite? My fear is that people are going to just think that I'm fishing for gifts which I don't care if they get me anything or not I just don't want it to come off wrong. Please help.
Re: Who to invite?
This kind of does make it sound like he just wants you to invite more people to get more gifts You can have a lovely shower with a small amount of people!
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So far the list comes to about 20 people but 6 of them are children (18 and under), 8 are family, so 6 are friends (3 I'm not sure they would make it-they're kinda flaky)
I don't email or facebook any of them...they are on my husbands friends list so they all know I'm pregnant but none of them ask him anything about me or how I'm doing, so no interest. I am a stay at home wife, I don't attend church regularly, to put it bluntly I have no social life. God knows I love my family but I would love to have some friends there that are more my age. I think you are right though, fewer people would still be nice. It would also give me a chance to talk to everyone.
I think that I agree with all of you that we are no longer close enough to have them at my shower. To the poster that said it seems as though he is fishing for gifts, I don't think it's that, I think he wants me to have people there besides family. He also says that he thinks some of these people that I was friends with would be upset/hurt if I didn't invite them. My thought on that is if I haven't talked to them in a year then why would they be upset that I didn't invite them, wouldn't they be more upset that I haven't talked to them period?
I appreciate all of the advice! Thank you all so much.
Thank you and I think the BBQ/Meet the Baby Party sounds like a terrific idea and since I am due in May we could have a Memorial Day BBQ/Meet the Baby if we feel up to it. Thank you for the idea and the compliment!
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