I was right, they were wrong...miscarriage started

sunshinenva

Update on me...

Most of my info is in my siggy.  By Beta numbers were low and the NP consistently told me the numbers were normal and considered this a "healthy pg".  I told them I have done my research (my bump buddies ) and I knew something was not right.

SOOO yesterday I begin cramping really bad and that night began bleeding heavy.  I was up all night with intense pains.  I called Dr first thing in the morning and still no Dr only NP.  NP conveyed through the nurse that I need to go to the ER and come in for Betas on Monday.  Oh and don't worry bleeding similar to a period is normal while pg!  I explained the seriousness of the bleeding and told her I am having a miscarriage.  I also told her to tell the NP I am not going to the ER and I am not coming in Monday for Betas!  I told her I would call them in about a month.  I expected the Dr. or NP to call me back, but they never did.

I took this as a sign to not go through with my 4th and last IUI and move onto a RE for testing.  The RE I called could not believe I never had testing done to date.  We are waiting for an appointment to open up otherwise we have to wait until Jan. to start IVF process.  I can't wait!

Thank you ladies for your honesty...you truly helped keep things in perspective and not get too excited about my fleeting BFP.

 

Gummybear

Oh I am so sorry. That is terrible to go through and I can't believe the Drs weren't more responsive. But I am happy that you have taken the big next step and I hope the RE helps bring home your baby

ColindaP

Wow, I am so sorry you're going through this. I can't believe they told you to go to the ER. I'm sure you're dying to cap off this m/c by wasting a couple hundred bucks and like 17 hours, right? 

 When is your RE appointment? Are you for sure jumping right into IVF or are you having testing done first? 

rjl07

I'm so sorry you are going through this again.  I think going to the RE is definitely the right thing to do.  I also think I would find a new OB to see when you do get pregnant.  I hope you get some answers from the testing.  ((hugs))

jillcanada

I'm sorry you have to go through this again. No one should ever feel this pain. We are highly intuitive women on this board, so eeeks when no one would listen to you. I'm glad you're firing the doctor and NP and moving on to an RE. Big hugs.

DoingItRight

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

millejj1

I am so sorry. Hugs

sunshinenva

ColindaP:

Wow, I am so sorry you're going through this. I can't believe they told you to go to the ER. I'm sure you're dying to cap off this m/c by wasting a couple hundred bucks and like 17 hours, right? 

 When is your RE appointment? Are you for sure jumping right into IVF or are you having testing done first? 

Thank you for the kind words...you had me laughing about wasting my time in the ER...you couldn't have said it better!

 The doctor I want to see (my two friends recommended her) is booked until Jan and apparently her Jan schedule is not avail for appointments yet.  They stated cancellations happen often enough that they will call me for a consultation. 

They were shocked to hear I had no testing to date...so during the consult we are going to discuss what tests need to be completed before going forward with IVF.  We have to see what kind of financial assistance we can get too.  I will keep you posted.  Looks like I have to be patient for now.

butterfly843

((hugs)) so sorry, hope you get some answers at the RE.

jen629

I am so sorry {{{HUGS}}}

sunshinenva

rjl07:

I'm so sorry you are going through this again.  I think going to the RE is definitely the right thing to do.  I also think I would find a new OB to see when you do get pregnant.  I hope you get some answers from the testing.  ((hugs))

I think your right...I am considering finding another OB once I do get pg.  So hard when you have been with them for years.  I appreciate your post.  Thanks!

GuppyAmy

I'm so sorry.

CashewsMommy

(((Hugs))) I am so sorry that you are going through this. I'm glad that you called an RE and have a nice game plan going. Best of luck to you.

mdm2137

I'm so sorry.

surfergirlkona

I am so sorry. Moving to the RE is the best plan. Whoever this other practice was, well, they are douches. We could run their labs and office better then them. Good luck and get the testing underway. Big hugs

Orchard27

I'm so sorry.  I hope the RE can give you some answers

babes12

i'm so sorry.  and i'm glad your moving on to an RE.  (((HUGS)))

Olive44

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I think moving to the RE is a great decision.  (((HUGS)))

Clerk9

Oh no!  I'm SO sorry.    But I'm also so glad that you're getting the frak away from that NP.  Geez.  And I'm really glad that your RE's office is already working on a plan for you!  Really hope time goes by quickly until January & that you hear from them soon.    

((HUGE HUGS)) 

grr_aargh

Ugh. I'm so sorry you had to deal with doctors who weren't honest OR listening.  I HATE that.  In fact, it's one of the worst parts of our TTC journey, IMO. . .

Glad to hear you've got a good RE on board though - that'll make a world of difference. 

Ashley858

OMG I am so sorry. What a douche bag NP. ((((Hugs))))

Pixiestx

I'm sorry that it had to come to this and you had the idiotic NP to deal with.  If a doctor doesn't call to follow up with you I think I'd be leaving the practice, making sure to tell them why.  It'll be worth the wait to get better care than this.

TeacherVicky

I'm so sorry. I hope you can get in quickly with the RE.

(((Big hugs)))

cutebride73

I'm so, so sorry (((hugs))). 

Court1

I'm so sorry hun.  And it sounds like it's time to switch doctors.  What's the ER going to do for you when you know you're having a miscarriage?  Crappy advice.

klk2klb

So very sorry.  I wish the best for you with working with the RE.

ERICA21779

((((hugs)))))

I think it's a very wise move to leave that ob/NP behind.  GL

ade2be

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this again.  I think the RE is a good choice.  Hopefully they will be much more proactive

mlmtgg

I am so sorry you have gone through this, and I cannot believe they never called you back. that is awful.