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ScoobyM

Last night Noah took forever to fall asleep;  I paced our bedroom for about 20 minutes while he was just looking around with eyes wide open, and meanwhile DH just climbed into bed and went to sleep.  Noah eventually gave up and went to sleep and I was able to get to bed around 11:45, but then he woke up and started fussing again at 12:30.  I just lay there without moving as he escalated to real crying and waited until DH finally got out of bed and rocked him back to sleep (which he did very easily and then Noah slept till 5am!). I never moved or acknowledged either of them at all.  I just wanted to sleep!

I should add that I had nursed Noah right before pacing with him and he kept pulling away and did not want any more milk, so I was pretty sure he hadn't woken up to eat again.  I should also add that DH works at home today and is able to take a nap and rest so he is supposed to get up and help me at night more on Thursdays and during the weekend.

superaunt

: ) Ah the early days. ; )

i try to do this- pretend not to hear her wake- but it never works. sabrina could be on top of DH screaming and crying and he would still snore away. it drives me NUTS!

mtnrider

I think we've all pretended to be asleep so that our DH would go settle the baby.  In my case it has to be DH anyway since S just won't settle when I try to settle him, he cries harder.

Peppernut

Been there! 

SFAug07

I've tried to do that too but DH would not wake if an airplane landed on his head.

ScoobyM

What kills me is my DH actually sleeps with a pillow over his head; and he has always done this, even before we had babies.  He will hear them eventually but it takes waay too long and I can never wait him out.  I think it only worked this time because Noah is still in our room with us and we hadn't been asleep all that long. 

On the positive side, I should share that this morning Ellie woke up before Noah and I woke up DH and asked him to go get her up so I could sleep a bit longer.  He actually jumped right out of bed and went to get her (although I did also tell him I'd do something nice for him today and I think he had something specific in mind!).   He's actually a pretty good guy about helping, just a really deep sleeper! 

peeper72

I still do that. Is that bad?

 

I recall some of the loneliest times for me being in the middle of the night when it was chilly in our old apartment and I was up all alone with Ada. DH would be sleeping so peacefully beside me  while I was barely upright but desperately trying to focus. My nipples were so blistered and sore as I was in tears over how poorly BFing was going. He was oblivious. It's not his fault but I really resented him in those moments. It's irrational, I know. But I borderline hated him for having it easier just then.

ScoobyM

Peeper - I can't tell you how many tirades I have in my head in the middle of the night while DH is sleeping away and I'm pacing around our bedroom with Noah, praying he will just fall asleep already!  If my DH ever actually heard the things I say in my head at those times, he would be so shocked and hurt!  I keep telling myself he has to get up and go to work and I try to remember all the other things he does to help out, but in the wee hours of the night all that really matters to me is that he is sleeping and I am not!

ateytelb

I sleep in the baby's room b/c my H needs to be well rested. I wouldnt want him to make a mistake and kill a patient b/c ob being tired. It was my decision to let him sleep but I kind of hatr him a little bit now. He suggested a night time nanny (I EP). I may end up getting one if the baby continues not sleeping at night. They must be hard to find though.

debbadebbadoo711

I've done this.