*Shannon*

Daisiesinmygarden

I wanted to share something with you that my kids councelor told me (I put them in counceling when I left XH because he was playing with their heads). Anyway, I was frustrated because I was doing everything for them and my life pretty much revolved around what was best for them, regardless of how hard it was for me and all XH had to do was fart in their general direction and they swooned and they basically took everything out on me. She told me to try to take this behavior, as hard as it was, as a compliment. She said acting out towards me meant that they trusted me and were confident in our relationship. It was hard, but it got me through many a little heartbreaks - and mitigated my reactions to them - until things got better.

I don't know enough about your situation to really make comparisons, but even if this isn't relevant to your sons' behavior, but it was perhaps the most valuable thing that came out of the counceling for me. Hopefully, this is what is going on with your sons. If you are open to it, I hope you can find a councelor who can give you what you need to at least ride this out and react in the most positive and beneficial way.

ShannonLK

Thanks, I appreciate it.