What do you call...

lulu3061

Your husband's sibling's spouses?  

I would call my husband's, brother's, wife my "SIL".... but someone just said that only your spouse's sibling is the "in-law" and that she would be my "brother-in-law's wife".

Help me settle this one.  Professor Google is on my side but I'm wondering if it's a regional thing. 

CFH79

I call him my SIL's husband.  But I don't like him that much:)  If I liked him more or we were closer, I could see calling him my BIL.  Or I say DH's BIL.

jcrawford76

I say SIL.

EarsToYou

I would also call my husband's brother's wife my SIL.  And that's all I've ever heard in WI/MI/IL/MN... 

Myheart1297

I would say my husband's brother's wife is my SIL, I don't really know anyone that says it the other way.

lilmgirl

EarsToYou:

I would also call my husband's brother's wife my SIL.  And that's all I've ever heard in WI/MI/IL/MN... 

MN native here and this is all I've ever heard as well.

babyonthebrain2010

I've used both, but I say SIL most often.  my husband has 6 brothers, and the 3 that are of marrying age are already married.. it's confusing enough keeping track of all of those people, SIL is just easiest.

lulu8109

I would call my husband's brother's wife "SIL."  But I know some people would not consider your BIL's wife to be your SIL.  I don't follow such silly rules, so I would call her SIL.

Or you could be like my annoying sister and SIL (DH's sister) and just call her your sister.  My sis and SIL call each other "sisters."  (Yes, I have a chip on my shoulder and I'm not afraid to admit it, haha).

Sonadora

I call her SIL.

LaLaaaa

I call one Dillhole, and the other I call BIL :-)

 

melissa4252008

I call my husband's sister's husband my BIL.

LittleDucky

None of DH's siblings are married, but I'm not sure what I'd call their spouses if they were.  Probably BIL or SIL.  I know it's not technically grammatically correct, but there is no good other term.

MamaStef0810

I only distinguish my BIL as SIL's husband when I need to clarify which inlaw I am referring to, ie. BIL = sister's husband v. SIL's husband.

curlydoglover

I say SIL

principessa81

I call my SIL's husband my BIL, but the four of us have a great relationship and I would feel odd calling him anything else.

jedrumwright

dirty skank. 

elaforgia

Myheart1297:

I would say my husband's brother's wife is my SIL,

This exactly.  We're from the same area so maybe that's why??

Buggygirl84

In conversation, I'd say SIL is appropriate. If you were writing a formal paper or document of some sort, it would be "brother-in-law's wife."

FWIW, I refer to my husband's nieces and nephew as "his," not "ours" or ever "my."  Most of that is because I despise their parents and want nothing to do with them (until some things change). I know it's bad to take it out on the kids - and really, I don't. I'm nice and will play with them and buy them birthday/Christmas presents, etc. I just don't go out of my way.

JoJoMama730

I call 'em SIL or BIL too.

lulu3061

Glad I'm not crazy, I was seriously wondering if I sounded like an idiot all of this time.