How to cope with fear of miscarriage?

lalalaurenx0

I feel so much grief for people who have lost babies and I can't help but worry about losing my own. I know so many people that have miscarried that I feel like I'm so lucky to make it to 15 weeks. How does everyone soothe their worries?

pinkflipflops44

I just don't worry about it.  I'm pregnant and healthy today and that is enough for me.

Erin1010Sky

I bought a doppler the day after my cousin (who was 2 days ahead of me) miscarried at 10 weeks. I listened to baby morning and night every day for a month before it even started to subside a little...

ironmommy

I asked this question on the PAL board when I got my BFP this time after a m/c in July. I got a lot of great responses that all boiled down to this: Take it one day at a time. Be happy you are pregnant and your baby is healthy TODAY. Don't worry about tomorrow.

And at this stage in my pregnancy, I take a lot of solace in the numbers. The risks of problems past 10 weeks are very, very slim, especially if you've seen a HB. I have close friends who've had issues in the second trimester so I know it's not the safe zone, but it's good to be past the early part of the first trimester when so much can go wrong.

loregopar

ironmommy:

I asked this question on the PAL board when I got my BFP this time after a m/c in July. I got a lot of great responses that all boiled down to this: Take it one day at a time. Be happy you are pregnant and your baby is healthy TODAY. Don't worry about tomorrow.

Well said. I had a miscarriage and I also have a healthy boy, but I was still pretty anxious with this pregnancy. But one day a time is what helped me last time, and it's helping now. We've seen baby twice now, so that definitely helps

gwennylee

Adorable siggy Erin!!!!

janjag

Well, the fears are always there if you take time to think about it.  I try not to!

I did not have a loss, just a very stressful pregnancy from start to finish with my girls.  Horrible bleeding at 6 and 13 wks (commense bedrest), constant BH and racing heartrate, and shortening/funneling cervix starting at 23wks.  I was a wreck.  Sometimes I feel a little shell shocked, but I just don't have time for that in my life now. 

When I hit 28wks I will sigh a little breath of relief.  Until then, I'm just going to do my thing.

MrsH_08

I still worry some.  I had a m/c in May.  I've had spotting 4x in the last week, incl 2 red blood spotting.  I begged for another u/s so I could feel better.  Baby is doing just fine.  I'm trying to focus on how far we are already and look toward the future.  I will admit that there's a small part of me that is always fearing the other shoe will drop, even if I try not to focus on it.

katie110505

There really isn't much you can do. I have friends who have gone through horrible losses and it tears you apart, but I have to hope that won't be my outcome.

Neukim

I'm not sure I do cope well   I had a m/c in 06 and then my ds in 08...I will worry until this baby is out happy and healthy!

I don't even do any of the NT scans or other such test.  I don't want to sit and worry my whole pregnancy that something could be wrong.  I had a friend have a false positive once.

I think this board may have worried me more.  I see more and more m/c on here after 13 weeks.  I at least use to feel in the clear after 1st trimester.

LovelyLou23

There are women who miscarry in their first trimester. Some lose their babies mid-late pregnancy. Some have a still-birth. There are babies that have cancer, children who suffer through horrible diseases. Teenagers killed by drunk drivers or run away from home. Point is?life happens and none of us are immune to this stuff. I?ve personally chosen not to worry about miscarriage because if I let myself worry about possibilities, I will miss out on all the happiness and joy of life. Just my take J