Can i really do this???

BrookeRamirez

As i get further and further along I get more and more worried about if i can really do this. I mean twins?? Never in my life i thought i would be having twins...its not even something i ever ever thought about. I already have a 5 yr old which im really not that worried about but i have a 20 month old also shes still just a baby herself. Julio and I would have waited a little longer if i would have known it was twins,but who really knows they are having twins? How am I gonna deal with 2 screaming newborns in the middle of the night? Or during the day for that matter? Im so scared im just gonna go crazy, Im already bi-polar and not taking my meds right now, I plan on gettin back on them after i have the babies...I just dont know how im gonna do this. Anybody who already has twins have any advice? How did you do it (or how are you doing it?)

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I've been blessed with easy twins, but my twins are easier than DS1.  At the beginning it's really hard IMO, but once they can sit, crawl, etc, they're easy because they keep one another occupied. 

wonder-kitty

Yes, you can do this. It's not going to be easy, but just take it a day at a time. I had/have alot of the same fears.  I have a DD who's almost 3 and 6 day old twins. I have been anxious about how everything would go once we got home, but honestly, so far it hasn't been too bad. The first night was rough, DH and I only got about 2 hours of sleep, but it's gotten better as we have tried different strategies for the night time feedings.  I rely ALOT on my dh. I am bottle feeding and so I expect him to help out in the night. Right now the babies are pretty laid back.  I feed them back to back and then they both sleep till the next feed.   DD has been acting out a little and testing the boundaries and sometimes it's hard on her when I can't get up immediately to get her something. We just tell her over and over she has to  learn to be patient. Which, is a good quality to learn.  I'll be honest, we watch a lot of TV right now so that keeps her busy, I don't like it, but it works for the time being. I'm still very new at this and as the babies grow we'll have to learn and adjust all over again.

Start lining up help for when you get home with the babies. I've had some help, especially with DD just cause we've had a few doc appt for the babies so far and have more coming up. It's easier to get someone to watch her while dh and take the babies. And DD has more fun being home with a sitter and playing with her toys.

I would also start cooking and freezing some meals so you won't have to think about cooking after the babies are here.  One last thing you won't have to worry about.

Hope that helps you a little. There's a big learning curve with having one baby, but with 2...it's huge. Just have to take it a little at a time.

 

 

Twinluv

I only have my two babies, but I was terrified of how I would do it, too! Let me just tell you, you can do it!

1)Expect the first month to be horrendous, just expect it. And know that it is only like that temporary, it DOES get better.

2)Stay organized with bottles, formula, etc, if you are FF. Enlist in your Hubby's help (this is HUGE!) And realize that in the beginning, it is NOT how it will always be. Keeping organized helped and still helps us keep a sense of control and it does make life easier. Even if you half prepare a bottle by having all the pieces together, maybe already having it filled with the appropriate amount of water, these things get you going quickly when you have a hungry, screaming baby.  

3) Have a sense of humor. My Hubby is a jokester, so he kept things light as possible in the midst of chaos, truly, your sense of humor will sometimes be your only hope  If they were fussy or crying, he'd say funny things, like, "you keep up the crying, you won't get a pony", or "No car for you when you turn 16". It kept us cohesive in the midst of wanting to scream ourselves, as well as gave us some comic relief. It's really hard to see past the moment, but those hard moments do pass.

Another thing I learned is if you need to step away-by all means, step away! If our babies were fed, burped, changed, warm, safe, etc, and still were crying, we'd step outside (where we could still see them) and take a few deep breaths before attempting to soothe them again. IT WORKS WONDERS. There is nothing wrong with gathering yourself for a few minutes. Just those few moments to regroup, will allow you to go back in and soothe babies.

These are just a few things that have worked well for us. Good luck

 

 

janabelle3

Twinluv:

I only have my two babies, but I was terrified of how I would do it, too! Let me just tell you, you can do it!

1)Expect the first month to be horrendous, just expect it. And know that it is only like that temporary, it DOES get better.

2)Stay organized with bottles, formula, etc, if you are FF. Enlist in your Hubby's help (this is HUGE!) And realize that in the beginning, it is NOT how it will always be. Keeping organized helped and still helps us keep a sense of control and it does make life easier. Even if you half prepare a bottle by having all the pieces together, maybe already having it filled with the appropriate amount of water, these things get you going quickly when you have a hungry, screaming baby.  

3) Have a sense of humor. My Hubby is a jokester, so he kept things light as possible in the midst of chaos, truly, your sense of humor will sometimes be your only hope  If they were fussy or crying, he'd say funny things, like, "you keep up the crying, you won't get a pony", or "No car for you when you turn 16". It kept us cohesive in the midst of wanting to scream ourselves, as well as gave us some comic relief. It's really hard to see past the moment, but those hard moments do pass.

Another thing I learned is if you need to step away-by all means, step away! If our babies were fed, burped, changed, warm, safe, etc, and still were crying, we'd step outside (where we could still see them) and take a few deep breaths before attempting to soothe them again. IT WORKS WONDERS. There is nothing wrong with gathering yourself for a few minutes. Just those few moments to regroup, will allow you to go back in and soothe babies.

These are just a few things that have worked well for us. Good luck

 

 

 

I am having so many fears myself on how I am going to do this with twins...it made me feel a lot better reading this. Thank you for this wonderful piece of encouragement!!!

Desired11

Great advice that I also needed to help me in the future.  I have  DDs that are 4 years old (5 in January) and 2 years old (3 in April).  I also must continue to work full time...not sure how I am going to juggle twins due May 15.  I need to tell myself everyday that the Lord would not have given us anything that we cannot handle.  Also, my family/friends will be supportive...they are the best!!  Thanks again for the great pointers!!

jackieb3858

Twinluv:

I only have my two babies, but I was terrified of how I would do it, too! Let me just tell you, you can do it!

1)Expect the first month to be horrendous, just expect it. And know that it is only like that temporary, it DOES get better.

2)Stay organized with bottles, formula, etc, if you are FF. Enlist in your Hubby's help (this is HUGE!) And realize that in the beginning, it is NOT how it will always be. Keeping organized helped and still helps us keep a sense of control and it does make life easier. Even if you half prepare a bottle by having all the pieces together, maybe already having it filled with the appropriate amount of water, these things get you going quickly when you have a hungry, screaming baby.  

3) Have a sense of humor. My Hubby is a jokester, so he kept things light as possible in the midst of chaos, truly, your sense of humor will sometimes be your only hope  If they were fussy or crying, he'd say funny things, like, "you keep up the crying, you won't get a pony", or "No car for you when you turn 16". It kept us cohesive in the midst of wanting to scream ourselves, as well as gave us some comic relief. It's really hard to see past the moment, but those hard moments do pass.

Another thing I learned is if you need to step away-by all means, step away! If our babies were fed, burped, changed, warm, safe, etc, and still were crying, we'd step outside (where we could still see them) and take a few deep breaths before attempting to soothe them again. IT WORKS WONDERS. There is nothing wrong with gathering yourself for a few minutes. Just those few moments to regroup, will allow you to go back in and soothe babies.

These are just a few things that have worked well for us. Good luck

 

 

Exactly. We always joke saying we are going to be in trouble when they understand us because we always say silly/ridiculous things to make each other laugh. It really does help.