Hey all!! Please be my support! :)

jlu2210

So, Me and my honey had our wedding date planned, we had it set for 10/10/10. Well his lawyer needed to change his last name to his dads and he has his moms. So we got started on that. Well his lawyer didnt get started till he felt like it and now we wont be able to get married till after december. So we decided to pick march as our wedding month and now that we are pregnant we might have to do it earlier. I don't have insurance and our system won't provide tempory insurance cause "we make to much" So in order to provide insurance we might just have to have our wedding in january. I wanted it to be special and I keep thinking he's only marrying me because of insurance reasons but he keeps telling me that he loves me and he was planning on being with me for the rest of our lives. I am just so hung up on everything. And im worried that this pregnancy will end up in a miscarriage like the time before. Im so overwhelmed and need some guidence! So any support will be great! Thanks!

jessican08

I'm sorry you're dealing with so much...did you know you were PG before you guys decided to get married (i.e. are you getting married because you're PG)? I guess I'm asking this b/c it seems like you have some doubts about going ahead with the marriage: "I wanted it to be special and I keep thinking he's only marrying me because of insurance reasons". I can see how frustrating it could be to not have your wedding be exactly the way you want it, but life throws you some curveballs sometimes, that's for sure. Regarding your PG, I presume you're getting pre-natal care? Are they treating you as high-risk b/c of your previous miscarriage?  

jlu2210

No, we decided to get married way before I found out I was pregnant. But, now that we are, we are deciding to get married sooner than expected. I do love him and want to marry him it's just the fact that we had to do something, he has insuarance because of work and I don't have insurance yet but could have had it, but since we are gettting married we decided to hold off on it. In this kind of situation we are thinking about what's best for the child. I'm not sure what they are doing. I know that sounds bad, but my first doctors apt is on monday and im going to be asking some questions about it cause I really dont want to go through it again.. Im trying so hard to stay positive but it's so hard to knowing that it could happen again and not having the information I need.. Thanks for talking to me about this! It's been hard!

MrsMiniHoov

If you two were already planning on getting married why would you think that that he is only marrying you because of insurance? And don't stress over what may happen, just be thankful for each day that you have with lo! Good luck

hubblit

Deep Breaths!! Do not doubt that he wants to marry you. He is probably just as nervously excited as you are!

 You are HAVING A BABY!!!! YAY!!!!

 A January wedding would be beautiful!! You could do 1/1/11 or 1/11/11!!! 

First of all, take care of yourself - read some comedy books about how different men and women are. He probably doesn't even realize you are stressing so much! 

The most important thing you can do right now is take care of you and the baby and let your Baby Daddy take care of the lawyer and the insurance issues. Just start planning that big day and have fun with it and your pregnancy! When I start stressing, I read books like Eat, Pray, Love and The Power of Now - I also journal alot, dumping all my thoughts on paper and then being realistic about where things are going.

Be positive sweetheart.

 

fashionchica2

I understand .... my bf and I had talked about geting engaged/married prior to knowing i was pg but now we are speeding things along because it is expensive w/o ins ...and he has great ins. so we are getting married sooner that we had talked about but by no means does that mean we are only doing it because i'm pg. BIG HUG....hope it works out! oh and chew gum....lol i know that sounds funny, but it helps me....to think things through before saying anything because I have "my mouth full"

 

And dont worry i've had m/c's before too...try to relax and enjoy being preg in the moment! sending healthy/full term pg vibes your way!

pinquephloyd

I know all about the insurance vs. love issue. Me and my man wanted to get married in March 2011. We were trying to have a baby and I thought it would take way longer to conceive and that we would have plenty of time to get married and iron out all the financial stuff. Well only a month after being off the pill, POOF I got pregnant. We wanted to get married before the baby would be born, but we're in that "make too much" income bracket. So now if I want full coverage I have to wait until after the baby is born to get married. I keep thinking he may not want to marry me after he sees me all fat and raging with hormones. My biggest focus is just that I will have good health care for the baby and keep my stress level low for the baby's sake. I don;t think your man is marrying you just for the insurance. I know I'm only like 6 weeks along right now and I am already hormonal and paranoid about everything! Take care of that baby-to-be and don't worry too much about the wedding. Hang in there.

jlu2210

Ya I know... I already got my dress though and I really want to beable to fit into it before I get all fat! Haha.... Thanks for the advice girls I appreciate it!!