Naming your first born...

JKIndo

So I'm always a bit of an over analyzer, but here's my concern. For example, our girl front runners are Paige, Claire and Adeline. Paige and Claire are too similiar to ever use both. I also love both as middle names, so if we don't choose one this time do we "waste" it on a middle name in case we never have another girl? but then if we have a second daughter, we can't use it.

 Also DH has been insistent on Andrew since we started dating. I don't love it and am still not sure I can be convinced. He says maybe he chooses if it's a boy and I do if it's a girl (he likes all my girl ideas) However, what if we go with Adeline and later have a boy and he can't let go of Andrew? They could end up Addy and Andy. Ridiculous.

So my question is, when naming your first born should you chose the name you love as if it's the only child you'll ever have and live in the moment...or should I be taking all of these things into consideration?

mama31

Choose what you love now or you might regret it later.  You may change your mind with the second one or you may even have two girls.  FWIW I like Andrew, but prefer Drew as a nn.  Andy is to cutesy for my taste.

kiwi443

bethy84:

Choose the name you love.

Yes, this. And I don't think Paige and Claire are similar in how they are pronounced. I'm thinking you were talking about using them as first names for different kids, not as a first and middle name.

Mrs.Hizzo

I'm not seeing the similarity between Paige and Claire.

FutureMrsCaesar

I totally agree with everyone else, use whatever you love NOW on this child.  Don't worry about holding names for other potential children.  You never know if you'll even have another girl, and if you do, you tastes may have changed.

As for the Andrew thing...if you DH really LOVES it, and you don't hate it, you might want to consider going with it.  It's not a bad name (in fact I really like it), and just imagine if you had a name you always wanted to use and DH didn't want you to use it.  Ya know?  Maybe he's always imagined having a son named Andrew. 

DH really really wanted to name our son Matthew, and while I like the name Matthew, I didn't want a father/son Matthew combo.  But over the last couple months of my pregnancy he indicated that it was REALLY important to him, so I went with it.  Now I can't imagine my son having any other name.  It really will work out no matter what name you chose!

Charlie'sAngel2009

My husband and I talked about this last year when we were naming our first child.  We ended up deciding to use both of our top two boy names on him (first and middle).  So, if we find out 3 days from now that we're having another boy, it'll be a little tougher to pick a boy name than it would have been if we had "saved" one.  But maybe we're having a girl and may never have another boy, so I'm glad my son's name is what it is.  So, I agree that you should pick your top name for this kid and worry about the rest later.

I also agree that tastes may change over time.  My mom had 5 kids (3 boys & 2 girls) and had a girl and boy name picked out for each of us, and never once did she name a future kid the leftover name from a prior kid.  (E.g., my brother's "girl name" was Mariah, but my younger sister ended up as Emily.)  You never know what you'll like in a few years!

JKIndo

Ok, you're all right. Thank you. I agonize over what to have for dinner some nights so naturally I'm going to over think this decision! Paige and Claire aren't really too similiar now that I think about it. And as far as Andrew goes, DH feels very strongly about it so I might just give in. He claims he dreams about having a son named Andrew! And I would be sad if I had my heart set on a name and he turned it down. I def don't like Andy though and I'm well aware if we intended on him just being Andrew he could end up being Andy whether we like it or not.

Thanks for bringing me back to reality. It's just a huge decision and I don't want naming regret : )

1CINCYGIRL

Pick your favorite now, your taste will prob change for the next child-ours did.

Becky262

mama31:

Choose what you love now or you might regret it later.  You may change your mind with the second one or you may even have two girls.  FWIW I like Andrew, but prefer Drew as a nn.  Andy is to cutesy for my taste.

This 

kizz11

JKIndo:

Ok, you're all right. Thank you. I agonize over what to have for dinner some nights so naturally I'm going to over think this decision! Paige and Claire aren't really too similiar now that I think about it. And as far as Andrew goes, DH feels very strongly about it so I might just give in. He claims he dreams about having a son named Andrew! And I would be sad if I had my heart set on a name and he turned it down. I def don't like Andy though and I'm well aware if we intended on him just being Andrew he could end up being Andy whether we like it or not.

Thanks for bringing me back to reality. It's just a huge decision and I don't want naming regret : )

not necessarily.  you can insist that he's called andrew or you can nickname him drew (or something else, of course).

MelodyKate

this exactly.