Answering the "how are you feeling?" question at work

JenJen5868

Now that everyone at work knows I'm pregnant, I'm now faced with the daily question of "how are you feeling?" from everyone. Are you honest with your replies or do you just say some version of fine, good, etc., even if you're not? I really don't want to admit to my gastrointestinal issues and random pregnancy quirks to my co-workers, but if I say good all the time, I don't want to give the impression that pregnancy for me is a walk in the park, so they should just keep on piling the work on! Just curious on how everyone here handles it.

Soon2BMrsBoylon

I am discreetly honest.  Granted, I have had a pretty easy pregnancy so far so can't complain too much but yes, there are days where I feel like SHIIT.  So on those days, I say that I'm "hanging in there" or that "today is a challenging day" but leave out specifics.  On the good days, I just say I'm great.

azuremama

I keep it vague.  I usually just say I'm feeling pretty good, but sometimes I'll say tired, hanging in there, etc.  I don't really care if they think my pregnancy is a walk in the park or not.

FutureMrsCaesar

At this point if you are feeling better I'd say 'I'm feeling better, glad to be out of the first trimester' or something like that.  You are only 13 weeks and to be honest the next few months you should be feeling pretty good.  Save your whining for the end when people will actually feel bad for you! 

AACraven85

I feel your struggle with the question, I get asked a lot. I just say "I'm doing ok" and leave it at that.

On days when I'm grumpy I'd like to elaborate, like well I'm doing just swell, I woke up 3 times last night to pee and had a hard time getting back to sleep each time, I could barely put my socks on this morning, when I laugh now I kind of pee a little bit, I have heartburn if I even look at anything tasty to eat, my back hurts pretty much all the time, I cry at the drop of a hat, I can barely see my lady regions and all I can think about is I'm only going to get bigger and more uncomfortable. Does that answer your question?

PinkBackPack

I usually just say pretty good, even though I look like hell.

BeetleLinz1125

I usually keep it pretty vague...I feel people really don't care how I'm doing, just asking because it's the only they can think to ask.  If I'm having a rough day, I ususally just say "dealing with normal preggo stuff" and no one has ever pryed any further into it LOL.  But if I have a good day I do obviously tell them that.

SugarChick10

I usually just say "I'm ok.  How 'bout you?"  I have had a couple people say, "oh, I mean pregnancy-related" as a follow-up and I say "Still ok.  How 'bout you...?"  I didn't tell anyone in work until I hit 2nd tri, and the things I would have complained about had subsided (for the most part) by then. 

I think I'm going to say "I'm ok" even if I do have something I feel like whining about.  I'm sure some people are genuinely concerned, but I have the feeling that whining about anything pregnancy-related invites whoever is asking me how I feel to relay their pregnancy experiences, which I'm sure were worse (insert eye roll here) than whatever I could be going through.

CutieBean79

I usually say "Oooh, pregnant.  How 'bout you?"

missfire

When I was pregnant with my first, I really wanted to act "normal" all the time. I had an easy pregnancy, worked until I was 39 weeks, came back after maternity leave, and didn't cause the bosses any grief.

This time things are already getting challenging, and I have a boss who doesn't really know how to handle having an employee who goes to the doctor 3 times a week, is exhausted, and asks for some leeway on things. I get asked more questions this time, because people expect to hear all my fears of raising twins. And I work with a lot of young or recently married women who are starting to plan for their own kids. So I'm letting them know more things - that I'm tired, that I'm scared, that I'm so overwhelmed with keeping track of my pills/injections/protein intake/blood pressure that I barely even think about getting ready for the babies themselves. And I think I'm pushing more with my boss and management, because I know there are  future moms I want to help "pave the way" for. Hopefully they will have super pregnancies like my first, but if not, maybe some of these hurdles will already have been cleared for them.

cgator14

I am constantly saying "Feeling good! Thanks for asking!"..literally 5 times a day.

I save the funny/gory/weird details for my closer friends at work and home.

laurapalmer

I always say something like, "good, thanks." I figure they don't really want to know and even if they did I probably wouldn't share at work. 

august06mom

I just say that I feel good, a little tired (which I hope explains the bags under my eyes). I don't want to use my pregnancy as an excuse not to pile on the work, since they pile it on for everyone else.

skio

Lies.

I told people early on that I was rather ill with morning sickness, but that was the extent of it. I don't think anyone wants to hear about my sciatic pain, heartburn and pee cramps. lol.

And I don't care what they think about my pregnancy...I'm having a tough time of it but it's not for me to share in a professional environment.

carinamarie77

AACraven85:

I feel your struggle with the question, I get asked a lot. I just say "I'm doing ok" and leave it at that.

On days when I'm grumpy I'd like to elaborate, like well I'm doing just swell, I woke up 3 times last night to pee and had a hard time getting back to sleep each time, I could barely put my socks on this morning, when I laugh now I kind of pee a little bit, I have heartburn if I even look at anything tasty to eat, my back hurts pretty much all the time, I cry at the drop of a hat, I can barely see my lady regions and all I can think about is I'm only going to get bigger and more uncomfortable. Does that answer your question?

 LOL, this is awesome. 

penguin-kisses

AACraven85:

I feel your struggle with the question, I get asked a lot. I just say "I'm doing ok" and leave it at that.

On days when I'm grumpy I'd like to elaborate, like well I'm doing just swell, I woke up 3 times last night to pee and had a hard time getting back to sleep each time, I could barely put my socks on this morning, when I laugh now I kind of pee a little bit, I have heartburn if I even look at anything tasty to eat, my back hurts pretty much all the time, I cry at the drop of a hat, I can barely see my lady regions and all I can think about is I'm only going to get bigger and more uncomfortable. Does that answer your question?

I actually do this because I hate being asked constantly. When people realize they didn't actually want to know, they stop asking. HAHA It's not as much of a problem now though compared to with DS because I SAH.

nickelbabi

Lol. I was just talking to my co-worker about this today. She said she doesn't bother to ask me because she overhears everyone else ask me every time I walk down the hall. Usually I say, "still sick all the time" but I can't wait until I can say "fine". I try to keep it brief.

Ferris1013

I just say I am fine because I am already sick of hearing it! 

missmiss307

I just try to be upbeat about it. When I was in 1st tri and feeling sick all the time, I would respond that I was feeling a little tired/sick but glad I didn't have morning sickness as badly as some. During 2nd tri, it's mostly been, "I'm feeling great! I love the second trimester!" I'm with a PP; I'm saving my complaints for the 3rd tri!