F/U: Thanksgiving Vent

BalancingJane

You may have read my earlier vent about my family backing out of plans to come to my house for Thanksgiving and getting frustrated that I didn't want to go there . . . four days before my due date.

Well, today, my sister informed that I should be willing to come there because she's "pretty sure" I'm going to have a baby "way before then" anyway. Her basis for this? She had her son at 36 weeks and he was fine. I told her that it was pretty awful of her to wish a premature baby on me and that even if I did have her early, I wouldn't want to be traveling with a days old premie, either.

ARGH!

watermellens

Yikes!!! Sorry - that sounds like a crappy situation to be in...I wouldn't want to travel either!

Leanban

I feel your pain my inlaws-mostly my immature SIL is like well the baby is breech you'll be having a csection so what the issue with coming over ! I was like we will be at my home for the HOLIDAYS all of them this year . She is peed of to say the least ! I would ignore them all and set your boundries all that matters is your little one

NSL

I'd be ticked too.  Then again, think of it as a chance to have one last holiday with just your husband for company. 

mishu917

That's awful, I thought my sisters were just being insensitive because they have never had kids but clearly this is not always the case. In the end, don't let them hassle you about it, just do what is best for you and the baby. 

chach916

Definetly stand your ground.  Even if you do go early, you probably wont want to travel.  I was feeling great yesterday and so we decided to go to my parents (50 minute drive) to watch a football game.  Now I'm heavily bleeding (sorry tmi) and crampy.  And its just beacuse i did to much to soon. 

jesscullen

Yuck!!  My BIL's girlfriend said that she bets everyone "is going to be so mad at me" when the baby is born because I am due so close to Christmas (12/20).  I won't want to take her to them and they will be too busy with Christmas stuff that they won't be able to come see her.  

I told her where to shove it.   

CheyenneShaw

jesscullen:

Yuck!!  My BIL's girlfriend said that she bets everyone "is going to be so mad at me" when the baby is born because I am due so close to Christmas (12/20).  I won't want to take her to them and they will be too busy with Christmas stuff that they won't be able to come see her.  

I told her where to shove it.   

Yes, because how dare you have a baby around the holidays and ruin everyones christmas, you are so selfish.

 

On a serious note, that chick is a real B!tch.

 

Is it June yet?

How far away from your family are you?  I'll probably be in the hospital for Thanksgiving, so I won't have to worry about that holiday (should have a scheduled c/s the day before Thanksgiving).  But for Christmas... I live in the same town as most of my family, so I'll be at other people's houses.  I'm nervous about having him around so many people and just praying that he won't catch any colds...

sparklesbrooks

How cruel!!! That is really selfish to wish a preemie on you just so you can come to a silly Thanksgiving get together. There will be plenty of other times for the family to get together. But the way she's sounding, I wouldn't want to be around her even if my baby was older.

BalancingJane

Is it June yet?:

How far away from your family are you?  I'll probably be in the hospital for Thanksgiving, so I won't have to worry about that holiday (should have a scheduled c/s the day before Thanksgiving).  But for Christmas... I live in the same town as most of my family, so I'll be at other people's houses.  I'm nervous about having him around so many people and just praying that he won't catch any colds...

I am about an hour and half away from them. My doc told me not to travel; so I'm not going further than an hour away. My sister's reply to this was that "there are other hospitals closer." Right, so now I'm supposed to deliver at a hospital I don't know, with a doctor I've never met, so that you can have Thanksgiving the way you want. I've already decided that I'm not going and that we'll just have a lowkey dinner here, but she still drives me crazy.

conley81

My husband doesn't know this yet but I refuse to go to his mother and stepfathers house for thanksgiving. I am still peed off at her about a month 1/2 ago she told my H that I cheated on him with his step father of all people so I so hate her and my H want let me tell her where to stick it but Im not taking my two week old baby there for Thanksgiving and probably will not go for Christmas either. She owes me a huge appoligy before I even set foot in that house again. Sorry for the vent!

Leanban

OMG !

EliseJacqueline

BIL's GF is probably jealous because she doesn't have a baby!!! I was born December 20 and my mom was living with her ILS and they still had everyone over for Christmas, including my aunt who had pnuemonia ... 26 years later my mom is still pissed!

 Why are people so rude and inconsiderate??

GL to everyone dealing with crazy families and the holidays!! DH and I told our families if they want to spend Thanksgiving with us and the baby (due Nov. 10) that they can come to us and bring food!!!