Sick kids should not go to DC, right?

MexiCali

Z is sick and has been couching for the last week. Within the last week he has gotten worse. I believe he caught his cold from MIL's DC the last time he was there. It was the week before last and when I picked him up two of the little girls were sick. One was an older school aged girl and the other was a younger girl. MIL was carrying both her and Z while the other girl was coughing. She isn't really old enough to cover her mouth well.I have been trying my hardest to make things smoother with my MIL, so I rerfrained from saying anything. I took Z home and just mentioned it to DH.

I was really pissed that they were not even seperated from my "well" child. This week is back to being her week of watching him. She only gets a few days out of the week by the way. I told DH if the kids were sick then we were not taking him there. She obviously doesn't seperate sick kids or have the parents keep them home. I also don't think we should take Z sick as it is not fair to the other kids that are not sick.

DH thinks it would be okay and we should take him. He agreed to call and make sure the other girls are still not sick. He is not just as worried as I am.

What do you say?

brideofscowboy

Well, if you're going to hold your kid back from DC every time they have a cold, runny nose, or cough, I suggest looking into being a SAHM.

Fever, vomiting and diarrhea not associated to diet and pretty much not being able to participate are the factors to staying home in our DC..

Also, if they are on anti-biotic meds, they are only able to return 24 hours after starting the meds.

HTH.

hilwithonelary

How sick?  If I kept DS home everytime he had a runny nose or a cough, I'd have run out of leave days long ago.  I do keep him home if he has a fever (my daycare's rule is they get sent home with a fever >101.5, and then they must be fever free without medication for 24 hours before they come back) or is obviously feeling lousy, but for every little cough/sniffle, it's just not feasible to keep him home. 

ETA: I forgot about diarrhea and vomiting.  I would keep him home for that too, but thankfully we haven't dealt with that yet.

sleepingbeauty825

I agree with PP. I only keep S home if he has a fever, diarrhea or is vomiting. He has been sent home from DC once for being just plain miserable, but I can't afford to keep him home every time he has a cough or a runny nose. Many parents with children in DC are in the same boat. It does suck, for everyone involved. If you can afford to keep him home then you should, but don't be mad at your MIL. Other people may not have the same luxury, and your MIL is just doing her job, you know? I have Simon on probiotics and they have helped him stay healthy at DC, maybe if Z goes frequently you could try that?

sleepingbeauty825

I agree with PP. I only keep S home if he has a fever, diarrhea or is vomiting. He has been sent home from DC once for being just plain miserable, but I can't afford to keep him home every time he has a cough or a runny nose. Many parents with children in DC are in the same boat. It does suck, for everyone involved. If you can afford to keep him home then you should, but don't be mad at your MIL. Other people may not have the same luxury, and your MIL is just doing her job, you know? I have Simon on probiotics and they have helped him stay healthy at DC, maybe if Z goes frequently you could try that?

MexiCali

We're lucky enough to have the luxury of having other places to take him. My mom, my grandma and my sister would all watch him in place where he can get better without being around other sick kids or getting kids sick.Thanks for the snark.

ASmallWonder

Pretty much what all the others have said.  Aiden's had a cold for over a week and I definitely can't afford to have kept him home all those days.  He's fever free so to DC he goes.

amykins1283

MexiCali:

We're lucky enough to have the luxury of having other places to take him. My mom, my grandma and my sister would all watch him in place where he can get better without being around other sick kids or getting kids sick.Thanks for the snark.

*looks for snark*

Nope, don't see any.  I see the truth.  I agree with everything everyone else has said.

BellaAmor215

MexiCali:

We're lucky enough to have the luxury of having other places to take him. My mom, my grandma and my sister would all watch him in place where he can get better without being around other sick kids or getting kids sick.Thanks for the snark.

Are you really going to take him to different places just because of a cold? It's going to be quite exhausting since kids get colds a lot in the winter. Their noses run, they cough, sneeze, it just happens. But GL!

Hot Sauce on a Stick

As irritating as it is to see a sick kid at daycare, it's hard to prevent for the reasons stated above. Add in the fact that most viruses have an incubation period of 24-48 hours and you have a recipe for frustration. (Nathan threw up yesterday. If he's sick, whatever he has he could have been spreading to the kids at daycare as early as Thursday.) I take my kids unless they have a fever, diarrhea, vomiting or are on antibiotics for less than 24 hours.

lindsayll

MexiCali:

We're lucky enough to have the luxury of having other places to take him. My mom, my grandma and my sister would all watch him in place where he can get better without being around other sick kids or getting kids sick.Thanks for the snark.

Perhaps you should just go ahead and make that the full time arrangement.  Honestly, you can do what you are describing, but I'll be dollars to donuts each time you take your kid back to DC there will be another cold within a week.  It's part of the DC package.  I look on the bright side - my kid is going to have a Delta-force-black-ops-kickass immune system well before she starts kindergarten.

Hot Sauce on a Stick

lindsayll:

MexiCali:

We're lucky enough to have the luxury of having other places to take him. My mom, my grandma and my sister would all watch him in place where he can get better without being around other sick kids or getting kids sick.Thanks for the snark.

Perhaps you should just go ahead and make that the full time arrangement.  Honestly, you can do what you are describing, but I'll be dollars to donuts each time you take your kid back to DC there will be another cold within a week.  It's part of the DC package.  I look on the bright side - my kid is going to have a Delta-force-black-ops-kickass immune system well before she starts kindergarten.

True that. DS started daycare at 18 months and was sick for a year. Now, two years later, he's rarely sick. I'll expect the same thing for DD.

MexiCali

I can't quote on my phone. The snark comment was to the person who told me I should just be a sahm. The part that pissed me off more was that the little girl was practically coughing on my son as Mil was carrying them around. My mom and Mil switch weeks they care for z and we don't send him to a real DC at their request. If I have the chance to keep him from being sick or getting other kids sick I thought it was a considerate choice. Also I do not know what the other girls even has since we haven't been there for a week. Z actually does have a kick asss immune system as this is his first cough or sign of being sick since birth.

Kelly-renee

They start slowly losing the immunities they have from you between 6 mos and a year.  You want him to be exposed to things, but I can completely understand not wanting him being coughed all over.  Though with whatever she had she probably gave it to him way before displaying symptoms

brideofscowboy

MexiCali:

I can't quote on my phone. The snark comment was to the person who told me I should just be a sahm. The part that pissed me off more was that the little girl was practically coughing on my son as Mil was carrying them around. My mom and Mil switch weeks they care for z and we don't send him to a real DC at their request. If I have the chance to keep him from being sick or getting other kids sick I thought it was a considerate choice. Also I do not know what the other girls even has since we haven't been there for a week. Z actually does have a kick asss immune system as this is his first cough or sign of being sick since birth.

You're welcome I guess. Snark wasn't my intention. Sorry you took it that way. That's the reality of daycare. Put a bunch of kids together, they share...everything. The only real way to prevent that is to be a SAHM or not expose your child to anyone.   I wish you luck.  <---- snark

BellaAmor215

brideofscowboy:

MexiCali:

I can't quote on my phone. The snark comment was to the person who told me I should just be a sahm. The part that pissed me off more was that the little girl was practically coughing on my son as Mil was carrying them around. My mom and Mil switch weeks they care for z and we don't send him to a real DC at their request. If I have the chance to keep him from being sick or getting other kids sick I thought it was a considerate choice. Also I do not know what the other girls even has since we haven't been there for a week. Z actually does have a kick asss immune system as this is his first cough or sign of being sick since birth.

You're welcome I guess. Snark wasn't my intention. Sorry you took it that way. That's the reality of daycare. Put a bunch of kids together, they share...everything. The only real way to prevent that is to be a SAHM or not expose your child to anyone.   I wish you luck.  <---- snark

I just want to say, I think your DS has beautiful eyes!!! He is a cutie!

brideofscowboy

joshandash06:

brideofscowboy:

MexiCali:

I can't quote on my phone. The snark comment was to the person who told me I should just be a sahm. The part that pissed me off more was that the little girl was practically coughing on my son as Mil was carrying them around. My mom and Mil switch weeks they care for z and we don't send him to a real DC at their request. If I have the chance to keep him from being sick or getting other kids sick I thought it was a considerate choice. Also I do not know what the other girls even has since we haven't been there for a week. Z actually does have a kick asss immune system as this is his first cough or sign of being sick since birth.

You're welcome I guess. Snark wasn't my intention. Sorry you took it that way. That's the reality of daycare. Put a bunch of kids together, they share...everything. The only real way to prevent that is to be a SAHM or not expose your child to anyone.   I wish you luck.  <---- snark

I just want to say, I think your DS has beautiful eyes!!! He is a cutie!

 

thank you!