is anyone NOT having a birthday party for their kid?

cvillebetrothed

my daughter will turn 1 the first week of december (just about a week after thanksgiving).  my ILs will be here, we'll have a cake, we'll have presents, we'll sing . . . but i'm thinking that might be it.

i want to a friend's birthday party for her 1 year old and it was utter chaos.  not that she didn't put on a lovely party (great food, good music, cute decorations, friendly people), but there were a ton of people (and little kids) there and, of course, the kids were each on their own schedule and blah blah.  she and her husband just didn't look like they were enjoying themselves or appreciating the experience at all.

i mean, it's not like my little girl will remember it either way.

anyway, i'm inclined to do just family (my parents can't come, they live several states away) and MAYBE one or two friend couples with kids.  maybe.  probably not.  i'm feeling like the mompetitors of the world will perhaps look down on me for this.

naflmj

We will celebrate with IL's the day of his birthday as we'll be away at a wedding. Then a small party with my family soon after. No kids party, he doesn't know the difference.

simplyatomic

We don't have friends or family here so it will just be us, I don't think he will feel slighted later. I've never done a big 1st birthday for any of them.

aliciamariel

We're not doing a 'real' party, either.  DS's birthday is the Monday after Thanksgiving, so we're going to cut a cake and sing over the Thanksgiving weekend, just the family.  I don't even think DS will have presents.  We're going to have a couple of books or something for him to open, but I don't expect family to get him stuff.  I don't even think it will all fit in our car for the drive back.  We'll also do something for him the day of his birthday.  I think it's awesome for those who do have parties, but I want to wait till DS can enjoy it more.

just_peachy

aliciamariel:

I think it's awesome for those who do have parties, but I want to wait till DS can enjoy it more.

THIS!!!!

wallycat

My LO was born Thanksgiving Day last year - we are having a small get together with family only on Thanksgiving to celebrate Thanksgiving and LO's first birthday.

CarissaRenee

Harper's birthday was yesterday.  We didn't have a party.  We had both our parents and sisters over for lunch (deli meat sandwiches and cake.) She opened presents, and everyone was gone in 2.5 hours.  It was right after her morning nap and perfect.  We didn't want to cram tons of people in our house.  I can't imagine stressing and spending money on something she doesn't notice or care about.  Of course we didn't put her in a costume and parade over to the grandparents' houses today, either.  I'm quite sure my grandma thinks we're terrible parents because of both of these things.

We're so boring.

dragonsmercy

Evelyn's birthday was on Wednesday... we live with my parents, so we just had her open presents when everyone got home (around 6ish), and when she was done that, we had dinner together as a family, and then we had cake. Evelyn was totally whacked out before the cake came, so she just melted down, and then she had a bath because she was COVERED in chocolate frosting (she didn't understand the concept of smash cake, and never took a single bite of the cake, but still managed to get covered in frosting....), which was a total disaster, and then she had a bit of play time for half an hour with her new toys after calming down from her bath before bed.

We were going to have a "party" today, but the only person who would've been here that was different from wednesday was my brother, and he cancelled on me yesterday (we knew on Tuesday that there was a possibility he might cancel due to working overtime, but he didn't confirm till yesterday), so we didn't do anything extra special today at all.

greycoral

none here either. All our family lives out of state, and since DS's bday is 2 days before Christmas, the few friends we have in town can't make it because they have holiday plans out of town. We live in a small college town, so no one is really "from" here.

My MIL might fly up for a couple days to visit, but we're not doing any kind of party. There will be a few small gifts and cupcakes, but thats it.

SpartanGirl

Nothing here either. Our family is also all out of state.  We will have a cake and a mini-celebration with just the kids, DH and I.  I don't think there's anything wrong with simple and small.  I think kids could stand to have more simple things in their lives.

greycoral

SpartanGirl:

Nothing here either. Our family is also all out of state.  We will have a cake and a mini-celebration with just the kids, DH and I.  I don't think there's anything wrong with simple and small.  I think kids could stand to have more simple things in their lives.

 

EmmieB

greycoral:

SpartanGirl:

Nothing here either. Our family is also all out of state.  We will have a cake and a mini-celebration with just the kids, DH and I.  I don't think there's anything wrong with simple and small.  I think kids could stand to have more simple things in their lives.

 

Amen, sista.

MelodyMoonstone

I want to have a party, but we're not going to.  DH's parents are divorced and neither live anywhere near us. We're going to visit one on Thanksgiving and one over Christmas, so we'll do something small with each set.  With my parents, they see him every day so we'll have dinner together and sing but that'll be it. 

the way I see it, we're going to celebrate his birth.  But, my friends don't care, our house is way too small right now to have many people over and i'm not going to rent a place since our family is so small.  

Whatever.  his presence will be celebrated.  We'll do big parties later when he knows what's up, 

darleenmonroe

Don't feel bad! DH and I feel the SAME WAY you do! Our DS is our one and only so we (well I) ha ha decided to make a small cozy dinner for immediate family only. It will be DS, me, DH, MIL, my mom, BIL and maybe DH's two aunts and that's all. I'm going to make a lasagna with salad and cake. It will be dinner/cake and gifts at the end but that's only 8-10 people total (including us) and DS will be the only child in the room so it will be all about him!

I did buy some really cute blue b-day decorations

High chair banner that hangs on the border of the high chair table tray with matching floor mat that says happy b-day

Swirly #1's to hang from the ceiling around the chair

First birthday crown/hat

Don't feel bad. We think it's a great idea!