Would you consider this tacky?

totallyexcited

OMG I am cohosting a shower with a friend.  The mom to be is crazy.  First she wants certain decorations, made sure I emailed everyone their registery lists and a side list of what they want.  Then asked me last week why no one has bought anything off her registery.

 And then today I open up my email and there is a note from her with some coupons she scanned and reminded people about her registery.

 I told her that not everyone will buy something from the registery, but this is starting to get out of hand!  Am I just overreacting??

Thanks for letting me vent!!

susanlovestexas

She's out of control.  I personally would not attend a shower if the guest of honor sent me an email reminder to buy her a gift.

Mrs.Saxy

I would say that I don't feel it's appropriate to do that.  No, you're not overreacting.

iheartcutepuppies

Very very tacky.

Gift grabby. 

kellbelle618

susanlovestexas:

She's out of control.  I personally would not attend a shower if the guest of honor sent me an email reminder to buy her a gift.

Agreed. This exactly. Quite tacky

totallyexcited

I am glad that I am not overreacting!  Thanks Ladies!

I am co-hosting it so I have to attend, but luckily it's not too far away so hopefully she doesn't get worse!!

othello888

No, it is beyond tacky, maybe trashy.

SoCaliAli

Yes that is tacky.  You are not overreacting.  

vegetara

It sounds like she's crossing some lines. Perhaps you should discuss this with your co-host to try to figure out how the 2 of you will be approaching this.

ms.cbs

Yes, that is very tacky and ridiculous!  That girl is out of control and needs to just appreciate the fact that people will even want to give her gifts after that kind of behavior.

totallyexcited

I am kind of stuck, the co-host is her sister!

jengon

Very tacky and does she not know that most people wait until the last minute to buy the gift.  Most will be purchased the day of or day before the shower. 

BetchySprout

Ugh, tacky. 

At least she cares though. I am throwing a shower for someone who won't give me a guest list, she just wants to tell people and if they come, they come. As an etiquette girl, I just might die of shame.  

JuneBug0611

Well, if you're hosting the shower, you are supposed to spread the word about the registry, so I don't have a problem with her sending you a link to the registry.  It's kind of nice she also sent you coupons that you could pass along to the guests.  If she's actually whining about people not buying stuff off the registry, or directly sending them links and coupons, that's not so classy. But maybe she is just nervous that nothing bought off the registry means no one is coming, and she just doesn't realize that people just don't always buy off the registry or buy that far in advance.

As for the decorations, it depends on whether she's asking for/demanding specific decorations, or giving thoughts about a theme that she thinks would be cute.  I have to assume this is a good friend of yours or you wouldn't be co-hosting the shower, so I'd try to give her the benefit of the doubt rather than getting upset at her. Regardless, it will be over soon!

magdalina.h

she's out of control