extremely nervous 1st timer.

Bridezilla to be

I just found out I'm pregnant for the first time. YAY! We are super excited but now, all i can think about is "what if I mis-carry?" Is this normal??? I'm really excited about this pregnancy and dont want anything to happen.  I even wake up in the morning with a nervous stomach. Anyone else feel this way? How do I make it stop???

MaryJane459

Welcome and Congratulations!!!  The fear of a m/c is a very common one when you are pregnant. There is a great post on the next page titled "Another worried Mom to be question" that I thought really helped put things in perspective. I have felt the same way but I am really trying to just enjoy each day being pregnant and focus on growing this little apple seed inside me! Best of luck to you and I hope this baby sticks!! H&H 9 mo!

Krislax13

I felt the exact same way as you, but eventually I decided that even if I miscarry there is nothing that I can do about it.  So I feel better now that my mind is on other things like work and school.  Each day gets better. 

Mrs.Saxy

that fear has been normal for me

I don't think you can make it stop.  Just try to take pleasure in the fact that you are pregnant and enjoy every day of that, otherwise you'll go through your pregnancy and wonder where it went.

your nervous stomach might be morning sickness 

melfunk25

My first time too and I am the same way- I want to be super excited but cant stop thinking what if? Keep trying to put it in perspective!!

Dscratch07

I work in an OB office and had a patient give me the best advice ever. She said I need to adopt the mantra "My body knows what to do." It's helped me feel so much better about everything.

MeggieLou2

I'll honestly say that it is completely normal to be nervous.  However, do not spend all your time focusing on the negatives.  Afterall, you have to remember...YOU'RE PREGNANT...YAY!  Sooo, with that in mind...relax, that is the best thing for you and baby.  I'm also pregnant and in my first trimester.  I was pregnant once before about two years ago and did miscarry.  Your body will take care of you and will do what's best for YOU.  So, be happy with the news and take care of yourself.  For the nervous stomach try settling it with some crackers and ginger ale.  But overall, QUITE worrying!  That will settle your stomach quicker than anything.  Congrats, hun!

shaynecole87

I'm in the same boat. My best friend and I were due on the same day, she lost her baby this week. I'm terrified of the same thing happening to me, and I feel so selfish and guilty. They tried for a year, we tried for about 5 or 6 months. I'm trying to accept the fact that if something were to happen, there isn't anything I could have done to prevent it. H&H 9 months. 

smiling76

Dscratch07:

I work in an OB office and had a patient give me the best advice ever. She said I need to adopt the mantra "My body knows what to do." It's helped me feel so much better about everything.

This is so true.....not to say that women don't miscarry but most of the time it's because something was very wrong with the baby and it was the best thing to do.  We have to have faith in our bodies and in whatever else you believe in that it'll happen if it's meant to.  Not to say that we don't still worry.  Unfortunately, I've had personal stories of very late losses amongst my friends so until that baby is in your arms, it's never "safe" and even afterwards for the first 1.5 yrs I was a worry wort when he slept.

 

Jessynlove

Dscratch07:

I work in an OB office and had a patient give me the best advice ever. She said I need to adopt the mantra "My body knows what to do." It's helped me feel so much better about everything.

This is great advice. God made us to support , carry, and deliver a baby. Its one huge thing that women are made to do.

I made that post "another worried mother.."

I completley understand the fear. But, the replys to that post were VERY helpful.

EMLYNNLERETTE

Krislax13:

I felt the exact same way as you, but eventually I decided that even if I miscarry there is nothing that I can do about it.  So I feel better now that my mind is on other things like work and school.  Each day gets better. 

 

I aggre with Krislax, I have miscarried twice and I spent the first week and a half of this pregnancy totally freaking out about miscarrying again... But the truth is we can't do anything so just relax and enjoy the ride!

missjessy24

It's sooo normal.  I'm on #2 and am still worried.  Best thing you can do is go ahead and get some prenatals and as much rest as possible.  I'm a high-risk and that's what my OB told me to do.

amberhoothoot

I know this will sound odd... I am nervous too.. very nervous.

 But my best friend has been going through invitro and something that sticks with me alot is that she once told me... The only way to know if you ovulate is to actually get pregnant.

 So if something happens to this pregnancy I will be extremely sad... but I will know that the possibility of getting prego again is extremely high. Plus what another poster said... having a miscarriage usually means nature knew something was wrong with the baby. Not something you did.

Birdies08

amberawesome:

The only way to know if you ovulate is to actually get pregnant.

Nope.

OP- I think being nervous is normal. Just try to relax and enjoy being pregnant. Remember, right now you are pregnant and you love your baby.