How can I let DD CIO if she doesn't cry?

Baby428

I put DD in her crib to go to sleep and she cries when I leave the room, but then immediately stops.  She then crawls around, plays with her blanket and lovey.  She will then stand up and just pound on the crib with her hand but still does not cry.  I finally had to go in their and nurse her while doing squats, lol!  It put her to sleep, but geez....I wish she almost would cry so she could wear herself out. 

juliane2004

If she won't cry, then there's no need to go in there to nurse her in my opinion. Yes, crying wears them out faster, but the point is that they learn to fall asleep on their own, not to be nursed to sleep.

Baby428

juliane2004:

If she won't cry, then there's no need to go in there to nurse her in my opinion. Yes, crying wears them out faster, but the point is that they learn to fall asleep on their own, not to be nursed to sleep.

I agree, however, if she has been playing for almost two hours past her bedtime and refuses to sleep - I am going to help her out.  I'm not sure what her deal is lately.  She is soooooo tired - rubbing her eyes, really fussy - and then when I put her in her crib she gets a second wind apparently!

Sassy_Cassie

Missy42807:

juliane2004:

If she won't cry, then there's no need to go in there to nurse her in my opinion. Yes, crying wears them out faster, but the point is that they learn to fall asleep on their own, not to be nursed to sleep.

I agree, however, if she has been playing for almost two hours past her bedtime and refuses to sleep - I am going to help her out.  I'm not sure what her deal is lately.  She is soooooo tired - rubbing her eyes, really fussy - and then when I put her in her crib she gets a second wind apparently!

She probably doesn't want to miss anything.

 

Baby428

Sassy_Cassie:

Missy42807:

juliane2004:

If she won't cry, then there's no need to go in there to nurse her in my opinion. Yes, crying wears them out faster, but the point is that they learn to fall asleep on their own, not to be nursed to sleep.

I agree, however, if she has been playing for almost two hours past her bedtime and refuses to sleep - I am going to help her out.  I'm not sure what her deal is lately.  She is soooooo tired - rubbing her eyes, really fussy - and then when I put her in her crib she gets a second wind apparently!

She probably doesn't want to miss anything.

 

Seriously!  She is too curious for her own good!

Que*Syrah

I would just leave her. I can still hear DS sometimes 20 minutes after I put him to bed. I'd rather he play and cruise around his crib than cry.

BMenz

Missy42807:

juliane2004:

If she won't cry, then there's no need to go in there to nurse her in my opinion. Yes, crying wears them out faster, but the point is that they learn to fall asleep on their own, not to be nursed to sleep.

I agree, however, if she has been playing for almost two hours past her bedtime and refuses to sleep - I am going to help her out.  I'm not sure what her deal is lately.  She is soooooo tired - rubbing her eyes, really fussy - and then when I put her in her crib she gets a second wind apparently!

What is her sleep schedule like?

torrey111

wait.  you were nursing and doing squats at the same time?  Interesting...I'm trying to picture that in my head!

Liss_37

I don't get why you to back in there either.. if she's happy then I'd leave her be. I never go back in to DS, no matter how long he plays. He eventually goes to sleep on his own. 

IMO if you're going in and nursing her to sleep you're just teaching her to rely on that instead of being able to do it herself  

eta: were you the girl who also goes in when your DD is asleep and rolls her over because you don't like her on her tummy, and then when she wakes up you make her CIO?  

Jerseygirl16

I would just let her be too.  Even if it takes two hours of her playing to fall asleep it's important she learn to do it on her own.  And her not crying makes it a lot easier on you!

Baby428

BMenz:

Missy42807:

juliane2004:

If she won't cry, then there's no need to go in there to nurse her in my opinion. Yes, crying wears them out faster, but the point is that they learn to fall asleep on their own, not to be nursed to sleep.

I agree, however, if she has been playing for almost two hours past her bedtime and refuses to sleep - I am going to help her out.  I'm not sure what her deal is lately.  She is soooooo tired - rubbing her eyes, really fussy - and then when I put her in her crib she gets a second wind apparently!

What is her sleep schedule like?

She doesn't really have on   We always travel on the weekends which screws everything up.  She does tend to always take two naps tho, which is nice

Baby428

lisswastaken:

I don't get why you to back in there either.. if she's happy then I'd leave her be. I never go back in to DS, no matter how long he plays. He eventually goes to sleep on his own. 

IMO if you're going in and nursing her to sleep you're just teaching her to rely on that instead of being able to do it herself  

eta: were you the girl who also goes in when your DD is asleep and rolls her over because you don't like her on her tummy, and then when she wakes up you make her CIO?  

Hell no!  If DD is asleep, then I leave her be!  Are you kidding - I would never disturb the princess once she is asleep

Baby428

torrey111:

wait.  you were nursing and doing squats at the same time?  Interesting...I'm trying to picture that in my head!

lol, I cradle her as she comfort nurses while I gracefully do squats.  I consider it my workout for the day.  I can only do 3 sets of 25 before my legs feel like jello - at that point I slowly walk around the room until she is asleep. 

Liss_37

Missy42807:

lisswastaken:

I don't get why you to back in there either.. if she's happy then I'd leave her be. I never go back in to DS, no matter how long he plays. He eventually goes to sleep on his own. 

IMO if you're going in and nursing her to sleep you're just teaching her to rely on that instead of being able to do it herself  

eta: were you the girl who also goes in when your DD is asleep and rolls her over because you don't like her on her tummy, and then when she wakes up you make her CIO?  

Hell no!  If DD is asleep, then I leave her be!  Are you kidding - I would never disturb the princess once she is asleep

lol I didn't think so either, I was just about to edit that and take it out but you answered before I got back  

Abinormal

My daughter has been doing this recently and this is what works best for us.

I give her a paci (naps, bedtime and carseat are the only times she gets this), tell her "night night" and lay her down. She typically gets up once I've walked out the door and starts to play a bit. I'll let her play for 5-10 minutes and then I'll go in, give her the paci back (it's normally on the floor by this time), tell her "it's nap time/bed time, time to go to sleep" and lay her back down. I have to repeat this pattern 2-3 times (depending on the day/night), but I never pick her up and I never say anything other than "it's nap/bed time, time to go to sleep."

After a bit, she gets the idea and will stay laying down and will talk to herself a bit until she finally falls asleep.

antzd

Leave her be.  My LO plays anywhere from 5 minutes to over an hour in her crib.  She'll fall asleep when she's ready.