FFFC I guess

AFWife1229

MIL just chatted with me on facebook. Here's a few lines...

"How is our little granddaughter doing?"

"give our little angel a hug and kiss from us.."

 

The thing that bugs me...the OUR. She is MY daughter and she also has a name. She says this kind of thing everytime she talks to me on there. But...I think I made her mad when I told her we were not coming for Thanksgiving or Christmas. Ooops! ()

ToledoDeux

I have such a hard time understanding what bugs people about this.

AFWife1229

ToledoDeux:

I have such a hard time understanding what bugs people about this.

Honestly, I don't know why it bugs me. It just does. Maybe it just bugs me more because she's my MIL. I don't know. My mom doesn't say anything like it.

12bailey18

My mom does this to me all the time. It kinda gets under my skin but I know she doesn't mean anything by it. I gotta choose my battles and I do not think this one is worth fighting. I understand where you're coming from though.

nothanks0

My own mother says "How's MY baby doing?" It somewhat bugs me too.

msmanik

My MIL does the "my girl" thing too. Drives me batty, but she drives me batty in general so maybe it's just me being sensative.

Liss_37

ToledoDeux:

I have such a hard time understanding what bugs people about this.

I don't get it either 

emiliemadison

ToledoDeux:

I have such a hard time understanding what bugs people about this.

Nope, I dont get it at all.

I mean, she's basically replacing "granddaughter" with "angel". 
She is THEIR granddaughter. How dare they refer to her as anything but "The child of my daughter in law's loins".

MrsC17

Eh, I guess I get it if you're not on awesome terms with your parents or IL's, but for me at least, I don't mind a bit.  I welcome their help, their advice, and definitely their pride in their grandchild. I'm of the "it takes a village" mindset, so as long as they don't undermine my actual parenting, I'm fine if they call her any of the above.

JulieandBen

She asked how 'our GRANDdaughter' is. Not how is our DAUGHTER. She is in fact her granddaughter. It sounds to me like she's proud to be a grandmother. It's a shame it bothers you so much that she wants to use the term.

mattandbekah

emiliemadison:

ToledoDeux:

I have such a hard time understanding what bugs people about this.

Nope, I dont get it at all.

I mean, she's basically replacing "granddaughter" with "angel". 
She is THEIR granddaughter. How dare they refer to her as anything but "The child of my daughter in law's loins".

I agree.  I dont have the best relationship with my MIL all the time, but she is Jacks Grandma, thats not going to change.  The only thing that can change is your attitude. That probably sounds mean, but I have to say it to myself almost every time we are together.

Mrs.Keith2B

Is there a FIL in the picture? If so, maybe when she was saying "our" she was referring to herself and your FIL.

daisy_dueller

Is she supposed to say "How is your daughter doing?"...because that just seems cold, now doesn't it? What exactly would you like her to say?