How long is too long

MyOwnLady

for family to visit? Granted, my IL's are from India, but seriously...My MIL was here for 2.5 months, right after Adi was born. Then I had about 3-4 weeks alone with him and DH, now FIL is here for 2.5 months...then we'll have another 3-4 weeks alone with Adi, then we're going to India to see them AGAIN in December...I told DH that if we do that, no one is coming or going for the whole 2011. If they each stayed a month, I might be able to handle it, but 2.5 months EACH...this is driving me crazy! It's to the point where I'm dreading going to India, because I know I will have to fight MIL on everything, like I did here, and FIL's voice is getting on my nerves because he contstantly talks, and interrupts me whenever I'm talking to DH...

Ok, vent over...

NiniJ55

Did they cook -- were they helpful at all -- then I would love it... LOL

mickey1330

Wow.  I can't handle my MIL for a week, much less 2.5 months. 

Fuzzy8252

Wow.... you have much more patience than I would in that situation. MIL was here 3 weeks before DD was born and then 3 weeks after and I was starting to go BSC... and I like her!

Hang in there and stand your ground!

MyOwnLady

NiniJ55:

Did they cook -- were they helpful at all -- then I would love it... LOL

My MIL cooked sometimes, but she also threw out 3 bottles of BM because they had "gone bad" because the milk separated in the fridge; every time I pumped, she would act like Aditya was saying,"Ma, don't pump, I don't want frozen milk, I want fresh milk."....need I go on???  LOL

emily0829

My close family is my mom, step mom and brothers and they all live here, so I can't relate. I hardly talk to extended family. A card in the mail with LO's pictures are enough.

But I feel really bad for you. I remember loving that time that I spent alone bonding with my baby. Or even DH and I oohing and awwing over our baby together. In fact, I turned off my phone for about a week after he was born. I stayed with my mom for that week, but still. 2.5 month is a LONG TIME to have an extra person, much less an in law, living with you. Only to have another one coming to stay for the same duration 3 weeks later? That would be too much for me and I would have already gone insane. I give you credit for keeping your sanity at least remotely in check

 

Melly Mel

2 hours, max!

Fuzzy8252

I just noticed you're in MN... and your situation sounds almost exactly like one of my friends. Her IL's come over from India together and seperately a few times every year and it's starting to drive her crazy. Plus, they'll eat nothing buy their prepared food, just like they would eat at home. She's been wanting to cook something different (like pasta!) so badly, but they refuse to eat it!

Aimeelb1

My mom came to stay with us for 2 weeks right after DD was born. I thought I was going to go insane. 2.5 months? OMG, you poor thing.

ToBeMrsT

mickey1330:

Wow.  I can't handle my MIL for a week, much less 2.5 months. 

this & my mil even stays at a hotel when she visits.

KRMac

Yeah, about a week is all I can stand!  You are a saint!

MyOwnLady

Fuzzy8252:

I just noticed you're in MN... and your situation sounds almost exactly like one of my friends. Her IL's come over from India together and seperately a few times every year and it's starting to drive her crazy. Plus, they'll eat nothing buy their prepared food, just like they would eat at home. She's been wanting to cook something different (like pasta!) so badly, but they refuse to eat it!

Yup, Burnsville, just south of TC!

My MIL would eat whatever I made, but when she cooked, she would re-arrange my kitchen. That drove me nuts. I HATE water spots on my granite, so when she washed her hands at the sink, she made sure to splash water everywhere. And they have a maid in India to pick up after them...guess who got that job here???? ME! Neither my FIL nor MIL know how to make a bed properly, but that's in their room, so I don't bother that much. And even though there's a playroom downstairs for Adi, FIL keeps bringing toys up to play with. Or keeps Adi in his (FIL's) room on the bed with a book and lets him play and get overstimulated until he cries...

Blah blah blaaaaaahhhhhhh! Grrrrr...lol

mickey1330

ToBeMrsT:

mickey1330:

Wow.  I can't handle my MIL for a week, much less 2.5 months. 

this & my mil even stays at a hotel when she visits.

So does mine, thank goodness.  Otherwise, I'm sure I'd be minus a MIL.

wolverine8

My dad has a three day rule. Three days is plenty of time. Even when DS arrived, no one was here for more than 2-3 days. Keeps us all still happy and loving each other.