S/O How often do you lose your ***?

Andrewsgal

How often do you lose your stuff with your kids and yell when you should not?

MotherBucker

I have  two teenagers, a preteen, and a toddler in my house (and the baby)

 

I lose it every.single.day

mlm1128

Not too often anymore.  Between the ages of 3-4, more than I would care to admit.

 

Kapalua

some days are good...some days not so good. 

FloF9

My DH and I really try hard to divide and conquer.  Meaning that if I feel I'm a short fuse then he takes over and vice versa.

However, I lost my sh*t with him last night because I was bathing them, putting them to bed, when he got them out of bed to clean up their toys.  Ugh you couldn't have asked them that while they were home for 3 hours????

summerbrideDC

For a long time, rarely.  Lately I've been losing my temper more often.  Really losing it, like yelling? At least once a week.  But I've been snappish and impatient a lot with DS almost daily lately and I really need to address it.  :-(

emilykristene2006

Daily. DS loves to put a pillow on his sister's head and slam his ass right on top of it. Time-outs do not work, although he gets them all.day.long.

Excuse me while I go lose my *** right now.

Andrewsgal

I will be honest with a 2 and 4 year old I lose my stuff everyday. I have my masters in behavior therapy so I have all the trick/tools at my disposal and still lose it all the time.

Zenya

It used to be a LOT.  Like seriously it was a good day if I didn't   Now, really not much.  Maybe 1/mo I'll yell enough to feel I need to apologize.  If that.

eclaires

I never do, because I'm the perfect mom.

Temp970088312507122

I can think of two times where I've just really ridiculously and embarrassingly lost my sh!t on DD1. But I do get snappy and impatient a lot. 

ETA: The two times I say I lost my *** were just horrible. I do do your basic yelling too, probably not everyday, but I've been especially snippy lately. 3 is a tough age for me. 

Zenya

Andrewsgal:

I will be honest with a 2 and 4 year old I lose my stuff everyday. I have my masters in behavior therapy so I have all the trick/tools at my disposal and still lose it all the time.

do you get enough sleep?  Getting about 8 hours a night has made a tremendous difference here.

StarryNight39

About every other day or so. The girls are just so out of control sometimes.

mamarazzi

Before age three?  I don't think I ever yelled.  And when I worked, I lost my sh!t a lot less.  Now that I'm home all day, every day, pregnant and with two under four, I'd say I really flip m sh!t maybe every other week.  I fa-reaked yesterday when I'd asked DS1 to sit down when drinking his juice no less than five times and then he kept drinking it as his climbed into his chair and spilled it...all over our freshly shampooed carpet.

I'm really working on yelling less, but the kid drives me absolutely crazy sometimes.  I think I've only freaked out when dealing with DS2 once.  I have much more patience when I can still excuse -- and diffuse -- the behavior when they're young.  It's the manipulation, sass, back-talking and blatant ignoring that drives me to the brink.

shopgirl78

This weeks been hard.   I notice when I am preoccupied or worried about something, I tend to lose it more.   I'd say at least a couple of times this week. 

ccm1203

several times a week.

veloelle

Too much. I'm working on it. Le sigh.

buffalo_buckeye

Yeah before the age of three maybe once? Then it got progressively worse (say once a month?) Since dd's arrival it's probably once a week?

gracendantho26

When they were younger I had a really hard time not yelling at least once a day if not twice. I found toddlerhood super stressful. Now that they are elementary school aged (7 and 5.5) I rarely actually yell at them. I talk in a stearn voice often but I don't actually lose myshit anymore. Thank goodness because I used to freaking hate how I'd feel at the end of a bad day when they were smaller.

CleoKitty

I yell a lot. Daily, really. And is it so horrible of me that even though I know I need to tone it down a bit sometimes that overall I don't think a little bit of yelling is the end of the world?

Just a few minutes ago I was getting ready for work and sat my bag down by the door as I got my keys and coat. Dd started rummaging through my bag and I nicely reminded her that she needed to leave it alone. She didn't listen, took an apple out of my lunch bag and then dropped it on the hard floor. I loudly said (yelled?), "Damnit! That's why I asked you to leave my bag alone."

Stellar parenting? No, hardly. Horrible parenting? No, not really IMO. I don't think that kind of yelling is going to leave a child damaged and I am just human after all. I try to watch it, but I don't stress too much about it either when it happens.

(And now I'm at work with a bruised apple for dinner, LOL.) 

j-w

I would say probably twice/week.  I have noticed that I mostly lose it when it is something that I know my kids are capable of doing right.  ie, asking my 5 year old DD to leave her brother alone.  The first 2 times I ask, it comes out nicely.  But, by the 3rd time that I see her purposely trying to pisshim off, I lose it.  Admittedly, I lose it a lot more on DD than on DS.  I think I am similar to mamarazzi in what she posted...it's one thing to deal with a 2 year old doing regular toddler things, but it's a whole 'nother level of frustration to deal with deliberate sassiness and not listening.

KrisBriMcBunny

MotherBucker:

I have  two teenagers, a preteen, and a toddler in my house (and the baby)

 

I lose it every.single.day

This except I dont have a preteen...and add 2 dogs and a cat to the mix...Of course I'm gonna lose myshit on a daily basis lol

peekaboo716

All too often. It makes me sad. I am working on it, and DH and I try to step in for each other when we see the other headed down the wrong path.

I agree with mamarrazzi though. It's the not listening backtalking etc. that drives me over the edge.

femmegem

Not too often these days, thank goodness. Prozac helps.

KRISTA555

I never have, but my DD is only 4 months old..lol

Carol*Brady

When I had one kid--pretty much never.  When I had 3, little sleep, a disfunctional thyroid & a lot of stress...all the time.  Now probably once a week if that.  

DandR

I wouldn't believe ANYONE who said they NEVER lost their sh!t.....that's like saying you've never masturbated......don't believe it.

*Amy*

I usually have A LOT of patience. However, being 9 mo pg and having two busy boys lately it has been daily.  I feel awful about it.  I have zero patience right now.

expectingnothing

mamarazzi:

Before age three?  I don't think I ever yelled.  And when I worked, I lost my sh!t a lot less.  Now that I'm home all day, every day, pregnant and with two under four, I'd say I really flip m sh!t maybe every other week.  I fa-reaked yesterday when I'd asked DS1 to sit down when drinking his juice no less than five times and then he kept drinking it as his climbed into his chair and spilled it...all over our freshly shampooed carpet.

I'm really working on yelling less, but the kid drives me absolutely crazy sometimes.  I think I've only freaked out when dealing with DS2 once.  I have much more patience when I can still excuse -- and diffuse -- the behavior when they're young.  It's the manipulation, sass, back-talking and blatant ignoring that drives me to the brink.

 Ditto all this but I'm not pregnant.  But since we pulled them out of school in May and I've been home with them 24/7, moved 500 miles, lived in a new place on my own for 7 weeks, found out H was having an affair, got legally separated, moved 500 miles back and am single parenting and job hunting, pretty much every other hour.  The gym is the best thing I have done for all three of us to get out of the house and have a little time apart from each other every day.