Upsetting -Daycare related

Krisann79

I just received a call from my in-laws saying they just saw DD and another baby being fed from the same spoon and same food container!  To make things worse I don't have access from my job.  I frantically contacted DH, sister and mom to look.  By the time they got online she was done being fed.  I'm pretty sure that it was a misunderstanding because this is a very nice facility but it makes me sick to my stomach!  I trust these people.  Now how am I supposed to like them like I did before.  I'll feel better after a few days of verification but I asked my family to keep watching to see and if they also verify it we'll have to contact an atty and see what our options are.  This is SO upsetting!

Mrs.Keith2B

Contact an attorney? Seriously?

Why don't you just directy ask your DCP about what your IL's saw. I can understand you being upset, but why would you let the situation continue so you can "verify" it, if it really is happening?

+ T +

Could your inlaws in anyway be mistaken?

Would you be willing to ask the DCP about it when you pick her up tonight?

heather_09_15_07

WTF? What would you contact a lawyer for?

mandi7782

Mrs.Keith2B:

Contact an attorney? Seriously?

Why don't you just directy ask your DCP about what your IL's saw. I can understand you being upset, but why would you let the situation continue so you can "verify" it, if it really is happening?

This...what is your thinking process on this one?

katiemac12345

I can understand why you are so upset, but please talk to you DCP before you contact an attorney! It could have been a one time situation in which the employee needs to be reminded of the policies and disciplined, but I don't think it requires a lawsuit. Why don't you talk it over with the director, I'm sure she will be horrified as well and should make a plan with you on how to fix the problem. Then have your DH watch at meal times and throughout the day for awhile and keep monitoring the situation. Also you can find a new DCP without taking legal action. good luck!

AdamsWife08

Maybe I'm dumb, but how did your IL's see this?  I'm on board with everyone else...an attourney, are you serious?!?  What do you think they will be able to do?   I think this is probably a little dramatic!

If I was in your position, I would either get on the phone and call DCP now or address the sitiuation when you pick your LO up tonight.

Hot Sauce on a Stick

If you spill hot coffee on yourself you can sue McDonald's, too.

Seriously, I'm sure it's upsetting. I'd be upset, too. But you said you trust the daycare so talk to them. There are 150 possible explanations that come to my head and, while none of them make it OK, you should at least talk to them first.

For crying out loud...

12bailey18

Did I miss something? Why do you need an attorney? Can't you just ask them about it when you pick her up? It could be a simple mistake (either by your DCP or even your inlaws that "saw" it.) Just talk to them about it and see what they say.

Mrs.Keith2B

AdamsWife08:

Maybe I'm dumb, but how did your IL's see this?  I'm on board with everyone else...an attourney, are you serious?!?  What do you think they will be able to do?   I think this is probably a little dramatic!

If I was in your position, I would either get on the phone and call DCP now or address the sitiuation when you pick your LO up tonight.

I"m assuming their DCP has a webcam or something similiar....

Krisann79

+ T +:

Could your inlaws in anyway be mistaken?

This is what we're hoping.  We would like for this to be a misunderstanding.  I don't see the point in saying anything until we can verify that it's acutally true.

Hot Sauce on a Stick

Krisann79:

+ T +:

Could your inlaws in anyway be mistaken?

This is what we're hoping.  We would like for this to be a misunderstanding.  I don't see the point in saying anything until we can verify that it's acutally true.

But you want to involve an attorney? This is passive-aggressivism at its finest.

Walk into the daycare tonight. Say, "Hey, my ILs were watching LO today and they thought they saw you feed her and another LO off of the same spoon and out of the same jar. It was around XX:XX. Do you know what that was about?"

They will give you an answer. It will either be, "OMG! We had no idea! We'll check into it!" or "Yeah, we do that all the time."

If it's the first response they will talk to the person in the infant room at that time of day. If it was a misunderstanding they will find out and let you know. If it happened, she will be instructed not to let it happen again.

If it's the second response you can find a new daycare.

Either way, they'll know you're watching. Why would you want to wait and see if it happens again if it truly disgusted you so much that you are willing to call an attorney?

Nicole731

Mrs.Keith2B:

Contact an attorney? Seriously?

 

This. I was unaware that it is illegal to share a spoon. It's not the end of the world. Just talk to them.

PrincessShay80

OMG! An attorney? are you nuts?

While it's not the most sanitary thing to do and the daycare needs to not do that- each child should have their own spoon and eats their own food- it's not really that big of a deal. Talk to the daycare.

Kids are going to cough on eachother and be in contact with germs in so many ways at a daycare. You are over reacting.

shoeboxx

You should certainly speak to them first.  We all make mistakes on our jobs.  That's your LO and you're looking out for their wellbeing, but contacting an attorney is a bit much.  Not being snarky, but does the other LO have a severe case of cooties or something?

sasky

Maybe the person in the infant room just made a simple mistake and forgot which spoon she was using?  Def not cool, but also not something to throw a total FREAK OUT about.

I agree with the PPs.  Be straight forward about it.  Tell the DCP what your family saw and tell them your strong feelings about it.  I wouldn't start threatening a law suit just yet.

diana.filipi

I can see how your upset and all but it's not that big a deal is it?  An attorney?  That seems so OTT to me.  I realize that I'm pretty laid back but, IDK, I guess I would just tell them it was seen and ask them not to do it in the future.  What could an attorney do?  It don't think it's actually against the law

diana.filipi

HotSauceonaStick:

Krisann79:

+ T +:

Could your inlaws in anyway be mistaken?

This is what we're hoping.  We would like for this to be a misunderstanding.  I don't see the point in saying anything until we can verify that it's acutally true.

But you want to involve an attorney? This is passive-aggressivism at its finest.

Walk into the daycare tonight. Say, "Hey, my ILs were watching LO today and they thought they saw you feed her and another LO off of the same spoon and out of the same jar. It was around XX:XX. Do you know what that was about?"

They will give you an answer. It will either be, "OMG! We had no idea! We'll check into it!" or "Yeah, we do that all the time."

If it's the first response they will talk to the person in the infant room at that time of day. If it was a misunderstanding they will find out and let you know. If it happened, she will be instructed not to let it happen again.

If it's the second response you can find a new daycare.

Either way, they'll know you're watching. Why would you want to wait and see if it happens again if it truly disgusted you so much that you are willing to call an attorney?

Very level headed response.  This is really good advise!

carrieannew

Am I the only one who read the attorney post as sarcastic? yikes

biochemgirl

didn't you (OP) have some other freakout about daycare a while back?

I seriously don't get why you are going to wait until it happens again to say something.  And waht if you never see it again?  will you let it go?  are you going to watch every meal time everyday until it happens again?  I don't get your logic on this one at all.  If I saw that I would address it today.  I think it's odd you gave the access code to your in-laws and that they actually sit around and watch the daycare cam.

AllisonErq

really? an attorney?  over sharing a spoon? yeah, it's gross, but it isn't neglect or abuse. ttorney??  seems to me that they will laugh you right out of their office and then charge you a crazy fee.  no case here.

 if you are still so inclined, here is the lawyer to call:

 

LuckyBride06

HotSauceonaStick:

Krisann79:

+ T +:

Could your inlaws in anyway be mistaken?

This is what we're hoping.  We would like for this to be a misunderstanding.  I don't see the point in saying anything until we can verify that it's acutally true.

But you want to involve an attorney? This is passive-aggressivism at its finest.

Walk into the daycare tonight. Say, "Hey, my ILs were watching LO today and they thought they saw you feed her and another LO off of the same spoon and out of the same jar. It was around XX:XX. Do you know what that was about?"

They will give you an answer. It will either be, "OMG! We had no idea! We'll check into it!" or "Yeah, we do that all the time."

If it's the first response they will talk to the person in the infant room at that time of day. If it was a misunderstanding they will find out and let you know. If it happened, she will be instructed not to let it happen again.

If it's the second response you can find a new daycare.

Either way, they'll know you're watching. Why would you want to wait and see if it happens again if it truly disgusted you so much that you are willing to call an attorney?

This. Why do you have to "verify" that it's true. If they saw it, then they saw it, and all you have to do is say something to them. It was probably a mistake.

A S-ski

Bring it up with the DCP and they will sit down with you and watch the footage.  I've got news for you, even if it did happen, it won't be the last time your kid swaps germs with another kid at DC.  LOs swap pacis left and right, gum each others toys, share finger food that's already been in their mouth, etc...

JaysonandKristin

Girl, what's the difference between feeding from the same spoon and same container when they're all putting the same toys in their mouths anyways?  That happens more often than the cross contamination of the food, I'd bet.

Just calm down.  Tell them that this is what you saw, at approximately this time, and let them deal with it.  Let them know that you don't want to see that again, and if you do, you will be making other arrangements for DC.

No need for attorneys, no need for any name-calling or accusations.  Just facts.  Straight-forward.  Be an adult. 

Klevi

I'd be upset but I'm pretty sure that no attorney worth his/her salt would take this on.  You should speak directly to the DCP about it. And document it in the case that it happens in the future.

*p.s. you'd have to show actual damages to sustain a cause of action.