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My SIL is in labor

Olive44Olive44 member
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My brother and SIL are having their baby today.  This will be the first grandchild.  I am so happy for them, but this is so freakin' hard on me.  I have to go up to the hospital tonight to meet the baby, knowing I should have a 2 month old baby with me.  I don't know how I'm going to do this, especially with how depressed and weepy I've been lately.  I just wonder if it will ever be my turn. 
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member
    I'm so sorry.  It's SO not fair!
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  • jillcanadajillcanada
    My brother and SIL just had their second on Friday. Two years = 4 angel babies for me, and 2 take homes for them. I know it's not a competition, but it hurts nonetheless. {{{Big Hugs}} Staying strong also means allowing yourself to break down and cry when needed. Give yourself permission, and it WILL be your turn, it's just a question of when.
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    BFP #2: 01/31/2010, Identical Twins died in utero due to TTTS, D&E 05/19/2010
    BFP #3: 09/16/2010, natural m/c 9/21/2010
    PCOS & Bocornuate Uterus Dx 1.4.2011
    BFP #4: 01/11/2011
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  • csquared426csquared426 member
    I'm so sorry.

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  • Clerk9Clerk9 member

    Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry.  

    I know it's nowhere CLOSE to the same thing, but I do hope you are able to enjoy the many wonderful benefits of being a proud aunt!  My SIL adopted early this year after 10+ years of IF & TTC.  (Which is also different, I know.)  DH & I are now fortunate enough to live in the same area as them, & I get my baby "fix" about once a week seeing & playing with my niece.  Sometimes it's hard (especially seeing DH interact with her & knowing what a great daddy he'll be!), but right now she's an outlet for all of this love & spoiling I have inside.  And I find it motivational, too:  "THIS is what I'm going through hell for.  THIS joy.  It IS worth it, so you'd better hang in there."

    ((BIG HUGS))  I hope you're able to get through tonight okay, & I'm sorry it's not you & DH in that room.  But congratulations on being an aunt!  :) 

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  • jms2005jms2005
    It just really sucks that something that should be so happy is bittersweet. (((Big Hugs)))
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  • damabo80damabo80 member
    Hugs. I'm so sorry.


    BFP #1 via IUI ~ L (Fatal Birth Defect) 4/7/10
    BFP #2 via IUI ~ m/c
    BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
    BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
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  • mdm2137mdm2137
    ((hugs)) That will be hard.

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    April 2011 IUI #1 BFN. High FSH and other issues.
    May 2011 Chose to build our family through adoption
    September 2011 Actively waiting for a match
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  • millejj1millejj1 member
    Hugs, I am so sorry!
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  • CashewsMommyCashewsMommy member
    ((((big hugs))))


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    The day you first lay in my arms, you made my life complete.
    Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
     BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    ((hugs)) will keep you in my thoughts tonight.

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