30 Days of Truth: Day 6

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Back to a harder one...but no worries, we'll end the week on something awesome tomorrow!

Today's topic: Something you hope you never have to do.

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michelleaxo

Get a divorce from DH.

Emer

Bury a child.  One of my greatest fears and one of the worst things I can imagine having to endure.

L L CG

Divorce my husband. 

kiarox2002

I hope I never have to chose between my children.  DH and I were watching an episode of House last night and the parents had to chose which child to save.  It was awful.  

Obviously, I hope that I die before my children.  I have a bit of OCD tendencies and sometimes I obsess over this.  I really don't think I could handle it if Kate or DH died.  Now I'm freaking myself out so I'm going to back out of the post for now.

bobcatsteph

Get a divorce.
Bury my husband or child(ren).

OrangeFelt

I hope I never have to choose between keeping or terminating a pregnancy (for medical issues).  Its one of those random irrational fears I have, probably based on watching too many medical dramas.

mlf625

I think we're probably all going to have the same two answers here - lose a child, end a marriage.  Obviously, I also hope to never lose a sibling or a parent earlier than one would expect.  As long as I've got my family, I can probably do anything I have to do.

Nessia

Bury a child. I remember being in the house when they told my grandmother her son had died in an accident. The anguish that came out of her is something I've never forgotten. Orpah had a couple that lost all three of their kids in an accident. A divorce I could survive. I truly don't think I could go on after losing my kids.

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bobcatsteph:

Bury my husband or child(ren).

This is mine, too. Divorce happens, and though I hope it doesn't happen to me, I don't fear it in the way that I fear this. 

balihaigirl

bobcatsteph:

Get a divorce.
Bury my husband or child(ren).

yes, both of these.  

A&Jmom

bury a child

Deltadee

Emer:

Bury a child.  One of my greatest fears and one of the worst things I can imagine having to endure.

this.  i can't even imagine that pain. 

Deltadee

Emer:

Bury a child.  One of my greatest fears and one of the worst things I can imagine having to endure.

this.  i can't even imagine that pain. 

KSandAE2008

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bobcatsteph:

Bury my husband or child(ren).

This is mine, too. Divorce happens, and though I hope it doesn't happen to me, I don't fear it in the way that I fear this. 

Ditto.

EMTX

Emer:

Bury a child.  One of my greatest fears and one of the worst things I can imagine having to endure.

This. I can't even type it out or put it into words. 

meg120510

I too hope I never have to bury a child or get a divorce.  My parents divorced when I was 7 and then my dad divorced again right before I turned 20.  It isn't easy to go through at any age and I hope our children never experience that pain.  Another thing I hope I never have to do is make the decision to pull the plug for any member of my family.  I can't imagine making such a difficult decision. 

ACR

I hope I never have to choose to take someone I love off life support.

Mrs.Froggianna

This was an easy answer, because it's something that I worry about from time to time.  I hope as my mother ages that I never have to bring her into my home to care for her.  Our relationship is tenuous at best and having to do such a thing would break what little relationship we have left and, I fear, break me.  I know that my little brother will never step up should that situation arise, so I hope we would have the means to put her in a very nice assisted living center. 

My mom has had to cross this bridge with her aunt and it has been difficult for everyone involved. 

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Mrs.Froggianna:

This was an easy answer, because it's something that I worry about from time to time.  I hope as my mother ages that I never have to bring her into my home to care for her. 

oooooh, this for me, too. But with my MIL. Or FIL. Never. Nevernevernevernevernever. 

brideonjuly8

Bury any one of my children.

ssinca

ditto about having to bury a child.  a family friend lost her (only) child about 3 years ago.  she died on her 18th birthday, her friend was drunk and the car rolled.  of course her friend survived.  ;(  I still get teary-eyed thinking about it.

Nessia:

Orpah had a couple that lost all three of their kids in an accident.

if this is the same family I'm thinking of, there is somewhat of a happy ending - they did IVF and had triplets! 

https://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/21767764

PSA - not a good idea to read the article if you are hormonal. 

joyco

I hope I never have to live longer than my children.

Chicklit

ACR:

I hope I never have to choose to take someone I love off life support.

This, or something like it.

Abrooks

Bury either of my kids.  For some reason, I've really been thinking about this lately.  I cannot imagine anything worse in life.  

molliedb

bury a child.

amyliisa

Bury my kid. ETA: also, ditto Froggi. Except that my relationship with my mom has always been good, and I struggle with the guilt about being so selfish about this. But my mom is already somewhat disabled (MS and diabetes) and her brother lives with her and cares for her now (grocery shops, drives her places, helps with her glucose testing/medications, etc).. But she has made comments before about coming to live with us, or us buying a house with a guest house/apt for her, and it just makes me cringe. I feel like DH and have just started our life and family together, and I can barely keep my sh!t together as it is. It stresses me out to think about taking care of her full time too, and then I feel like a horrible daughter because I know I'll do what I have to do, but deep down I really don't want to. I'd love for her to agree to live the assisted living center right down the street from us.

misjenn

Bury a child hands down. My aunt (who is like a sister) delivered a baby and 3 hours later he passed away due to heart complications. When the Dr told her, I remember her face just breaking down and her whole world crumbling in front of her. She was so excited that she finally carried full term and had a beautiful boy after 8 miscarriages. It ruined her marriage and she was incredibly depressed for quite a while afterward. She bounced back from the divorce but honestly her heart still is broken over losing a child.

She does have a little boy that is 11 now (from another marriage afterward)

kissmytiara

I hope I never have to become a "mommy" to my godchildren - because that would mean their parents are no longer around and that would probably kill me. Of course, if something does happen I will always be there for the kids but I hope it never does.

FireChiefsBride

Lose a sister until we're old enough.  My mother is deceased and my dad has been very sick for a few years.  DH and my sisters are all I have.  I rely on them more than I should, but those are my foundations.

emabend

Bury a child without question.  I survived a separation and divorce shortly after DD was born.  In fact, I would say I have thrived.  Any one of us on here has the ability to survive a divorce, should we be faced with it.  However, I can't imagine losing my daughter.

mcurban

Definitely bury a child.

I agree w/ emabend. While a divorce isn't anywhere on my radar, I know that I could get through it and it would mean that there was something seriously wrong w/ our relationship. 

But, I have seen the faces of a mother and father who had to bury their 13 year old after a boating accident.  They were broken- absolutely crushed and I just can't imagine going through that.

 

Emer

mcurban:

Definitely bury a child.

I agree w/ emabend. While a divorce isn't anywhere on my radar, I know that I could get through it and it would mean that there was something seriously wrong w/ our relationship. 

But, I have seen the faces of a mother and father who had to bury their 13 year old after a boating accident.  They were broken- absolutely crushed and I just can't imagine going through that.

 

I completely agree.  The image of the mom at a 10 year old's funeral is forever burned in my mind and more than anything in this world, I hope that will never be me.  I've been through a divorce, and it sucks, but that pain is passing.  I hope I never have to do it again, but I know I could survive it.  A child dying?  Not so much.

Kim777

Bury a child. Rhett is named after a young man who passed away when he was 14. Watching what Kade's mom went through was absolutely heartbreaking. It has been one of my biggest fears ever since.

2H2L

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bobcatsteph:

Bury my husband or child(ren).

This is mine, too. Divorce happens, and though I hope it doesn't happen to me, I don't fear it in the way that I fear this. 

AustinMimi

I definitely hope I don't have to bury a child or my DH, although I know the latter is pretty much a 50/50 chance. I also hope I don't ever have to watch either of my parents suffer through Alzheimer's.

FeistyFille

This is so morbid, but I hope I never have to bury one of my boys, DH included.

ditzydi_2000

Watch a family member have to go through a disease.  Especially a child.  I can possibly deal with watching an adult go through the pain of dealing with a disease like cancer because they can comprehend what is happening to them and know what to expect from treatment if treatment is an option but I don't think I could ever try and explain it to DS.  Parents that have a sick child are so strong.  I don't know how they do it.

ETA:  I didn't even think of having to bury ds.  

MrsAJL

I hope I never have to make the decision to end life support for someone I love, especially my child(ren) or my husband.  

jennyfromblock

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bobcatsteph:

Bury my husband or child(ren).

This is mine, too. Divorce happens, and though I hope it doesn't happen to me, I don't fear it in the way that I fear this. 

This exactly.

carlinlp

Tough one.  Having been through a divorce and then later my first dh's suicide I know I can make it through both.  It was not easy, at all.  The latter gets the best of me some days even 7 years later.  What I fear the most:  having to see one of my children suffer or having to bury one of them.