This board has failed me.

cara_swinney

I've been a regular reader and a sometimes poster since 1st Tri and this board has completely gotten off track. I can't read one more post asking what theme they should go with for their DC's party. Or about how many people is too many people to invite to their DC's party. Or about which invitation is better. Or which picture is better.

How did the collective priorities of this board get so far out of whack?

amt1586

Isn't that what most moms think about around this age though? What's on your mind??

Baby428

There should be a board for 1st birthday parties.  On another note - I used to live in Cottonwood Heights and used to have season passes to The Canyon.  I miss Utah sooooooooooo very much 

dragonsmercy

Each board seems to have it's major topics. Your complaint is one of the many reasons the boards were split from 6 - 12 to 6 - 9/9 - 12. First birthday parties are a huge concern for many in the last 3 months leading up to their LO's bday, and they want that day to be perfect.

The simplest solution: Don't bother opening the first bday posts. Most people are very open in their title that the post is something first birthday party related, so they're very easy to avoid. Instead, open the other posts... the ones about introducing whole milk, meats, etc, or about walking, crawling, teeth.

EllasMommy2010

So, enlighten us with an exciting topic then!

sunflowergrl

would you rather talk politics? Religion perhaps?  Maybe Welfare?

berrysweet

This post really makes no sense to me. It's like going to 6-9 months and saying, "How did the collective priorities of this board get so far out of whack? I will scream if I see another post asking about DC crawling."

The fact of the matter is that once our LO's reach 12 months, they have a birthday. Usually, birthday parties are a logical part of that time in a child's life, just as crawling is sometimes part of a child's life at 6-9 months.  OF COURSE we are going to be excited about and talk about birthdays and birthday parties.

Do I think some people on these boards go way overboard for a first birthday? Yes. But that's why I just don't often open or respond to the birthday threads...not whine about them being there in the first place.

madeleines_mommy

Umm... ok

Liss_37

Get over yourself. This is a 9-12 board, guess what one of the biggest miletones is during this period? the first birthday! and Yeah, you're darn right it's a priority to me and I'm proud of it. 

If you feel so disappointed with our topics that bore you so much, why don't you put on your big girl panties and thinking cap to create a good one yourself?  

 

amt1586

sunflowergrl:

would you rather talk politics? Religion perhaps?  Maybe Welfare?

Lol! Because we all need a good welfare discussion!

torrey111

I hear what you're saying, I do, but like anything else, you just have to weed out what isn't working for you.

 I don't find the birthday stuff as annoying as multiple posts about television shows..... 

MSUMamaof2

berrysweet:

Do I think some people on these boards go way overboard for a first birthday? Yes. But that's why I just don't often open or respond to the birthday threads...not whine about them being there in the first place.

This.

Around 9 months was when I started feeling really comfortable with my caregiving skills with my oldest son.  I'm sure a lot of the moms on this board are feeling like they know what they're doing now and don't need to ask the daily questions.  For the most part, we're done asking about how to care for a circumcision, how many ounces LO should drink in a day, what their poop should look like, and how can we get LO to sleep through the night.  People need something to talk about. 

Just because someone is throwing their child a giant party for their first birthday and they want to talk about it doesn't mean they've lost sight of what's really important in life.  And for the record, no, I'm not throwing a giant party for my LO. 

lifesadance

I hear you!  I've given some thought yo DS's bday party but honestly it's not a priority to me.  It's his 1st birthday, yes, but he won't remember it.  That's my opinion.  I believe the reason why so many of the mommies on this board go overboard and put too much effort into the 1st bday is that they have nothing else of substance in their lives to focus on instead. 

berrysweet

lifesadance:

I hear you!  I've given some thought yo DS's bday party but honestly it's not a priority to me.  It's his 1st birthday, yes, but he won't remember it.  That's my opinion.  I believe the reason why so many of the mommies on this board go overboard and put too much effort into the 1st bday is that they have nothing else of substance in their lives to focus on instead. 

Lame and petty. And that's coming from someone who ISN'T throwing DD a big first birthday party. 

Zoie2010

berrysweet:

lifesadance:

I hear you!  I've given some thought yo DS's bday party but honestly it's not a priority to me.  It's his 1st birthday, yes, but he won't remember it.  That's my opinion.  I believe the reason why so many of the mommies on this board go overboard and put too much effort into the 1st bday is that they have nothing else of substance in their lives to focus on instead. 

Lame and petty. And that's coming from someone who ISN'T throwing DD a big first birthday party. 

 

Some parents feel like it is a great accomplishment for the family they now have whichever road it took to get there. And others want to party and thank those that helpped get them through all of the questions of life.

Though I agree a 1st birthday board or even just a birthday party board would be a great addition.

New to much of this I guess maybe by this time many mom's not only may have their questions answered but maybe they are too BUSY not Lazy with their lives, that now have a DC in them that they are going out more with less worry and more determantion to Show Off their LO's to the rest of their normal or local world.

Zoie2010

Sorry double post.

aliciamariel

I'm guessing this was inspired by my birthday post - I'm sorry if it disappointed you.  The posts have titles for a reason, and you're not required to open each and every one.

There are certain topics that affect each board and are discussed many times each day, like weaning from BF, what finger foods do you feed your LO, what toys do LOs like, etc.  Repetition is going to happen.  You might be annoyed with 'favorite toy' posts one day because your LO loves his toys, but a few days later he's bored and you have no clue what to get him.  What toy to get next wasn't even on your radar before, but now it is and you'd like some feedback and ideas.  And isn't feedback and support the whole point of being on a message board? 

CWest0405

I see lots of posts about sleep schedules, feeding schedules, age appropriate toys, car seat questions, milestones, where to find good deals on baby gear, etc.  There are plenty of other topics discussed.  If you aren't interested in talking about 1st birthday parties, don't open the posts.

Singingmama

Do you have a problem that you need us to help you solve? I think there are a lot of 1st birthday posts, but there are still plenty of posts on issues and other things of "substance" on the board. If you have a problem, ask us about it and we'll help you. Otherwise, shut the heck up and go away. First birthday parties are fun and an amazing way to celebrate making it through the first year with your child. My husband and I are planning our daughter's first birthdy with her in mind, but we also plan on part of the party being about celebrating us as parents and celebrating getting through the first year.

First birthdays are the only birthday where a parent gets to make all the decisions about the party. By the time children are 2, they generally have a much more clear idea of their likes and dislikes and so they have more of an opinion when it comes to their party.

Mereou12

MSUMamaof2:

berrysweet:

Do I think some people on these boards go way overboard for a first birthday? Yes. But that's why I just don't often open or respond to the birthday threads...not whine about them being there in the first place.

This.

Around 9 months was when I started feeling really comfortable with my caregiving skills with my oldest son.  I'm sure a lot of the moms on this board are feeling like they know what they're doing now and don't need to ask the daily questions.  For the most part, we're done asking about how to care for a circumcision, how many ounces LO should drink in a day, what their poop should look like, and how can we get LO to sleep through the night.  People need something to talk about. 

Just because someone is throwing their child a giant party for their first birthday and they want to talk about it doesn't mean they've lost sight of what's really important in life.  And for the record, no, I'm not throwing a giant party for my LO. 

I completely agree.

I, personally, am finally at the point where I'm not freaking out over every little thing and asking a million questions. I'm finally comfortable with being a mom, and am focusing on some of the more fun aspects of parenting -- like celebrating the joyous occasion that is my son's first birthday.

If you feel like this board has failed you (which is pretty pathetic, if you ask me...), then quit lurking and CONTRIBUTE. If you're at a dinner party and you find the conversation boring, would you just continue to sit there rolling you eyes, or would you bring up an interesting topic of discussion? This isn't rocket science here.