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Please help me....
B!tch slap my husband!!!
Still fuming from a comment yesterday. Called him at work yesterday cause Ash was being super needy and Austin was fussy. I just needed to vent and take a breather. When I tell him I'm trying to be patient he says.....
"You're not going to get all, I miss my mom, and start crying on me are you!"
WTF!!!! One, I haven't cried or talked about my mom since Austin was born. Two, I rarely have those moments unless it's a holiday or something relating to her. Three, so what if I do have a I miss my mom moment. It's only been 1 1/2 years since she died. Plus I have a newborn and no mom to call! And Four, I wasn't even going to cry but now I want to.
Note-He's been amazing, and get's up every morning to feed ashlyn and dress her so that I can sleep in. So he's awesome, but he still needs a major smackdwon over this one. UGH. Thanks for letting me fume.
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Re: Please help me....
Ugh, I agree, Lindsey, that your rant is justified regarding the comment about your mom. I think that you are such a strong woman, but you need to be able to share your feelings/concerns with DH whenever you deem necessary!
Hope all is going well with Austin! Your kiddos are cutie pies.
Q102 would say his "Man Card" has been revoked!! Wow what a comment. Sorry he replied that way, but hopefully he didnt' mean it. I don't have any experience with losing a parent, but I do call my mom for alot of stuff and I would totally have my feelings hurt if DH made that comment to me.
One big slap from me
(that would feel good right about now since i'm dealing with an idiot at work and want to let him have it.)
I'm already medium aggitated and crabby...bring him on over. One big b!tch slap coming right up.
Even the best men don't think before they speak sometimes. I am sure he didn't intend on being that mean, but it hurts anyway.
That's a major foot in the mouth moment for him. I would be very hurt too.
You are more than allowed to miss your mom. You can cry on our shoulder anytime.
You are ALWAYS allowed to miss your mom. I don't care if it's been a year and a half or 20 years. My friend's dad died when we were 15 and it STILL makes her sad, especially when it comes to marriage, babies, etc.
I hope he comes walking through the door tonight with flowers and a big ole apology because that was completely out of line. (((HUGS)))
I usually give the side eye to most of the "my DH is a d-bag posts" but, yours is definitely justified. That was a low blow. Of course you're missing your mom, who wouldn't?
I'd give him a swift kick in the nads when he gets home. Seriously.
Add me to the "I want to hit him for you" club.
You should have replied with no, I wasn't...but NOW I am sure going to!
I'm really sorry, that was really cold of him to say that. He must have been having a stressful moment of his own and took it out on you, but that is no excuse.
I sure hope he apologized to you. That was really out of line.
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Oh my.
U-N-N-E-C-E-S-S-A-R-Y comment, Mr.Kle2922.
I agree that he was probably stressed and maybe he doesn't realize the impact of what he said. I have to believe that when you tell him how much it hurt, he will be appropriately contrite.
It's been said above but I'll say it once more just so you can hear it again: It is perfectly acceptable for you to miss your mom at any time. There doesn't need to be an occasion (stress, sadness, joy, holidays, etc.).
Oh no he didn't!! He gets a big "BOOOO!!" from me for that comment. I hope he has taken the time to think about what he said, realized how crappy it was and asked for an apology. But I'm kind of getting the feeling he hasn't since you are still fuming?? If that is the case, I definitely think you should let him know that his comment really hurt your feelings...and only made the situation worse.
THIS! My dad died when I was 15, and sometimes it still hurts a lot. And sometimes it's completely random - but there have definitely been more moments since I got engaged/married/pregnant etc. My husband hasn't lost anyone close, so he doesn't understand at all - and has once or twice made a similar comment to yours... I hope you let him know (or will when he gets home), that regardless of the particular situation - that is not an okay thing to say even if he is thinking it. He definitely deserves a slap, and you deserve an apology!
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Wow, oh wow. I'd love to slap him for all of us that have lost a parent. No one has the right to tell you how to feel or how to show your emotions, especially your husband. So what if you're missing your Mom? That has probably been one of the hardest (if not THE hardest) thing that has ever happened to you and it would be nice if your husband was supportive and empathetic, not condescending about it.
As you know, my Mom has been gone 8 years now. I STILL think about her at least once a day and cry randomly once a month or so. It's the strangest things that can bring on the tears and I would give just about anything to be able to call and ask her about Mom questions, vent, or just catch up.
That being said, I'm sure he didn't mean it the way it came out, but I know it still hurts. I'm so sorry you're having a rough day and hope he makes it up to you!
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I hope he didn't mean it the way it came out of his mouth. Actually, I think it was a guyism, and he knows not what he said. You are very justified in being so upset over it.
My mom passed away over 6 years ago, and I still miss her a lot. I cry when I need to. When something happens, good or bad, to the kids, I just want to call her up to brag or to get advice. It still hurts to not be able to do that. Knowing that she never held DD hurts. And so on... The pain of losing a parent that you are close to never heals. It gets easier, yes. But for your DH to make you feel slightly bad because you get emotional about it is not ok, ever. Please let him know how you feel about what he said after you cool off a bit. Don't let it go, because you will not be able to release your emotions when you need to when he is present after that. You need to be free to do that as needed. It is cathartic, and good for you. Do get it out, and let him know how he made you feel. HUGS!