Prove me wrong...

Kflogeras

Hi... I need your help.  I'm pregnant with my 2nd and already have a very chatty/intelligent 2.5 year old girl. When we told her we were pregnant and that she would be a sister she was all over the place predicting the gender. She's now dead set convinced it's a girl, she's given "her" (the baby) a name and talks about her sister. We NEVER encouraged one gender over the other, she started this all on her own. She goes to daycare with 3 boys, maybe she's sick of them?

Here's where I need your help... We went for our 18 week ultrasound and the tech took a 'guess' and when she says guess it was Uh.. I think I might see something between the legs. It could be a boy. 50/50 shot right? We were shocked that she 'guessed' boy and thought wow... it might be a boy (DUH it's either a boy or a girl...why the shock) anyways... I went out and bought 2 boyish sleepers to add to the closet since our house is polluted with girl stuff. I figured that would be my service as mom-to-be to baby-to-be. We now are waiting for our 3d ultrasound at the end of November to determine the gender (fingers crossed). Here's the thing... this baby moves constantly, dd rarely moved. So I start to think maybe it is a boy. Doc guessed boy, dd convinced it's a girl. (OBGYN said kids generally have great intuition when it comes to this) Heart beat has been over 155 most appointments (the lowest was 145)... (myth points to girl) I feel like by all these external factors I'm being swayed one way to another... we don't have a preference either way... I just hate being swayed by everything. SO I'm asking you to prove me wrong. Did your DS have a high heartbeat? Did your DC guess wrong? Did your DD move alot? I want to get my brain to a state of confusion, as odd as that sounds, so that I'm not expecting anything at my 3d appointment which is still 4 weeks away! If you can help me out...that would be great! Thanks!

weelass24

I can't see into your ute.  I am guessing your DD can't see into your ute.  No one here knows. 

What exactly do you want people here to tell you? 

SarahTx5701

weelass24:

I can't see into your ute.  I am guessing your DD can't see into your ute.  No one here knows. 

What exactly do you want people here to tell you? 

This.

Take a freakin chill pill and wait for your u/s and you'll know. 

ailidespain

omg lol you must really be bored! I think it's odd that they could not definitively tell you the gender at 18 weeks.

mrs_b_2007

have you asked the dog...?

kabarbanel

mrs_b_2007:

have you asked the dog...?

Good thinking. The dog is sure to know! We asked my 3 year old nephew what he thought I was having. He said "A boy AND a girl". So clearly there are twins in there, but the doctors just keep missing it!

Mcarrieb85

You haven't lurked here much have you?

BeetleLinz1125

Sorry I can't help you with this, as I'm only on my first...but maybe you should try to get your daughter used to the idea that she might have a brother.  It sounds like she heard the word "sister" when you told her she was going to be a big sister and thought that meant it was a girl.  No one can really tell you by a heartbeat 100% and even if it was true for them, it might not be for you.  I would find ways to get her used to a boy or girl.

shanatait2be

My DS always had a very high heart rate and people always guessed girl based on that. DS also moved a ton, so that part was true for me. I also had terrible acne, so that OWT didn't prove true for me.

This time around everyone has guessed girl. I have been very, very sick, which I never was with DS and have had terrible back pain early on. The HB has been high as well around 170 most of the time. Well, we had an early US on Monday and the tech took a peek just for fun and guessed a boy. Of course, we don't know for sure and will have another US in 5 weeks and confirm. But, it really did look like my son's US pic. We shall see...

HTH in some way. The heartrate thing has been completely untrue for us.

everydayeve

I'm having a boy.

His heartbeat is constantly at 160.

His sister (who is also 2.5) swore she was having a sister.

And when she was in my belly, she moved all the time.

Either way, you have a healthy baby in there, so stop worrying so much. Start telling your daughter that she could have a sister or a brother and keep her open to the idea that she may be surprised. Focus more on the fact that she will be a sister than what the baby will be. At the end of Nov, you'll know for sure. It's not that long to wait.

shanatait2be

shanatait2be:

My DS always had a very high heart rate and people always guessed girl based on that. DS also moved a ton, so that part was true for me. I also had terrible acne, so that OWT didn't prove true for me.

This time around everyone has guessed girl. I have been very, very sick, which I never was with DS and have had terrible back pain early on. The HB has been high as well around 170 most of the time. Well, we had an early US on Monday and the tech took a peek just for fun and guessed a boy. Of course, we don't know for sure and will have another US in 5 weeks and confirm. But, it really did look like my son's US pic. We shall see...

HTH in some way. The heartrate thing has been completely untrue for us.

Kflogeras

Thanks everyone. Exactly what I was looking for. I should have probably added I'm one of 4 girls pregnant in an office of 12. The other 3 know what they're having so EVERYONE around me "knows" what I"m having based on heartbeat, I'm carrying, how I'm feeling. My god I sneezed the other day and someone told me it must be a boy. WTF? When you're surrounded by that 9 hours a day, and then you go home to a 2 year old talking about her sister I needed a bit of brutal honesty that I knew I could get from here. BTW, the dog is pissed we're having another kid, I won't be asking her. And I do lurk here a lot which is why I knew I could take the dose of reality coming my way.

 

shanatait2be

shanatait2be:

shanatait2be:

My DS always had a very high heart rate and people always guessed girl based on that. DS also moved a ton, so that part was true for me. I also had terrible acne, so that OWT didn't prove true for me.

This time around everyone has guessed girl. I have been very, very sick, which I never was with DS and have had terrible back pain early on. The HB has been high as well around 170 most of the time. Well, we had an early US on Monday and the tech took a peek just for fun and guessed a boy. Of course, we don't know for sure and will have another US in 5 weeks and confirm. But, it really did look like my son's US pic. We shall see...

HTH in some way. The heartrate thing has been completely untrue for us.

Oh, I wanted to add that my DS who is 2 has been referring to this baby as a baby girl. We have no idea why. He just did. Alot of the older women I work with and at church just know it's going to be a girl because of "children's intuition". Well, I never believed it. I don't think that children necessarily "sense" these things, but that's just MHO. So, we told DS on Monday at the US that it might be a little girl but that it might also be a little boy. We would just have to wait and see. Everytime he says anything about it being a baby girl, we just remind him that it might be a little brother and he is just as excited.

j_luvs_r

Kflogeras:

I want to get my brain to a state of confusion, as odd as that sounds, so that I'm not expecting anything at my 3d appointment which is still 4 weeks away!

I think you've already succeeded.

ITGurl0626

mrs_b_2007:

have you asked the dog...?

OMG...LMFAO!

Kflogeras

shanatait2be:

shanatait2be:

shanatait2be:

My DS always had a very high heart rate and people always guessed girl based on that. DS also moved a ton, so that part was true for me. I also had terrible acne, so that OWT didn't prove true for me.

This time around everyone has guessed girl. I have been very, very sick, which I never was with DS and have had terrible back pain early on. The HB has been high as well around 170 most of the time. Well, we had an early US on Monday and the tech took a peek just for fun and guessed a boy. Of course, we don't know for sure and will have another US in 5 weeks and confirm. But, it really did look like my son's US pic. We shall see...

HTH in some way. The heartrate thing has been completely untrue for us.

Oh, I wanted to add that my DS who is 2 has been referring to this baby as a baby girl. We have no idea why. He just did. Alot of the older women I work with and at church just know it's going to be a girl because of "children's intuition". Well, I never believed it. I don't think that children necessarily "sense" these things, but that's just MHO. So, we told DS on Monday at the US that it might be a little girl but that it might also be a little boy. We would just have to wait and see. Everytime he says anything about it being a baby girl, we just remind him that it might be a little brother and he is just as excited.

 

We've been doing this. Reminding her it could be a boy too. She gets quite upset. So we mention it but don't dwell on it. I don't care either way, but I think I'm sick of everyone around me "just knowing"! I have some great answers that I can use as responses when the next person guesses.

Kflogeras

ailidespain:

omg lol you must really be bored! I think it's odd that they could not definitively tell you the gender at 18 weeks.

 

I'm from NB Canada... our one and only ultrasound at 18 weeks is for medical purposes only. If the baby isn't in the right position, they won't try to determine the gender. Which is why we're paying for the 3d.

everydayeve

Kflogeras:

We've been doing this. Reminding her it could be a boy too. She gets quite upset. So we mention it but don't dwell on it. I don't care either way, but I think I'm sick of everyone around me "just knowing"! I have some great answers that I can use as responses when the next person guesses.

We didn't find out with my DD. The labor nurse actually said while I was pushing, "That looks like a boy's head to me." If you don't get to find out, then you'll always have someone who will want to give their opinion. I work worry more about getting your DD used to the idea of a possible brother than comebacks for people who can't stop guessing.

Kflogeras

everydayeve:

Kflogeras:

We've been doing this. Reminding her it could be a boy too. She gets quite upset. So we mention it but don't dwell on it. I don't care either way, but I think I'm sick of everyone around me "just knowing"! I have some great answers that I can use as responses when the next person guesses.

We didn't find out with my DD. The labor nurse actually said while I was pushing, "That looks like a boy's head to me." If you don't get to find out, then you'll always have someone who will want to give their opinion. I work worry more about getting your DD used to the idea of a possible brother than comebacks for people who can't stop guessing.

 

Very True! Thanks.

RunningGal900

My 3-year-old boy cousins think it's a boy. My 6-year-old girl cousin thinks it's a girl. None of them know, but I'm guessing that they are predicting their own gender because that is what they want. We'll all find out soon enough.