How do I tell Sister-In-Law i'm pregnant when shes been trying for years?

mikeandjenna

My husband and I were just married at the end of July. We planned on waiting to have our first child a few years ,but our birth control did not stop us from concieving on our honeymoon. My sister-in-law has been trying to have another child for a few years now and has not been able to get pregnant. We are still in shock, but we are extremely happy and excited. I just dont know how she will take it. What should I say? Any ideas?

spfclr

I have a few friends struggling with infertility.

Advice I was given on a Bump board was to write the person a note rather than tell them in person.  That way they can privately deal with the hard emotions this will bring up and then they can talk with you about it when they feel ready, which could be a while.  They won't have to supress potential tears, anger, and/or sadness and tell you how happy they are for you, they can tell you that when they really mean it.  I was given the advice to continue to be in touch in your normal ways following the note - don't stop emailing, calling, or seeing them, but let them bring up your pregnancy.  And to be very understanding if it is a while until they want to talk about it or even communicate with you.

Good luck!