Blighted Ovum

amymoidl

Hi.  I was hoping I would never have to post on this board, but am glad it's here because I need some support/advice.  Before I tell my story, I'm sorry for everyone's loss.

DH and I found out we were pregnant with our first child about 4-5 weeks ago.  I would be about 8 weeks 5 days today.  Yesterday was out first OB appointment, and I found myself very anxious in the week leading up to it and was anticipating something being wrong.

Call it Women's Intuition, but I was right.  The internal U/S only showed a gestational sac with no yok sac or fetus.  My Dr. also had my hCG levels checked to ensure I was actually about 8 weeks along in the pregnancy, and she looked at the size of my uterus.  She is confident in the prognosis of a Blighted Ovum.  She said my cervix is closed and b/c my hCG levels are so high, she doesn't think my body has recognized it's a failed pregnancy yet.  She discussed my options with me, but seems to be pushing a D&C as the best option.  My DH and I agreed to a D&C next week.

When I got home last night I did a little research and found some instances where women had gotten the same diagnosis only to go back and have an U/S done a week or so later and find a healthy baby in the sac.  This has me second guessing our decision to do the D&C right away.  I am feeling sad and alone....but was curious if anyone had gone through something similar and could offer and advice or support.

 Thank you so much for reading.

JennF4185

Hi, first off let me say I'm sorry for the news you have received.  I was in your position almost 3 weeks ago and did not get good news either.   My DH and I were pregnant with our first and went for our first u/s on Sept. 30.  My doctor only saw a gestational sac and also no yolk or fetus (i would have been 7w3d)  She told me it was a blighted ovum as well and checked my hcg levels also.  A week later I went in for another u/s to see if anything progressed but it didnt.  She also said my hcg levels were extremely high, that my cervix was closed so my body has responded to the miscarriage, and that the sac was abnormally large.  She then confirmed a blighted ovum and I had my D & C on Oct. 13. 

Some of those stories on the internet are true and I have heard it happening, but I waited a week hoping something would happen and it didnt.  I was just glad that I knew what was going to happen and what was going on in my body before it was confirmed at the second appointment.  The D & C is the easiest thing to do, in my opinion.  I just couldn't walk around anymore with a belly and having morning sickness and sore breasts.  I needed some closure and with a D & C was the easiest way instead of letting it happen on its on (whcih my dr. said that with a closed cervix it may not happen for a few weeks or months.)  The D & C in general is not that bad, good pain meds and make sure they put you to sleep.  I dont remember a thing about mine.  It's been a week and I am still having bleeding and cramping, but its nothing a little Mortin cant help.

Good Luck, sorry this is long, and I'm sorry for your Loss.  Our babies with always live on in our hearts. 

dapple25

I'm sorry for your loss and what you and your husband are going thru. I also had a blighted ovum, we went for our first u/s 09/01 and found only a gestational sac, no fetal pole,etc. We had blood work drawn that day and again 48hrs later only to find that the numbers had dropped(which confirmed the m/c). I too researched everything on the internet..ask for blood work, ask for a second u/s before going thru with the D&C..I did, and it really helped with having a tiny bit of closure and knowing the D&C was the best thing to do. You are not alone in all of this, but I know it feels that way.

 

nicole153

Hello,

I am in the same boat also. I was sent home yesterday after my second ultrasound with the same diagnosis of a blighted ovum. I also heard the stories of the chances of seeing something in a few weeks but in my case, my gestational sac only measured 5w6d and I should be around 9w so it is obvious there is a problem. My HCG counts and progesterone were all good and same thing- my body still thinks I am pregnant. I am going next week for the procedure because my Dr. is concerned if I wait too long it can cause complications.  We got 2 different doctors who both confirmed the same diagnosis. We never want to believe it's over but they know better than us and I don't want to keep waiting and going through this each week just to see nothing.

Whatever you decide, best of luck. It's not an easy thing to deal with but I believe it is out of our hands.  The sooner I heal, the sooner we can try again. Good luck and I'm sorry you are going through this.

amymoidl

Thank you all so much for your support and stories.  I definitely feel better and more prepared to make an informed decision.  Good luck to you all

Snooks

I'm terribly sorry for your loss.  Remember, you have to live with the decision.  I went in at 7.5 weeks for an early ultrasound and had the same result as you.  I had another ultrasound about 2 weeks later to confirm everything.  I waited until 12 weeks when my body still hadn't had the miscarriage naturally to have the D&C.  I don't think I could have done it after just one ultrasound, I needed 2 at least to make sure no mistakes were made, Dr's make mistakes too and for peace of mind I needed a second (would have preferred a third too before the actual procedure but couldn't have one).  The D&C was really much easier than I had expected physically - good luck in your decision!

stacee55j

Same. I should be 8 weeks tomorrow and have already had 4 ultrasounds...the last one was a confirmation of the blighted ovum which was diagnosed the time before. Since my levels keep rising (though not as they should) and the sac is growing...(though not as it should) and I still feel pregnant (since the freaking symptoms stay with you) its been super hard for me to decide what to do. I also read the 1 in a million stories on the internet and come from a very Catholic family who have put in their input to wait it out. I'm just ready to scream. I told my doctor I want to do yet another ultrasound late next week (to confirm yet again the bad news) if it hasn't happened naturally and if it hasn't then I plan to take the meds or whatever she is prescribing me to induce it. I want to avoid surgery though it sounds like a more painless option! Of course it could happen that I end up having to do both if the meds don't work as they should. Very frustrating. I'm sorry you are going through this too......I'm sorry any of us are going through this! I'm sure you all feel the same way I do at this point....I want my normal body back or I want to be pregnant again...asap w/ no guilt attached, please! As if the grief of it all isn't enough and it isn't enough to worry about thinking about trying again and miscarrying again! Vicious cycle.

ravenorchid

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find this board to be a source of comfort and support, as I have.

haziedaze

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I also went through something similar. No fetal pole was seen at 6w6d, I really wanted to hold out hope that my dates were off and went back at 7w4d. There still wasn't a fetal pole and where my betas were they would have expected to see a fetus and a heartbeat. I think it clinched it for me that they said the yolk sac was growing and was far beyond the size when they should see an embryo. Large yolk sac on its own is another bad indicator. For me this was enough, but I did torture myself a bit on the internet before my D&C. In the end, I haven't had the regrets I thought I might. Having the procedure was what I needed to move on and to get rid of the nausea and sore boobs that felt like torture. It's a very personal decision... whatever you decide will be right for you. ((HUGS))