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Struggling today with only having one child.

LucyPevensieLucyPevensie member
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I feel like I am supposed to have one more.  But it is very, very unlikely for a variety of reasons. Today, right now, I am "missing" that second child who I don't think I'll ever meet.  Hugs to those who, for whatever reason, are struggling with me over the same issue. 
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"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame

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Re: Struggling today with only having one child.

  • lnlelnle
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  • ladychicagoladychicago member
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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03
    You know I'm right there with you. ((HUGS))
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  • mabst196mabst196 member
    I feel you on this. Sorry.
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  • emmyloustuemmyloustu
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  • choco_labchoco_lab
    I'm right there with you.  In fact, I started crying when talking to DH about it the other night.  I'm so happy with DS and we'll be fine with one.  But then my heart breaks thinking about the idea that we might be one and done, too.  Especially after my MC last month.  <<hugs>>
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  • Smudges*MomSmudges*Mom member
    Thinking of you. While I may put forth the "I'm good with being one and done" attitude, I do struggle. I am going forward with my tubal next month because I KNOW it is the right decision for me (on so many levels) and my family. . . but my heart aches for what will never be. I think because it is so clear cut for us, it is a bit less difficult, but, in a perfect world, it is not the choice I would have made. So, I do understand where you are.
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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    digi hugs for now and real hugs this weekend!!! 
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  • rockvillebriderockvillebride
    I'm right there with you. Hugs!
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  • vandelayvandelay member

    Hugs to you as well.  We may be in the same boat.  I'd like to adopt a second child, but I'll just be so old at that point that I don't know if that's realistic. 

    I'm sorry you're struggling today.

                                  

      
                                   
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  • LIAngelLIAngel member
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  • MagoyMagoy

    I am right there with you! 100%

    I especially feel it when we get home from playing at my sister's house.  She has a 10 and 4 yr old and DD has such a great time there.  When we get back and she's playing by herself, I kind of feel sorry for her!  

    Hugs.

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  • lovemymonkeylovemymonkey

    ((((((((hugs))))))))))

    xoxo

    After 5 years of TTC, 3 IUIs, 5 IVFs, 2 FETs, multiple losses and an adoption that wasn
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  • roaringrockroaringrock

    (((hugs))) LP. I feel your pain big time.

    just the other day I took down my adoption ticker (for obvious reasons) and got incredibly emotional. god, how I longed to build a little family and give ginny a sibling. it's really hard.

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  • EverAfterinMiEverAfterinMi
    I am so sorry honey. I can't think of many people who deserve what they want more than you. Big big hugs...
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  • gramos1128gramos1128
    I so sorry you are having a hard time.  ((Hugs))
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