rant about nan

purpleaura87

ok  so  i   owe  my  nan  about  ?900.

She  knows  that  I am  having problems with  benifits and  money  is very tight so  she will  have to  wait a while for  us to  repay her but  every day for 2 weeks shes  been  calling up  and causing hassle.

Now shes causing a big rift  between  me and  the  rest  of the  family.

I really  wish  could  just snap my  fingers  and  pay  her  off  just like that  but  i  cant.

just  dont  know  what  to  do . Shes making me  so stressed  and now the  midwife is getting worried about  my raised blood pressure.

 

mjbaby

Why don't you speak with her and set up some type of payment plan or time line to pay the money back? And while you're having that conversation, ask her not to speak about it with other family members, as it is becoming too stressful. GL!

purpleaura87

ive  tried that  in the  past  she  just  hears what she wants  to hear.

I swear  id  get more  sence talking to a wall then  to her.

volcrazymama

I was curious as to how much 900 pounds was in US dollars, so I googled it.  Holy cow, woman, that's over $1400 US dollars!

How long have you owed your nan the money?  Did you agree to a payment plan when you borrowed it?  Did you just assume this was a gift when she let you have the money?

I understand that things are tight and you are expecting, but you need to work out a payment plan with her.  Have you paid her back any of what you owe her?   Are you spending money on other things when you could be using some of that money to pay her back?

She is clearly upset and has a right to be.  You have a right to be upset that she is involving other family members in this.  You both need to sit down, write out a payment plan, then stick to it.  Complaining about the situation on the Bump will not make the problem go away.  You need to work this out with her.

purpleaura87

I knew that  she would  need  paying  back  but the agreement was  that  once my  benifits started coming through regular  i  would  pay her  off about ?50 per month max.  now  she  is almost demanding it  all and knows that I am living on my bfs money  which isnt  much as it is .

only  things spend money  on is  stuff for  baby, bills, food and transport even these  often  leave  him in his over draft for a few days  so i  dont see where  can get  any money at the  mo and she  is  being very  unreasonable.