Need Advice...

tamara5966

My DS is 22 months and I am having another DS mid November. 

Now if I can explain this and it make sense...

We have fixed up our third bedroom for the nursery but, now everyone (DH, inlaws, and my parents) have brought up the idea of moving my 22 month old to the newly done bedroom and redoing my DSs room for the nursery because it is closer to our bedroom.

I seem to be the only one worried about how this will be on my DS.  I am already worried about him feeling bad or left out when the baby comes but to give his room to the baby Im afraid that will be bad.  He is not old enough to really understand any of this and it makes me nervous... I want to make this the easiest I can on DS even if it makes it a little more difficult for DH and me.

So my question is: What do you think?  What would you do?

one_more_girl

I would leave it how it is...you are about to have your baby, soon!  And if you already have the nursery ready and DS1 all set then leave things be.  The less change for him the better as you said there are a lot of new things coming soon. 

GL! 

tamara5966

I need to clarify things... the room is painted and new carpet in but thats it... the furniture has not been put together or anything put in the room.  I have explained that its just more work for everyone else(not me) but they still insist.  It would require us to move everything in DSs room and then set up everything for nursery.

hellopoppyseed

No way. Leave it as is. Ds2 will also be in the room farthest away when he's out of our room. Ds1 is in the one closest to our room and I didnt change anything and I'm not going to. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Mr.&MrsS

I would leave it as it is. You are due soon, and you dont want DS1 thinking the baby took his room. If you had more time, then maybe I would make the move. But if the baby is going to be fine in the new nursery, I would leave it alone.

stargirlsheart

I would leave him in his room. 

jschmidt35

Definitely leave him in his own room. I have a ds who is 26 months a dd who is 1 and am expecting dc#3 in feb. We have 3 rooms and had to trn our loft into another room for the new baby and we were going to move ds into the new room w/ new furniture, etc. He totally freaked about changing rooms. He is definitely not old enough to think it's "cool/fun" to get a new room imo. I think keeping it as is will be easier on you and him!!

outdoorsygirl123

hellopoppyseed:

No way. Leave it as is. Ds2 will also be in the room farthest away when he's out of our room. Ds1 is in the one closest to our room and I didnt change anything and I'm not going to. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

This. I know my DS (who isn't a great sleeper would TOTALLY freak out in a new room).

howleyshell

What's a few extra steps?  I mean... you're not talking about 10 yards difference are you?

My vote is to leave it.  We made a new room for #2 and I'm so glad we did.  When I'm in #1's room I have all of his memories in there.  When I'm in #2's room I have all of his memories in there.

Frankly with them so close in age I think the memories of night time nursing and bed times would run together in my mind were it not for them being in totally different rooms.  (although you are talking about redecorating which seems crazy to me at this stage of the game)

And.. I also think it's unnecessary to disrupt #1's life/sleep if the only concern or issue is that it's a bit closer to your room.

Think about this long term.  Most babies are gonna STTN by around 4-6 months, right?  Isn't this a LOT of work for walking a bit farther down the hall for 4-6 months? 

 

viety82bur

I would leave things as they are.  Your older kiddo will have enough change to deal with soon...you don't want to disrupt his routine on top of bringing home a new baby.  That could make any convenience of having the baby closer totally not worth it.  If you want the baby closer for awhile, maybe do a bassinet or pack n play in your room until baby is sleeping through the night.

HarrietNJMommy

I wouldn't make any big changes so close to your due date. I would leave things as is.

GL! 

scherza

Don't disrupt your older son's routine/environment!

He's going to have a big adjustment when his little brother comes along; you don't want to compound that with adjusting to a new room.  Plus, who wants to move one room, set it up, AND set up a second room at 8 months pregnant?  That's a lot of extra stuff on you, too.

DD's nursery was the smallest bedroom.  When we had DS, we put him in what used to be DH's office, and it's a much bigger room than DD's.  Right now, she's too young to care that his room is larger, and changing around their rooms would have been upsetting for all parties concerned.

JonathansMommi2010

Okay my son shared a room with me until he was 7 months old then we made the dining room into his bedroom well now that we are going to have my grandma moving in with us soon my moms plan is to put my grandma in his room put him in the room i am in now and make the patio another bedroom i know it seems like a lot of work but we did not intend for my grandma to move in things just come up plus i plan on doing adoption number two so the kids will eventually share a room when  the new baby is about 7 months old. but like the others have said i do not think it will be a big deal with you wait awhile