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TTC after 35
******Weekly Check in Post******
This is the weekly check in post for TTC35. Everyone is welcome to join in.
So, how are you doing? Where are you in your cycle? What are you doing differently this month? Any new treatments or tests?
Question of the week: Let's discuss our hurdles. What part of TTC is a burden for you? Do you know of any remedy for it? (Besides the obvious BFP) Maybe posting it here will spark someone else to give you the advice you are searching for. Feel free to comment back if you have helpful advice for others.
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Re: ******Weekly Check in Post******
I am on a 3 month TTC hiatus. The BFNs and the worry were affecting everything I do, so I put myself in time out.
I am working on getting my body fit and healthy. That is the only thing I can think of that has changed, so I am hoping that by focusing on fitness, losing weight, and treating my body right, I may get that elusive BFP soon.
My hurdle....almost 2 years of TTC. I really thought that having DD would reset my body. Not so much. I have unexplained IF. Tests are clear. WTF? So, now I am my own worst enemy. Stress is not helping, I am sure. I am hoping that my focus on other things such as personal fitness, diet, weight loss, and my photography hobby will help me relax. I will get back on the TTC saddle in January, at the ripe old age of 41. My other hurdle is the worry about my much older spouse. He is 11 years older than me...would not trade him for a second. But I worry about that, even though he wants another baby worse than I do. He love kids, and is a much better father than I could have imagined. Where the heck do you draw the line though? DD was born when he was 49...now we are looking at 53 for the next one. It scares me. That is a big confession from me.
Doing ok, thankfully Busy. Had IUI on Monday around 11 am. I have been crampy since then.
Hoping for BFP for everyone and want to see lots of them starting..... now. Good luck everyone
kristin
have2run ~ I can totally relate to that. MH is 10 years older than I am. So I get it. Hugs!
As for me, I'm 3dpo. We didn't have great timing this month. 2 and 3 days pre-ovulation. Its still OK, but not excellent. I O'd late due to stress at work, buying a new home (which we didnt follow through on), and going to school. It's just too much for me right now!
The biggest challenge for us is MH travel schedule. He is rarely home mid week, and some Sundays. This cycle he planned to be home, but then I O'd late. So we missed it. Next cycle it looks like he will be gone when I'm supposed to O but since I was late - I really dont know when AF will come (still 29/30 day cycle or will it extend out so I still have a 10-12 day LP). We are both going through testing right now - I get my d21 testing done on Tuesday. I'm hoping he'll be proactive about the SA but I think he'll need some prodding along since he's not psyched on the idea of it.
I have fallen into a silent depression almost that I am just beginning to recognize. I really think it has been my lack of not working out. I have always been a runner but the past 1 1/2 my DH and I have fallen into some post honeymoon parasite issues (with him from Egypt) and then me and the mc/cp's. I have only done the bare minimum. I have promised myself that starting Sunday I will run and bike everyday no matter what. Not so much for weight loss (although needed) but for mediatation, getting more oxygen in the blood etc. and sanity! Plus it's so nice out : )
Ok girls my BFF had a child who turned one the day her DH turned 50 - They look and act amazing now. It has kept them young : ) They love it! Don't give it one more worry!
I found out my next ER is 11/17. I am trying to remain positive but I may loosing hope for the first time. I turn 43 on 12/12 and I feel like my whole life has prepared me for this moment. I had one ovary removed at 15 and the other has been cranking out eggs faithfully every month for ever! I think it's tired and wants to rest. I remember being 15 and thinking I will never be a mother...maybe I altered my belief system - ?
This is it for me girls. I have told my husband that if IVF #2 doesn't work we are going to DE's. He is resisting but I am forcing the issue.
I really believe that you mother souls not DNA. The hard part about this is that we promised the first person(s) we would tell about the DE is the child (children) if it worked! And I suck at keeping secrets.
Jumping ahead? Have I already given up on #2...what's to say DE would work anyway???
I've just started the 2ww. I'm a little concerned because my cycle just gets longer every month. However, since our insurance doesn't cover any kind of fertility treatment, we have decided that it's not worth it to do the testing at this point. We are waiting until my annual in Feb and if we haven't had a BFP by then I will talk to my dr. about what the problem could be. I know we haven't been trying as long as some women on this board, but I am starting to get very discouraged and frustrated.
The biggest hurdle for me is that we did conceive once and I would be in my 3rd trimester right now if I hadn't lost it at 5weeks. At the time of the m/c my dr said she expected that we wouldn't have any problems because we did conceive right away, but we haven't had another BFP. So the only thought that keeps running through my head is that something's wrong. I would have been due on New Years Day if I hadn't had the m/c and I think that's what my underlying stress level really is the closer we get to that time of the year. I try not to be a downer or talk about it all the time, but since that's most of what's on my mind I end up just not talking to anyone.
Well, maybe this will be the month and I'll be able to deal better.
I'm on day 5 of my first IVF cycle. Things are going really well. My antral follicle count was 34 and I had an ultrasound today where the tech told me they would not expect to see any measurable follies yet and I had 7 measurable and the same size - the RE is thrilled. I'm still worried. Everyday feels like a possible pitfall - report today is good but what if its bad tomorrow. I'm OOP for this and even with the detailed cost I got - it's already costing more. If this doesn't work we'll probably do donor eggs for our second and final try.
I think the hardest part of TTC for me has been the inability to sort of grieve over my miscarriage and move on..I can't move on because I'm always thinking about it. My due date was in June and things got better after that passed but this month is when I found out I was pregnant last year and everything is reminding me of it.
I hope we're all done with this process soon!
Hi everyone,
I am waiting to O here. Should be next week. I am a nurse and work a night shift Tue, so hoping I don't O Wed because I probably won't see dh Tue.
This month I am adding pre-seed and I just bought some Instead cups, I figured "why not". I have also been better at drinking Green Tea daily, as well as taking EPO three times a day. Hoping for some EWCM.
The hardest part - my age. I worry about it a lot.
Best of luck to all!
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
I want to thank all the previous posters for sharing; while it sucks to be in this boat it is comforting indeed to know one is not alone.
I had IUI #3 on Sunday 10/10/10 (wheee!! hopefully an auspicious date). My biggest frustration that I've written about before (and in my signature) is that DH and I have work that keeps us apart (and no, we can't change careers; we are working on the situation but it will be at least another year if not more before we share a household). So we've now got his samples on ice, but our one frozen IUI so far didn't work and when we were able to fly him in last weekend for a change, we did. I'm also frustrated (as I've written about this week) by my RE's timing protocol for IUI's (18 hrs after the trigger shot instead of the 36 hr mark that most RE's seem to use); this Monday as I felt myself ovulating (though Fertility Friend thinks I ovulated the day before) I kept thinking "why didn't I just *insist* on a back-to-back IUI? Why aren't I there right now doing that?" I have promised myself that I will do that next time around, though of course I'm hoping there isn't a next time.
I too had a m/c, last September. We got pregnant literally the first time we tried, the day after our wedding or the first couple of days of our honeymoon. I couldn't believe--and still can't--how easy it was. And I'm so frustrated that not only did I have a m/c, but then I got seriously ill and so we had 6 months in which we couldn't try at all, on top of the 3 months before I was diagnosed when we did try but it didn't (and would never) have worked. Anyway, the fact that it's now over a year since I was last pregnant is also upsetting.
So what am I doing about it all? I'm doing my work and doing a lot of yoga and trying to enjoy the fall. I haven't been running since I started IUIs in August and am really wanting to get back to it but am just a little too nervous about it right now. Oh, and I think I'm going to go get a massage (free with my re-signing with my gym) and a manicure/pedicure tomorrow!
Good luck to all of us. I check this board something like 5 times a day and even when I don't respond to people's postings, I'm with you in spirit!
I am waiting to O. Based on past cycles my little eggie should be making an appearance this weekend or Monday, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was late this month. I just got back from a whirlwind 10 day business trip to Europe and my body is all messed up. I also got off of my usual green tea/EPO regimen while I was away so I'm not expecting much EWCM this month.
The good thing is that I have my first RE appt. Monday morning. I'm looking forward to getting some tests done so that I know what's going on in my girly parts.
My biggest frustration is the unknown aspect of TTC. I am a big planner, I'm not one for spontaneity and just want to know when I'm going to have a baby already.
TTC #1 since 4/10, Dx: MFI IVF planned for April/May
Hi Ladies! First I want to thank all of you for being so kind and supporting to EVERYONE, including all of us newbies!
I am FINALLY on CD1 today!
I took 50mg of Clomid with my last cycle and have never had a cycle last this long, 43 days! And I did not ovulate either, which really frustrated me! Needless to say, I think my first experience with Clomid will also be my last.
My TTC burden is knowing how easy it was for me to get pg with my last marriage (I have 4 boys) and now that I'm remarried to the most AMAZING man ever who has no biological children, I'm struggling with TTC and guilt. I had an ectopic in March 2010 and DH checks out fine. DH says if it happens, it happens but doesn't want to take money away from our boys we're raising in an attempt to become pg. I LOVE HIM!
So that's where I'm at, no more Clomid or further testing, just relying on God and His plan for us.
Hi everyone. We finally finished our fertility testing this week. My ultrasound and blood work are all fine, so we're waiting for the results of the HSG and SA we did on Wednesday. DH tried to complain about the SA, but I described in detail what an HSG was and he quickly stopped complaining and did his part. It was helpful that he was able to go into the HSG with me and held my hand - it really hurt! Fingers crossed that everything checks out with these last 2 tests. The RE has no idea why my cycles are 60+ days long. We're waiting on these last results to discuss options. In the meantime, our plan is to go at it like bunnies this cycle. DH is very happy with this plan.
The biggest hurdle has been the inability to plan. I'm a planner by nature and I'd just like to know when it will happen. I am a naturally optimistic person too, so each BFN is hard for me. I've learned not to expect anything. I think I'll be able to relax once we get our test results back and I know what our next step is. Soooooo impatient right now.
Good luck to everyone! Let's hope we all get BFPs for our early Christmas gifts!
Hello All: Currently on day 5....actually feeling ok today. Since having SISonogram a couple weeks ago I've been having lots of pain esp. this cycle....it must be that nasty fibroid nobody noticed in the last 2 yrs. The saline must have agitated it! So now I'm just waiting, and waiting for the surgery to be scheduled.
I think my major hurdles are everything about waiting and how the "system" works or doesn't work. Really I'm frustrated with a capital F! Every day I look at that calendar and see the 2011 in the distance and my 41st b-day. I never really thought that I'd be here, in this TTC space. This is a daily burden that I only tell the DH part of because He does not want me to be sad. Unfortunately, sad is an understatement.
Every month I just keep telling myself it will work out the way it is supposed to....I just pray that it is the way "I" want.
5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
Fibroid removal Nov2010
IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty
blea ... cd30 ... which is long for me, but i'm pretty sure i didn't O this month, so i'm not going poas or get myself all worked up unless i go past 35 days.
one of my close friends announced that she is pg with # 3 today ... that was a bummer. i'm happy for her, and she was really sensitive to me ... but still.
It is really impressive to see all of the women on here who are keeping up the fight to become pregnant. Fight may be the wrong word; challenge perhaps. But for me right now it does feel like a fight. I am nearing end of 2ww, day 31 but I O'd late. I feel AF coming, but I found out that the PMS is caused by progesterone, which is part of the process of preparing your ute for embryo. So I am not taking sore breasts and back as definite sign of AF.
This month marks 1 year of TTC and we just found out hubby has low sperm and motility. Not sure how low. He goes to a Urologist next week, not sure what they will do. My HSG is clear. I am thinking we will insist on seeing RE come January.
Hope to hear of BFP's from you all!
Hi ladies. Yep, I'm waiting to O, too. My period lasts seven days - eternal and heavy - so I'm just getting back into the swing with DH!
The challenge right now is that FOUR of the moms in my mommy group are KU. You read that right. And two of them are in their twenties, ten years younger than I am. The other two are in their early thirties having their third and fourth children. It is kind of weird ttc with all these bfps all over the place! They're really sweet and supportive but sometimes their loving concern makes it harder for me to just relax and just be chill about things, you know? But I'm glad to have them with me - I'll need them no matter what goes on.
The remedy? Well, just not making comparisons, just letting what happens happen. Uh, is that called maturity? It comes and goes - some days easier than others!