"It's grandfather to you"

Aimlc1281

FIL insists on having DS call him grandfather.  I absolutely cannot stand the idea and think it sounds snotty.  Last night when DS "said" hi grandpa, he actually had the nerve to say "it's grandfather to you."  WWYD? 

shawnsweetie

Yikes, I have no idea what to do.. but can I just say I that I find that really really strange!?!

KristenBtobe

Grandfather is old fashioned. We let the grandparents pick the name they wanted, but if the kids want to call them something other than their preferred name I'm certain they wouldn't correct them!

My cousin calls my grandma "Eleanor." always has.

Lucky_N_Love

wow I do think it is strange that he would be so rude about it. I mean whatever he wants to be called who cares you really can't do anything about it.  But I don't think he needed to be mean about it.

Before DD was even born I asked my parents what they wanted to be called since I called my grandparents different things. They settled on Grandma and Pappy. That is what we call them but who knows what DD will end up calling them once she can talk. Apparently when I was really little I called my Grandma Mon-ock. Yeah who  knows..

shawnsweetie

My kids currently refer to their grandparents by their dogs name.

So Mamaw and Papaw Toby and Mamaw and Papaw Marley...LOL

Aimlc1281

The weird thing is that FIL has never really said what he wants to be called.  He's typically a pretty laid back, casual guy so we thought he was joking when word passed through the grapevine that he wanted to be called grandfather.  It just seems so stuffy to me.

kel716

Ummm... Wow. IMHO I would tell him once your son gets the talking thing down, you'll work on him saying it correctly. In the meantime, I'd respect his wishes and refer to him by "grandfather" to your son... And probably chuckle on the inside when your son tries to say it himself. There's no sense in making a fuss about it.. Even if I agree with you.

jerseygirl81

I agree, I think it sounds stuffy. I also agree with the posters who said that kids will choose their own names. My mom insists that she doesn't want to be "grammie," but that's what Charlie calls her no matter what we tell him.

mrs.george2be04

First of all, the kid is 11 months old.  I think "Grandfather" needs to cut him a break.  Second, my dad swore he was going to be "Grandpa" to Logan.  Um yeah, he's Papaw or Papps.  He loves it though.  As far as what to tell FIL I'm not sure.  I mean, you can try and reinforce "grandfather" to your DS, but that doesn't mean it will stick.  Good luck, that's a tough one!

buckeyethor

shawnsweetie:

My kids currently refer to their grandparents by their dogs name.

So Mamaw and Papaw Toby and Mamaw and Papaw Marley...LOL

we have grandma and grandpa zoo.. they have 3 dogs and a cat.

Superchicy

It does sound stuffy, but I guess call him "grandfather" and let your LO decide what he's going to call him along the way.  He'll have to understand though that you LO may or may not call him that.  FWIW my dad is "Da" (sounds like "saw") to my nephew.  No idea where it came from.

ryry1977

I would just refer to him as grandpa whenever you can, DS is going to call him what he wants to call him anyway.  You can just kindof reinforce the grandpa by using it! 

Moesten

I would respect your FIL's wishes and refer to him as Grandfather. Your LO will, of course, mispronounce it and a nickname will naturally form unless your FIL continues to push the "grandfather" until your DS gets older and pronounces it correctly. Hopefully he'll loosen up by then and let LO call him something else. But if not, I think you ought to respect his wishes even if it is stuffy and old fashioned.

sprads

My first thought was - wow, that is a mouthful for a little one. My parents started as mawmaw and pawpaw and now they are grandma and grandpa. My ILs have always been poppy and grammy because that is how they signed the congrats on the birth of your daughter card....LOL.

Hey, start calling him granfather and see aht happens but if he rudely correctly my child, I would be pissed and probably would say - hey, we're working on that but cut him some slack, he isn't even 1 yet. That way you can communicate that you are respecting his wishes but he needs to give the kid a break too.

bgsugrad

My parents/in-laws never really minded what they are called. LOL, however, my mom used to always said she would hate if her grandchildren called her "Mee-maw or Mam-maw"  And when DD started talking she called her "mam-maw"!!!!!! HAHAHAHAHA...of coarse then my mom thought it sounded cute coming from DD. :-)