nay sayer ideas?

DeAnna&DavidRyder

So I'm slightly scared to let my friends know we're planning on CDing...

I'm the last one in my group to have kids so the rest really think I want ALL of their advice. 

I'm sure they'll have something negative to say about CDing. What's something I could say that is Pro CD, not defensive/mean. But basically politely getting my point across that their opinions aren't going to change my mind?

I basically didn't react when they went off on me about not getting an epidural. Mostly because I was SHOCKED that they weren't being supportive.

I'd really like to say something intelligent this time haha. 

Oh and I know some people are going to say, why don't you just not bring it up? That's a great plan, and what I've done so far. However as soon as they look at my registry and see it consists of mostly CDs I have a feeling it'll be out haha. 

monkeyqueen

Just say that you are trying to cut costs in some areas, so that you can put extra money in your child's education savings.....  

uluvfranke

I just laugh and say "you wont think its so stupid when you see how much I save while you keep spending"

People need to mind their own some times. It is so annoying. I have alot of friends who act like I am crazy.. but mostly because people who think about cloth diapers assume they are all the old flats that you wrap up and safety pin on and have leaks everywhere and poo swishing in the toilet.... Most of the people when I explain how easy it is now they finally get it. Just try asking them what they actually know about cd'ing

wingedbride

I just ignore it. There is no point to getting into a pissing contest.

And now, they have eaten their words.

roundtheworldgirl

wingedbride:

I just ignore it. There is no point to getting into a pissing contest.

And now, they have eaten their words.

This.  When people told me they bet I wouldn't stick with it, I just smiled and said "I guess we'll see!"  Well, it's been a year.  We've all seen

NanaDi

Since you're the last in your social group to have a baby, you can point out that lots of things have changed recently in people's commitment to the environment. Your decision, in part, will be a contribution you can personally make to slow down the billions of dirty diapers that go into landfills each year. You can also point out the huge monetary savings and that CD'd babies have fewer rashes. Frankly, it's nobody's business but your own how you clothe your baby.

DeAnna&DavidRyder

roundtheworldgirl:

wingedbride:

I just ignore it. There is no point to getting into a pissing contest.

And now, they have eaten their words.

This.  When people told me they bet I wouldn't stick with it, I just smiled and said "I guess we'll see!"  Well, it's been a year.  We've all seen

I like this, and its what i've been doing with things like. having a med free birth, and some other things. and i'd just like to say something for once haha. 

haha "you wont think its stupif when i'm saving" is really funny. thanks ladies.

maramarrie

In my experience, most nay-sayers are put off by cloth because of the history of cloth. Once they see how far it's come since our mother's used them they are wowed by modern cloth. They might still think it's a lot of work or whatever, but they are usually more in awe of what cloth diapers are like now. I have had a few people ask "what makes you want to use cloth?" or some other similar questions and I just explain the truth...which for me is just that I wanted to. It's added benefits are that it's better for baby skin, better for the landfill in town, and cost effective for multiple kids. I just share these facts and I know people still have their opinions, but they know by my personality that they aren't going to influence me...more that I would try to influence them...haha.

eitaknna9

Just as I don't question my friends or family using disposables, I expect the same. However, I know it does not always work out that way and someone is going to say something at some point in time. I will just tell them that I want to save money, reduce the amount of waste my family produces, and that CD'ing is not what it used to be. It's quite easy, and in fact, is pretty fun (not to mention quite fashionable) to CD a baby these days!

UTKD

roundtheworldgirl:

wingedbride:

I just ignore it. There is no point to getting into a pissing contest.

And now, they have eaten their words.

This.  When people told me they bet I wouldn't stick with it, I just smiled and said "I guess we'll see!"  Well, it's been a year.  We've all seen

This is what we did.  We used CDs the minute we got home from the hospital, and we've been using them for almost 6 months.  I make it a point to *casually* show off my baby's cute CDs whenever I'm around the naysayers.

The naysayers now are saying "oh, just you wait until she starts solids...."  Good grief, people, does it ever stop?  Why do you even care what I put on my baby's bum?     

connelkr

I just tell people (or show people) how cute they are.

mooeta

I'd tell them that you've researched it and decided that the environmental and health benefits made you decide to try cloth.  While you know that it will be more work you're going to give it your best, just like anything being a mom trying your best is all you can really do.  Besides you're likely going to have to wash poopy stuff anyways as it'll get on something eventually you might as well be a pro at it from the start.

StephanieDM

roundtheworldgirl:

wingedbride:

I just ignore it. There is no point to getting into a pissing contest.

And now, they have eaten their words.

This.  When people told me they bet I wouldn't stick with it, I just smiled and said "I guess we'll see!"  Well, it's been a year.  We've all seen

Yep. This exactly!!

I would tell people "well we decided we'd like to CD because its kinder to the environment and to LO's bum" to which, of course, we'd get the typical "but all that laundry" or "what a pain in the..." or "omg! poop in your washer!" etc, etc.  so I would smile and say "we're going to try...we'll see"

Well, its been 4 months and I couldn't be more in love with CDing.   

dee1369

My parents are offering to help me buy disposables like it's a huge deal to them if I use cloth.

I don't think they realize that there is more to it than the cost savings (although that was my initial attraction). 

I guess I'll be doing some educating between now and February.

Mouseygail

I usually tried to explain to people about how cloth diapers have come a long way and it won't be much extra work for me and the environmental and financial benefits make it worth it for my family.

astroMom

Unless they want to know why, I wouldn't go into the environment, etc. with them.  I think that can sometimes work for older folks, especially telling them about how easy it is now.

However, most other mommies...they get defensive if you dare think something is "better" than what they did...even if you don't criticize them but are responding to their comments!  So, I'd just have some comments ready for *specific* critiques and questions, but otherwise, for general naysayers just say "this is what is right for our family, and we'll see how we like it..."

joolz425

haven't had any nay sayers but my plan is to say "i'm cheap!" and laugh it off and if they press on i'll say "do you want to buy us few boxes of diapers? she goes through about one box a week and it's about 30 dollars a box. we'd appreciate it!"