Anyone know how to respond to a mother in law throwing a shower across the country that my husband and I can't attend? Is this normal? I feel like people will think we are just asking for gifts but it isn't our idea!! We tried to talk her into waiting until we come out with the baby at 4-6 months old to see their family. Suggestions please!
Re: MIL hosting shower without me?
Ew, make that HUGELY awkward. All you can really do is decline and hope she comes to her senses.
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Ick. Totally weird and bordering on tacky. I'd push your idea of a meet the baby party later on...
Good luck.
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Oh man. This reminds me of when my MIL brought up the idea of having her own 'Grandma Shower' when I was pg with my first. I remember lighting up the message boards with that one! She didn't, which is a good thing and I think she has chilled out a bit now
I too would really say that it is better for you to just wait and have a meet the baby party. Would she sit there and open the gifts? I cannot see the attendees thinking that is really right. And the fact that you are going out there- it makes it strange.
Ive actually been to 2 showers like this. The recent one I went too, my cousin, lives in TN in the Air Force. Her mom threw a shower and we all brought presents unwrapped, and then wrapped them there. We video taped the whole thing and sent her the tape with the presents.
Was it weird? Yea. It was definitely different. But we have a lot of family here, and she doesn't have as many people in TN. She had a real shower there too with the family she does have, but this way, we all got to be in on it, too. IDK. I'm not totally against the idea. But it is definitely different.
Baby #4; 7/7/2018
My aunt did this for my wedding shower. I was not planning on having a shower at all initially because we were not planning on inviting that many people. Then we ended up inviting all the aunts/uncles/cousins, etc.
I was on a business trip and my mom calls me to say that my aunt is having a shower for me the next week, and could I just call in on the phone and talk to everyone?? I'm like, "wha?" There was no way I could go home for it because I had stuff at work that I could not miss (not to mention buying a last minute plane ticket, no idea how much that would have cost.) I asked her if she could have it some other time and I could go home for it, and she said that she already sent out the invitations.
So we Skyped it. It was SO FUNNY. Everyone at the shower was having a grand old time without me... they had made a cake (that they held up so I could see on Skype), and they had all this food. There was a lively discussion about how to do the gifts... first each person was going to open the present they brought, and then they decided that there was no surprise factor in that, so they traded gifts and each person open someone else's gift in front of the camera.
It was absolutely hilarious, and they all had a great time. I did, too, but I missed out on all the food.