is it normal? Tantrum related

JenRose05

Is it normal for Ben to throw a massive temper tantrum if we stop him from doing stuff, no matter if he's been at it for 5 minutes or 2 hours? This is happening EVERY single night for us. If he plays with playdoh, he plays for hours on end and its time for bed, when we put it up he screams and flails and cries for.ev.er. Same with being outside, helping cook, playing in the sink etc... this has been happening for a long time now and its wearing us a little thin. Tonight it was playing outside, he got up from nap around 4:30 and played outside until 6 while Chris was building a fence. It was time for dinner so we pulled him inside and he cried for 45 minutes on the floor...Chris finally calmed him down and when I told him to wash the dirt off his hands it started all over again.

Urg- posted this before I was done. Anyway its behavior like this paired with Bens delays that make me wonder if theres something more going on. I'm probably being paranoid but the thought comes to mind a lot

Jscaggs

Maybe he's just acting out b/c of the new baby? Lately O has been throwing temper tantrums and it is over a specific toy I won't let her play with it for a day or two.  I'm sure it's just a kid being a kid, if what you are worried about is what I'm thinking you are worried about I'm sure there would be other signs.  For reassurance sake you could always just check with the pedi, if nothing else they may have recommendations on how to handle the tantrum behavior.  

Good luck! 

kel716

45 minutes seems like a long time, but I seem to remember my sister doing something similar at about the same age as Ben.  My parents used to tell us "don't disturb the baby."   All. the. time.  I mean, I can even hear it in my mind as I'm typing this. 

Now, I do believe that my sister may have a mild learning disability due to a lot of struggles she had in school and my education background, but it's undiagnosed.  I would not fret it too much though- my sister is now a well adjusted, successful adult.  And she's also the sweetest person I know.  Seriously.. my IL's always ask me if she has a mean bone in her body.  (she does- we used to fight like no tomorrow, but you'd never know it now) 

I'd still trust your mama gut and mention this as you're going through your future evals.  See if there is a connection... and hopefully moesten can chime in with her expertise.  HTH

JenRose05

id attribute this to the new baby but hes been doing this since abt 20 months old

warriormomerin

DD was my tantrum thrower. From around age 2 1/2 to 4. I think a lot of it had to do with DS being born. She didn't have them quite as often as Ben is, but they would last for well over an hour sometimes. The only way I can describe it is that she was just gone.

You could look into her eyes during the middle of a tantrum and she was completely blank. Once the rage took over she became a different child and there was no reasoning with her. She would always be very contrite after wards, but we were all pretty miserable. It took a while, but she eventually outgrew it.

JenRose05

I might bring it up to the pedi next time. As he gets older it worries me more and more. He seems completely normal most of the time but sometimes he just zones out. Like when he helps Chris cook, which he MUST do every day or theres hell to pay. We will tell him he can't touch certain stuff because its hot or its raw, instead of getting upset and vocal, he just blocks us out and acts if we arent even in the room. He continues to go about whatever bad thing he's not supposed to be doing with a completely neutral look on his face. Most kids would make some sort of objection. Not that he does this every time but it seems off to me. Maybe I'm thinking about this more since his current evaluation, who knows. 

LoriZ

DD is a master at tantrums and has them multiple times most days, but they don't last more than a few minutes.  Most of the time it's when she's really tired or overstimulated.  I have no idea what's normal for this age, though.

Sorry, I guess I'm not much help.  I do want to tell you that you should be so proud of yourself for being so observant and proactive.  Ben is super lucky to have you for his mom!

Brougham7-15-06

DS will throw tantrums when he can't have his way or if you take something away, but it usually only lasts for a for a minutes.  I think it is more about being a 2 year old though than having a "new" baby in the house because he does great with her.

I am pretty sure I missed something along the line, and i have seen yours posts on FB...but can I ask what is wrong with Ben?  I have gathered that he has some kind of delays...sorry for being nosey