Baby shower vent

MichelleL1118

I'm trying REALLY hard not to let this bother me, and just be thankful that my family (mom, and 2 paternal aunts) is excited enough to throw me a shower.

That said... since we're having a co-ed shower, DH & I made one request: no stupid baby shower games (we OK'ed "gift bingo" but begged them not to do anything like the chocolates in the diapers, smell the baby food, etc).  My dad is in charge of food, so I'm keeping the master RSVP list for guest counts (my mom is technically-inept, and dad is lazy, LOL). I just emailed my aunt to see if anyone had RSVPed since the last update a week ago, and she said that she'd emailed the info to my mom.  So, since I have access to my mom's email (she gave me the password to check for shower-related RSVPs and stuff) I logged in.  And discovered that my aunt is planning on a bunch of stupid games.  And I'm annoyed.  Not just because they're doing it after we asked them not to, but because my aunt's email said "I know M doesn't want this, but oh well" and my mom didn't say anything.

OK, deep breath.  Must get over it.  I'm lucky to have people who want to throw a shower, need to be thankful.  GRRRR.

(oh, and this comes after a fight about the cake, which is another story for another day)

skoogirl

Just because your aunt suggested it to your mom doesn't necessarily mean that it will happen.  I'm throwing a shower for a friend of mine in December and the other girls who are co-hosting it with me keep coming up with more and more lame games to play.  I'm going to pick the one I find the lamest and tell them that's the game I think we should play. Hopefully they'll get the point.

skoogirl

Oooo, but we are making her open the gifts.  I hate showers where the guest of honor doesn't open the gifts, especially baby showers.  Everyone likes to see what they got.  The guest of honor will not be happy, but it's what needs to be done.  So, in the end, not exactly following her wishes either, but for the greater good

Laruen

I don't get why people think that you have to play to stupid games at baby showers. MIL didn't understand why I was being so picky. I am happy that my mom is planning my shower and understand that I don't like playing the game.

We are having a Halloween themed shower/ house warming party and I told my mom that I wanted have cocktails for the guest that could drink. Just because I can't doesn't mean that they should be able to have a drink.

 Good luck with everything. I hope that your mom stands up for what you and your DH want.

stbmittleman

That sucks that your aunt is not respecting your requests, but with that said, I think you should just smile when the games start and get through it. Like you said, they are kind enough to be throwing you a shower and this may just be something they are excited about. My MIL is throwing me a shower and she told me she had 20 games picked out. Yes, I said 20. I kindly told her I didn't think people would want to play for than one or two games, but left it at that. I'm a major control freak, but I also recognize that my MIL is super beyond excited about being a grandma and planning this shower, so when she's asked my opinion a few times, I've told her whatever she comes up with will be wonderful. She's happy and I'm not stressing over every detail of my shower by staying out of the planning. 

Hopefully though, your mom will stand up for you and respect your requests.

ildali

omg if i was the host or organizer and the guest of honor told me not to have games i would be MORE than happy to follow her wishes, it is a PAIN in the you know where to get all of that together, buying supplies, what games seem more fun, which ones you think more people would like to play, how to motivate the guest to join the fun, prizes etc ok you get the point so yeah you might find it annoying but i think you should just smile and go with the flow, let them stress and worry about it if you or your mom are not able to get your aunt to "follow the rules" you might find the games entertaining to watch