OMG! re: Penile Adhesion

jmrussell03

I just finished DS's bath and pulled the extra skin down like I always do, and it tore!!! I could not believe it. Apparently, what I thought was normal was not and his foreskin had completely readhered around his penis. I pull the skin down everytime. I don't know how this happened. I always thought maybe it didn't look right but my pedi said it was fine. I kept meaning to ask another boy mama but never did. I am guessing being in the pool for swimming today and then taking a bath made it extra soft allowing me to detach it. DS screamed. I cried. DH swore. I put some neosporin with pain relief on it for now and I am going to go pick up some vaseline tomorrow. Poor baby has been through hell the last 2 days.

grapeape73

I just cried out and I don't have a penis.  Poor baby!  Ouch.  I hope he heals quickly.

cobabymama

jmrussell03:

I just finished DS's bath and pulled the extra skin down like I always do, and it tore!!! I could not believe it. Apparently, what I thought was normal was not and his foreskin had completely readhered around his penis. I pull the skin down everytime. I don't know how this happened. I always thought maybe it didn't look right but my pedi said it was fine. I kept meaning to ask another boy mama but never did. I am guessing being in the pool for swimming today and then taking a bath made it extra soft allowing me to detach it. DS screamed. I cried. DH swore. I put some neosporin with pain relief on it for now and I am going to go pick up some vaseline tomorrow. Poor baby has been through hell the last 2 days.

No advice (DS is uncut) poory little guy though

Also the above made me chuckle a bit, I could see it all playing out and it would most likely be exactly how DH and I would react too!

 

ablou

Bless his little heart (and weiner!)!  Hugs and kisses to your little man!

MSUMamaof2

Keep greasing him up, JM--at least once a day for the forseeable future. The neosporin will help tonight, but be aware that his adhesion may scab up like a new circ. Just keep an eye on it until he's potty trained (that's what our pedi told us). Eli had two different adhesions--not fun stuff. He's especially prone to them because he has a "hiding" penis, meaning that his fat pocket pushes the foreskin back up onto his shaft. I have to pull the skin back at every diaper change just to expose the shaft and head. Poor kid.

MSUMamaof2

Oh, and watch for smegma getting caught in that adhesion. That's pretty common!

kimberly3230

Starannice, what the pedi means by "he'll grow out of it" is when he gets older and he starts developing hormones, it will come apart on it's own without pain. That is why when they see it in the office, if it's not causing problems they will leave it. If you/they rip it apart it's likely to reattach anyway, so most times they'll just leave it to fix itself when they go through puberty.

JinglesChic

I'm so sorry! We went to the pedi today for DS's 10 month well visit and his penis reattached as well. This is the second time that this happened to us, and we were pretty faitful in pulling down the skin.

Honest question, because I'm questioning this myself. If you have another DS, would you opt to circ again? I'm like 75% no, 25% yes I would. I love to hear opinions from others who went through the same thing that I did. 

jmrussell03

Now that I have calmed down a bit, I am sorta glad it happened. This is way better than him having problems 5 years down the line or finding out he needed to be recirc'd in a couple months. Or, maybe he will be talking to a pyschatrist in 20 years... I kid, I kid. Thanks ladies!

jmrussell03

Can't quote, on my phone... MSU, wow. Thanks for the advice. No one tells you this stuff. Star, I wonder if that is why my pedi wasn't concerned. I hope you don't have any accidents! Jingles, I am yes. I think uncircs are at more risk for problems later. I will take the extra work now. But, I don't really care either way.

Luv-a-Bug

Our pedi had to pull J's apart last time I was there... Poor kid.

Now I'm always freaking out that part of it doesn't look "normal" when I'm pulling it back...

 Damn it, who knew that penises were so complicated??!

ABColeslaw

Ok wait, Asher is circ'd.  I have no idea what you guys are talking about.  Am I supposed to be pulling skin down or is that only if there is a problem? 

Hip2Bsquare

Hollysmoffett:

Ok wait, Asher is circ'd.  I have no idea what you guys are talking about.  Am I supposed to be pulling skin down or is that only if there is a problem? 

I am so glad you asked this...even though I have a daughter. I was really confused because I thought you weren't supposed to be doing anything to the penis circ or uncirc when they are little babies. It seems like this happens a lot. There is a few posters on this thread alone plus a few people I know IRL that it has happened to their baby boys.

PlainandTall

It's confusing because the proper care for the intact boys is to leave it alone and not pull anything back until they can do it themselves (may be many years before a boy is retractable) and the care for circumcised boys is to pull it back and wash/wipe carefully at diaper changes... maybe even applying a barrier ointment if needed.

It's confusing because people often circumcise because they don't want to do a lot of difficult penis hygiene and they think circumcision will avoid that- and the truth is circumcision requires MORE careful effort and deals with more messy stuff in diapers that the smooth natural penis does.  Also many people do not know that even after their baby has been circumcised they may have a lot of bunchy skin and the skin may partly or even completley cover the glans. Go figure.

So what's up with the adhesions and why the difference? When babies are born- there is a membrane between the inner foreskin surface and the glans.  That layer both adheres AND seperates.  It keeps the skin seperated until the time when the boy's maturity and hormones  sustain the structures independantly.  So that is why they say to not forcefully retract the foreskin of an intact baby- it would tear that membrane (the synechea) and make the opposite surfaces raw- which might heal together as a truely stubborn adhesion when those surfaces are allowed to go back together again. 

Well- what's the first step of a circumcision?  Tearing apart all the natural adhesion of that membrane.  Now it's gone.  Any skin coming in contact with the glans now- may have a tendency to grow adhered to the surface.

So, basicly the intact baby's penis is in the process of dissolving the bonding membrane... and the circumcised penis is in the process of developing adhesions after the surfaces were forced apart before the body was ready.

https://www.louisvillemojo.com/blogs/Louisville_blogs/84368/What_s_worse_than_one_bleeding_penis__Two_of_them_