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Tell me the best part of having multiples
When I tell people I am expecting twins, I hear about how tired I am going to be, how huge I am going to get, how many diapers I am going to go through...etc...
So I have a little poll for you: What is the best part of having multiples or being pregnant with them?
Even though I'm still in my first tri, the best part for me right now is being able to watch my belly grow. Makes me feel like everything is going well in there. If it was only one baby, I probably wouldn't have the slightest bump yet.
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Re: Tell me the best part of having multiples
a prenancy that encourages you to gain a lot of weight
the only time in most of our lives that we'll be told to eat a LOT and gain weight fast 
a nice big belly- i loved mine - even when uncomfortable- i just loved it.
2 babies laying side by side = cutest thing ever.
twice the love... twice the smiles... twice the snuggles
babies making each other laugh is the best thing ever.
for me the benefits far outweigh the bad.... i love having twins- but know it's not for everone.
Well I have nothing good about the pregnancy part. Most people seem to have better multiple pregnancies than I did though.
I think my absolute favorite thing about having twins is that they have always had each other, and share a special bond that normal siblings don't. They comfort each other, they play together, they have their own little language... it's amazing. Yes, they fight often. All siblings do. But even though they fight, they are still each other's favorite person I think. If one wakes up crying in the night, the other one wakes up and tries to talk to the one who is upset to comfort them. If one falls down and gets hurt, the other one runs over to give them a hug... even if they're the one the pushed them down.
If Riley is upset because she ate all her noodles and doesn't have any more on her plate, Nathan will give her some of his. If Nathan can't figure out how to open his play toolbox, Riley will do it for him, or beat it on the ground until either it opens or I come help. LOL
Double everything AND now that they recognise each other, watching them interract.
I hate those people, seriously. I know hate is such a strong word, but its BEYOND rude of people to say that. The funny things is though, when I was pregnant all I got was pity, but now I can't even walk down the street without being stopped by admirers. Strangers stop, stare, and smile when we are out - its so much fun. Sometimes people dont even acknowledge DH and I, they just say "hey look, twins" and keep on walking. It's so funny. But we love how they make strangers smile. :-)
But ya, having multiples is AMAZING. We are 4.5 mons in and just love them to pieces. They are starting to smile and laugh at each other and it just totally melts my heart when they grab each others hand.
DH and I still sometimes just sit back and say "wow, we have TWO babies". haha. We still can't believe it and just feel so lucky that we have two beautiful babies. :-)
I could go on and on. But just wait, its such a blessing. :-)
For me the best part is seeing them crack each other up, and even though they are only 10 months they already take up for each other. I love watching them waller all over each other and just giggle even though they are sitting on each others faces, and pulling hair, etc. I wish that would last for forever!
Like a PP said the first couple of weeks, (and for me months) are rough, but if you can make it through that first little bit you will be great!
I love that you did this poll! I too am so sick of the negative comments. it is driving me crazy. It is hard enough that this pregnancy has been rough from the start.
I am excited and nervous of course but what can you do? i just take one day at a time and hope for 2 healthy babies.
I don't know that I could come up with anything great about a multiple pregnancy... mine didn't go very well. I guess maybe just feeling them both kick and marveling at the fact that I was growing more than one person at a time... I felt kind of special (when I wasn't feeling like a beached whale)
As for having them - the first few months were tough but the older the get the more I couldn't possibly imagine having it any other way. I love that they have always had a best friend and someone to play with. I love that they hold hands and give each other kisses. I love that my family is so full of love (and chaos) right from the get-go.
For me, this little video clip is worth a thousand words in answering that question.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ph6yjeqmCA
During my pregnancy, the best part was seeing two babies on the u/s, and when they started kicking - that was awesome.
Since they've been here, honestly just seeing them change and grow is the best - they're smiling at each other now, grabbing for each other's toys, and really noticing each other. I CAN'T wait until they start playing together.
Yeah, it's a lot of work, feeding, diapers, but it is SO much better than I ever imagined it. We get to experience something that a lot of people don't get to see/do...
Good luck and a healthy pregnancy for you!!
OKay this is the cutest siggy picture I've seen!
OP- Two babies together is absolutely more magical and amazing than one. I always look at my singleton with awe, I can't believe she is mine, but when I look at the twins together, my heart seems to gasp with surprise that that really happened. Two toddlers together is hilarious. They are as opposite as night and day but always look out for eachother. It may not always be that way, and they go through spells of horrible fighting, but they always seek eachother out. Having twins gives you strength you didn't know you had.
I think my favorite part of pregnancy was watching my belly move in ways I don't think it could have moved with just one. Getting to know each of their individual movements, and starting to learn just inklings of who they were going to be.
Now, my favorite part is watching them grow into two unique individuals at the same time. Milestones are rarely hit together, and each of them has their own strengths and interests. Katherine is my mover and shaker, she was crawling on hands and knees by the time she was 7.5 months actual age. Julianna is more contemplative, she'll study a toy for 30-45 minutes, manipulating it in her hands and examining it. They each excel at something, but are both completely entranced with one another. It really is awesome to sit back at watch.
Watching my boys interact and make each other giggle is seriously the best. And all the love and snuggles and smile....it makes all the tough times totally worth it.
I really needed to see this. I've been having a tough time being pregnant lately. But I am so excited for my u/s on Wednesday. We haven't seen them since about 13 weeks. Something about watching those u/s just makes me overwhelmingly happy, despite all of my fears.
At the 13w u/s we were just amazed at the details we could see. One of the babies had his/her hands out where we could see them, and I just couldn't get over those little hands!
EVERYTHING! I love having twins, I love every messy, sleepless, smiling, crying, adorable second of them! Seeing them grow together, seeing two beautiful little faces every morning, watching them discover each other, the list is endless. I feel like the luckiest mom in the world to have twins and I hope you will feel that way too!
People say the craziest things all the time, from PG and on..you just learn to let it go in one ear....and realize even more how special it is to have twins - not everyone is meant for it!
Good Luck and enjoy all of it!
This exactly! It's really hard right now but I soooo look forward to watching them grow up together.
BFP Nov 09 - c/p Dec 09
BFP Dec 09 - A&J born in August 2010 at 37w, 6d
BFP Sept 11 - ectopic pregnancy/left tube removed
BFP April 12 - E born December 2012 at 39w, 1d
I used to hate people's pessimistic comments about having twins. Sure its hard but anything all of the effort is worth it.
Looking back on the past 9 months, some of the best things I can remember are:
1. Its special and unique to have twins. I remember how proud I was to carry their two car seats around. Heck, Im still proud! You are part of a special mommy group forever.
2. I love watching people hold them at the same time- like both grandparents, my parents, my husband and me. Plus, there is less waiting to hold a baby with two or more
3. Its incredible to watch them interact together. My son laughs at my daughter all the time and she loves to hold his hand. My eyes tear up as I think about it
I agree with PP, the comments drove me nuts, and whenever someone said, "better you then me", or any other rude comment. I would reply, yes I am glad it is me too, and my DH and I have been blessed.
What I love the most is laying them next to each other and seeing them both smile and laugh. I love the double mommy loving. I would not have it any other way, and I Know that there is going to be so much more that I will love! Twins are a blessing.
When we were in the NICU one of the nurses looked at my boys and (talking to them) said "Isn't it great that you already know your best friend? Your best man for your wedding is right here next to you." It brought tears to my eyes then, and still does now. How amazing to go through life with such a close connection.
And while mulitple are less uncommon these days, just remember that being blessed with twins is just that.... a blessing. It's gonna be hard at times, but you'll get to experience things most people never will.
BFP #2 - 12/9/09 After being on bedrest for 10 weeks due to TTTS and hospital bedrest for 4 weeks due to PPROM, my sticky babies are here! Born at 32 weeks!!
Twin pregnancy - you are encouraged to eat, eat, eat! I loved my huge belly and feeling the babies inside. You get extra TLC/ultrasound from doctors and can see your babies all the time! People treat you extra nice (except for those that make rude comments!)
Twin babies (so far) - twice the smiles, someone always ready to cuddle with you, the respect you get from people when you tell them you have twin infants (with minimum outside help)
But my fave part so far? Bedtime, when DH and I each have a baby and we sit in the nursery and rock them to sleep. We call it "family time". I was just saying to dh the other day, what would we do if we only had one? Who would get to hold him?
4 Fresh IVF cycles + 1 FET where embies didn't survive the thaw = 2 perfect little men!
sFET 11/9/11 - Beta 11/18 BFP!
As for the pregnancy part it was always feeling movement, seeing them all the time on the u/s, and generally just enjoying the fact that I was going to have my family FINALLY!
Over the past year my favorites have been seeing them play together, kiss and hug each other, comfort another when they are cying and getting lots of snuggle time.
I am not going to deny that having multiples is hard work it is, and at times it is nerve racking but the rewards by far out weigh the hard work that is requited. I loved it when the three of them found eachother. Parents of singletons get to experience the baby finding his toes, well you get to experience your babies finding each others toes and how confused they get when they think they are putting his or her own toes in his mouth..
the bond the children have, how much they love each other and look after one another. Knowing that they will always have each other no matter what happens and that while they are individuals they are also a multiple which makes them awesome
Anytime they are not screaming or crying at the same time is the best part.
Just recently they will try and hold hands when they are in the car seat. I love turning around and watching them play with each other. And when they laugh together, nothing beats the double belly laugh. And just the fact that they have each other and will always have each others backs.
I couldnt imagine not having twins. While it may be double the work and double the cries, you always have double the smiles, and double the fun.
And to all your newborn moms struggling, it gets TONS better. Especially around the 11-12 week mark. Things really started to make sense and I just started to "get it". Hang in there. I promise.
For me, the most immediate best part was our first day of daycare yesterday. I was a wreck, but I kept telling myself, "at least they have each other, at least they have each other". I made the lady promise not to take them more than 12-18 inches away from each other since that's all the farther then can see.
This is one of my favorite posts ever!
Best thing about twin pregnancy: EAT, EAT, EAT....GAIN, GAIN, GAIN, double the movements
Best thing about raising multiples: watching them interact, double the milestones (everytime one does something the other hasn't I think I get to experience this again in a few days or weeks), looking at them and thinking WOW I carried both of these babies to term (the human body is
AMAZING), being part of this CRAZY group of moms of multiples...I could go on and on!
Also I loved one of the previous post about the built in best friend and the best man at the wedding...almost made me cry!
This...It is the best thing ever I won't change it for the world. Everytime we get out someone always says to me "man your life must be hard having twins." I always respond "with it is the best thing God could have given us", they really aren't that hard.
I love this post!
I think macchiatto's video is awesome and I am sure many of us have similar giggling moments going on in our houses. And they are some of the happiest moments of my life. I seriously cannot get enough of sitting on my floor and having them one at a time or both at the same time tackle/hug/giggle with me.
My boys new favorite thing to do is sit on the little step on our sliding glass door. If one brother gets there first he will yell to the other and point to the step telling him to come over an sit next to him.
And I am still misty eyed over the pp NICU quote about best friends and best man! How sweet!
I also got teary-eyed reading about the pp NICU quote! How incredibly sweet!!
I love, love, LOVED being pregnant with them. It was the most amazing thing ever! Granted I felt like crap the first 3 months, once the worst of the morning sickness was over I seriously felt like a million bucks. I enjoyed every little kick, jab and poke and at my very last appointment, (as huge as I was at 37 weeks) as my OB wrote up my induction paperwork I remember thinking, "NO! I don't want it to be over yet!!!" (We're not sure we're going to have any more...)
I love going out with them, I feel so proud as I lift one carrier into the DSNG then go to the other side of the car and lift the second. I love watching DH beam when we're out with them together and random strangers come up and talk to him. We were at Costco and I was in the return line and he was across the way with the babies, I counted about 7 people that stopped to see the babies and chit chat with DH. He looked so proud
It's been said, but them smiling at each other, holding each others' hands when they nurse, it's all so sweet!
I have been super sensitive ever since the girls were born when anything comes on TV concerning babies, kids, etc. I was watching a back to school commercial (staples maybe?) with parents putting their kids on the bus, and I started to tear up thinking about their first day of school (I know, I know...sappy!). But then I got so happy when I thought that I will be putting both of them on the bus together and they will take care of each other.