Lurkers...

Court1

...really disgust me sometimes.  The posts that are about the hard stuff get so many f'ing looks from the lurkers.

If you're going to read about our pain & sorrow at least have the decency to offer some support.  Or go away. 

mlmtgg

I agree!

CarrieLeigh84

I think I upped the post count a few times. I was trying to reply, but kept having to refresh the screen because it wouldnt let me hit "post"

piedpiper07

i agree completely! I wonder how much of it is refreshing though? surely not all of it, but I know i do go back and see what people have said or read the original post over again.

Court1

CarrieLeigh84:

I think I upped the post count a few times. I was trying to reply, but kept having to refresh the screen because it wouldnt let me hit "post"

Yeah, that's true. I just feel like lurkers are all over our sad posts.  But maybe some of it is us refreshing. 

Gummybear

I will admit I lurk over here. I am about one cycle from being here myself and I care about all of you guys so I read to see how you are doing but I don't want to overstep by bounds by participating yet.

But random lurkers, yeah. It's like they do it to make themselves feel better.

damabo80

Gummybear:

I will admit I lurk over here. I am about one cycle from being here myself and I care about all of you guys so I read to see how you are doing but I don't want to overstep by bounds by participating yet.

But random lurkers, yeah. It's like they do it to make themselves feel better.

Yep, this too.

ksiebert1974

I don't know if this will make you feel better or not but for people like me, I spent over a year here and didn't really post much then, or now.  I just don't post much period.  Not sure why but I guess I just don't feel like it would mean much to someone to say the same thing that 10 or so people before me have said. Maybe I'm wrong...

Anyway, I don't lurk here to point and stare, but because I spent so much time here I honestly am interested to see how some of the women I followed (silently) for so long are doing.  It makes me so happy when I see something go well for one of them.  And even though I may not say much, I have (and continue) to say a prayer for MANY girls on here. 

So try not to get too bothered by it...some people just don't know what to say but that doesn't mean they don't care.  And for those that do come here just to point and stare, eff 'em.  You have much more important things to worry about that right?

vlewis515

I have lurked over here for awhile now to check on and keep up with all of the ladies over here. But I rarely post or offer support because I didn't want to offend anyone with my tickers. So just know that not all lurkers are just looking for drama or just staring, I'm offering silent support. But from now on I will try my best to offer support when I feel it's appropriate.

Aubs13

piedpiper07:

i agree completely! I wonder how much of it is refreshing though? surely not all of it, but I know i do go back and see what people have said or read the original post over again.

I was thinking the same thing.  I sometimes go back if there were replies after mine. 

But I'm with you on the random lurkers.

b2b999

damabo80:

Gummybear:

I will admit I lurk over here. I am about one cycle from being here myself and I care about all of you guys so I read to see how you are doing but I don't want to overstep by bounds by participating yet.

But random lurkers, yeah. It's like they do it to make themselves feel better.

Yep, this too.

Yeah me too.  

Scout05

A-effing-men, Court.

ColindaP

Gummybear:

I will admit I lurk over here. I am about one cycle from being here myself and I care about all of you guys so I read to see how you are doing but I don't want to overstep by bounds by participating yet.

But random lurkers, yeah. It's like they do it to make themselves feel better.

Obviously I can't speak for everyone, no matter how awesome I am, but I, for one, have no problem with you posting here. I get why you feel you want to wait to go balls-out posting up a storm, but I'd be gobsmacked if you (or anyone we "know," really) got any flak for posting a response in support of any of the girls here. 

Court1

Okay, some of you make good points.  But if you're not one of our grads or TTCAL gals, I don't take back what I said.

butterfly843

I agree, I know sometimes I refresh if the site is running slow. But lurkers who are here to be nosy and not offer support really bother me.

Clerk9

<-- OCD thread re-checker.  Not today, but usually.  

JayandTay09

I agree...If you have nothing of substance to add at least post hugs or thoughts or a simple I am sorry...Something...Anything!

AutumnLeavesFall

JayandTay09:

I agree...If you have nothing of substance to add at least post hugs or thoughts or a simple I am sorry...Something...Anything!

This. It's sad to see high post counts on sad posts.

lovesinthehouse

vlewis515:

I have lurked over here for awhile now to check on and keep up with all of the ladies over here. But I rarely post or offer support because I didn't want to offend anyone with my tickers. So just know that not all lurkers are just looking for drama or just staring, I'm offering silent support. But from now on I will try my best to offer support when I feel it's appropriate.

Ditto this.

There's a lot of you here I don't know, but a few that were with me on TTCAL when I was there, so I come here to try and keep up sometimes.

I pray for you girls and have not forgotten about you. 

AGFaso

Court1:

Okay, some of you make good points.  But if you're not one of our grads or TTCAL gals, I don't take back what I said.

bwahahahaa   I'm with ya!